to be getting irrationally ANNOYED with people who feel obliged to tell me what they ate in pregnancy and how it did THEM no harm....

[MrsFC]

Be that runny eggs, blue cheese, peanuts, pate, wine, tuna, folic acid, you get the picture..

It's MY choice. If I decide not to eat these things (or in the case of peanuts even if I do), I really DON'T care what you think. Why do you feel the need to tell me what you did and how it was fine for you.

I don't care about the Government 'infantilising women' (sorry head if you are reading this - I DO love you!), or how you drank a 'bottle of wine when you were seven months pregnant' or how they laugh at us in France and eat eggs and brie.

I honestly don't care. do what you like in your pregnancy and let me do the same.

Phew - thank you for listening. Hormonal much??

(I just read this out to MrFC and he asked hopefully if this was off my chest now & please could I stop ranting to him! )

I remember feeling like this during my first pregnancy. During my second pregnancy, my rage was directed at people who kept reminding me what I shouldn't be eating (I had laxed by then and was having the odd runny egg or strong coffee). Equally as annoying.

IGNORE.

I remember feeling v cross with my Dad for implying I was being 'precious' for not wanting to eat bagged salad. He had not lovingly prepared it, or even provided it (we were at my sisters') but he still mentions it now, 5 years later. He was not in the slightest bit inconvenienced, I did not push it away screaming, take the poison away that will kill my unborn child, etc, so why did it bother him so much? Why does this stuff bother other people to the extent they feel slighted if you won't eat something for the duration of your pregnancy? I just don't get it...

The advice on food etc is there for a reason. It is in accordance with the findings of evidence based research.

You may be fine but there are risks associated with certain things and other women are not so lucky.

Apparently raising your arms above your head too often will wrap the cord around the baby's neck as well.

I'm quite lucky in that I don't like (so don't eat anyway) most of the things that you're told not to eat...the only thing I've missed (especially since it's been so hot) is proper Mr Whippy ice cream .

Plus i've managed to avoid being cornered by the "mum group" in work so the only people I know who have had kids are my mum and MIL.

My mum smoked and drank in all 3 of her pregnancies (this was in the 80's, she said there was even a smoking room in the maternity ward ) so she's pretty laid back about what you should and shouldn't do.

MIL has had 9 kids and says the advice changed every 3 years or so, so you might as well just do what you want, you'll never get it right anyway lol.

When I was pregnant and since having had my baby, and getting all the advice that you seem to get from everyone, I listened politely to everyone but just took the points I agreed with you, IYSWIM, that way no-one was upset and I didn't get as annoyed as I was getting to start with.