To think these women were rude and tell them so

[RunawayWife]

Was in town with DS2 this afternoon and he wanted to get something with his pocket money from the toy shop.
So he is waiting to pay (one person serving and one person being served) when two old cows women come up, look at DS2 who is 9 and go and stand in front of him.
So I say Excuse me but he is waiting to pay" so they move and stand behind him and one turns to the other and starts on about well he was just standing there (um yes standing in the queue line waiting for thew woman in front to be served) don't know why he was just standing there, so I turn and say, he is standing waiting to pay, waiting for the person in front to finish being served, and having good manners unlike you two who were clearly dragged up in a gutter with no manners at all.

I hate people like these two, so because he is 9 and they are old, they think they can push in and then be rude about it.

what shop? this is imperative to know

YANBU

Good for you.

Pair of nobs! Good for you!

We were in the entertainer toy shop.

I have drummed good manners in to both my children and I am fed up of adults behaving in such a rude manner.

The other week one of the mothers who works in the school pushed in front of one of DS2s friends who is autistic when he was queuing for a cake after school and when his mother pointed out he was in the queue she got all up herself, so I reported her to the school.

I am a bitch.

Ha ha well done! ds1 is 6 and always gets treated like that, he's really demoralised by it.

Maybe you are but YANBU, drives me mad too. DSS's hold door for 'grown ups' who just sail on through and dont say thanks. My response is to say very loudly 'you're welcome' but maybe next time I will go for a more direct action!

I get sick of it too...my children are regularly ignored standing in line for things. By the people serving as well as the queue jumpers.
so good for you for saying something

They were rude and you were right to tell them and stand up for your DS - we've encouraged DS to be polite and well mannered but also being autistic he struggles when adults are rude to him - thankfully he doesn't care about holding back politely so when he's holding a door open for adults if they don't acknowledge then he's not beyond saying in a nice loud monotone voice "Mum why didn't that person say thank you when I held the door open, cos thats the rule isn't it Mum? You're supposed to say thank you aren't you, Mum? Mum, Mum, why didn't they say thank you? Mum, Mum"

I worked as a TA in a school for a few terms.

I used to have lunch with the kids (yum). Staff were always pushing infront of the children. Even the teeny ones. Why? I had longer to eat my lunch than the kids did.

The kids know its unfair but are powerless to do anything.

TBH I am quite 'old fashioned' when it comes to respect for adults and politeness etc but some people take the piss.

Lima. I heart your DS

Maybe I should get my boys hoodies, tattoos, buy them some fags and cider and send them out to mug such old ladies?

Please note not all tattooed hoddie waring boys mug old ladies

Lima your DS rocks

I suppose they maybe thought that he was the son of the lady who was getting served so I can see why they stepped infront of him if that was the case. Then they'd have felt the need to justify what they did, hence why they started muttering about how he was just standing there.

They could have asked him.

I don't think there was any need to tell them they had no manners, etc. They went behind him when asked, its not like they refused to move. So I think YABU unreasonable for that, all sounds a bit agressive.

Stripy the lady being served was not the same ethnic race as my son, and secondly I would not have said anything other then he was waiting if they had not thought it was fair game to stand behind hime and moan that he was just standing there, what did they want him to do sing and dance?

It's not just the customers that are rude towards children.

In our village bakers recently I was in a queue - there were two young girls, one about 11, one much younger who were waiting to be served. Woman behind the counter just ignored them and served two other adults first (who made no attempt to mention that the children were already waiting). She then asked me what I wanted - I pointed out that the two girls were waiting and should be served first - she pulled a face and said 'but they're only children'.

The girls did get served next but she was such a grumpy old witch towards them that it has quite put me off the shop.

It's just rude.

I was raised to beleive manners cost nothing and I have taught me children the same.

Manners do cost nothing. I always try to be polite and teach dd to be polite also but some people like those ladies old biddies make that very difficult and make me .

I have much fun when I am out with mum who is in a wheelchair too with rude people.

Thankfully as I may have said before I am a bitch

Hand out sweets to Lima and sugar's child/nephew

Lima my DS has AS, and sometimes I bloody envy the way he has no hesitation about pulling people up for their bad behaviour, while I stand there silently seething!

I am SHOCKED this much by how badly children are treated in shops - by other customers and even more often by the staff! Since when did being under 21 mean you're a vandal/thug/thief/yob/not a customer?

And I haven't even got any DCs! YANBU at all, OP, well done.

Did you really accuse them of being dragged up in a gutter?

yabu to make a fuss about it -- they were just a couple of ditzy old biddies; you made the initial point about it being his turn, they immedately stepped aside, they babbled on about not realising, the gracious thing to do is to ignore their babble and let them wait and stew on their own oversight.

As a child I remember vividly being ignored at a shop counter by the staff when I was waiting patiently, and having to ask my mother to come help me make sure I was served, but I'd have been mortified if she harangued somebody about it.

YANBU and I have done similar as well.

2 old ladies walked in front of dd and I in a queue and I did politely say that we were also waiting and they did move but were actually complaining to each other loudly about us.
DD asked what the ladies were saying so I told her not to worry about it that some people just didn't have the good manners that she did.

I have also had someone walk in front of me in a queue and turn around and say "oh you don't mind do you? I'm in a bot of a hurry you see."
My reply was to smile sweetly and say "of course not as your time is obviously far more important than mine" I did hear her bitching about me after I left the shop and did feel the need to point out she had been incredibly rude in what she had done.

But the thing is, it's kind of NOT a case of BU to say some old biddy is dragged up in a gutter.

We all get the Youth of Today looks, but IME, it's often them that are without manners.

Only last night (I'm 42) I waiting to go into a prom concert, my 4yo and my mum had gone in and were standing to the side of the ticket desk, I got elbowed (slo-mo, but elbowed nonetheless) out of the way through the door by an elderly couple, I was bypassed and shoved to the side by another, when like me (but I was there first) they needed to buy some tickets.

I said loudly, I don't understand, I'm trying to buy tickets here too, but I'm being pushed back time and time again... I don't think I'm invisible... am I?

They let me buy my tickets, but what kind of treatment is that of a 42 year old, let alone a child or teenager etc?