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To think these women were rude and tell them so

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RunawayWife · 17/07/2010 21:43

Was in town with DS2 this afternoon and he wanted to get something with his pocket money from the toy shop.
So he is waiting to pay (one person serving and one person being served) when two old cows women come up, look at DS2 who is 9 and go and stand in front of him.
So I say Excuse me but he is waiting to pay" so they move and stand behind him and one turns to the other and starts on about well he was just standing there (um yes standing in the queue line waiting for thew woman in front to be served) don't know why he was just standing there, so I turn and say, he is standing waiting to pay, waiting for the person in front to finish being served, and having good manners unlike you two who were clearly dragged up in a gutter with no manners at all.

I hate people like these two, so because he is 9 and they are old, they think they can push in and then be rude about it.

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borderslass · 18/07/2010 12:50

I have found that by in large the younger generation are much more polite.The older ones think the world owes them a living my ds[16] has ASD and is brutally honest but only to people he knows He would just stand there if someone pushed in front of him

DetectivePotato · 18/07/2010 13:04

YANBU, well done for pointing out their rude behaviour.

I bloody hate rudeness. It doesn't cost anything to have a few good manners.

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RunawayWife · 18/07/2010 13:17

But they clearly were dragged up in a gutter, I felt it was only fair to acknowledge this when they had gone out of their way to show it to me.

I think old people hate to wait their turn as they fear they may drop dead before getting to the front of the line

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ThatBloke · 18/07/2010 13:17

hehe at some of the stuff on this thread

RW, good for you

OrmRenewed · 18/07/2010 13:19

"unlike you two who were clearly dragged up in a gutter with no manners at all.
"

Lovely

They made a mistake. They didn't refuse to get out of the way. They were moithering about it afterwards because they were embarrassed. You didn't exactly cover yourself in polite glory there....

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RunawayWife · 18/07/2010 13:54

They moved yes, they clearly did not want to.
They then stood there moaning so that DS2 could here, that he was just stood there like an idiot

If I had been in a bad mood I can assure you I would have said worse

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RunawayWife · 18/07/2010 13:55

hear

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AmazingBouncingFerret · 18/07/2010 15:44

I see this sort of thing alot working at Early Learning Centre. I always make a point of serving the child first and if the other customer complains about it I just politely (have no choice to be polite lol) tell them that the child was before them in the queue.

ZZZenAgain · 18/07/2010 15:50

hate this kind of thing, people pushing in front of kids etc

TheFallenMadonna · 18/07/2010 15:51

They were rude. You were rude and aggressive. Blimey. It is not OK to talk to other people like that, even if they have been rude first. You did the standing up for your son when you got them to move.

TotorosOcarina · 18/07/2010 15:53

I genuinly find there are no people ruder than OAP women!

DH is the happiest soul around but he constantly has oldies jumping back in horroro when he says hello/thankyou/ excuse me.

And its always old women who give horrible looks out us when out with our children or on the bus.

juuule · 18/07/2010 16:51

I agree with ormrenewed and also TheFallenMadonna "You were rude and aggressive. Blimey. It is not OK to talk to other people like that, even if they have been rude first."

I agree that people can overlook young children in queues (and not only older people). It's quite right to point out that the child was there first. But it's not okay to get all aggressive over what might have been a simple mistake or thoughtlessness.

fedupofnamechanging · 18/07/2010 17:05

I was in a queue once, with my DS and an old lady actually tried to push him to one side with her walking stick! I did point out to her that the words she was looking for were "excuse me please". I can honestly say that when I've been out shopping, children and teenagers have held open doors for me when I've had the buggy and generally been polite and helpful. The only times I've exerienced rudeness and aggression has been from old people, who should know better. I really do think that some elderly people have a huge sense of entitlement.

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RunawayWife · 18/07/2010 17:59

I was not aggressive in the least thank you very much, and if you think saying to someone they clearly came from the gutter you clearly have had sheltered lives, oh diddums

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RunawayWife · 18/07/2010 18:04

They saw DS2 standing waiting to pay
They walked in front of him
I said he was waiting to pay
They begrudgingly moved
They then stood behind DS2 saying very loudly well he was just standing there like an idiot
That is when I told them quite calmly that they were not only rude but they were clearly raised in the gutter.

If I had been aggressive believe my I would have said much much worse.

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SoupDragon · 18/07/2010 18:08

They were rude, you were equally rude. [shrug]

Cloudbase · 18/07/2010 18:14

Juuule,

They didn't just push in, in front of her son, as though he was of no consequence, they went on to call her son an idiot, while standing right next to him. I think that's incredibly aggressive actually.

hatwoman · 18/07/2010 18:30

argee with orm fallen maddona et al. telling someone they were dragged up in a gutter is aggressive. and responding to the charge that it's aggressive with words to the effect that it's not because when you are being aggressive you would have said worse doesn't sound like a response from someone all that well-versed in ettiquette.

you had the moral high ground, completely and utterly. but you lost it.

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RunawayWife · 18/07/2010 18:47

I was not the one pushing in front of a child.
They were rude, they continued to be rude, I pointed it out to them.

Not really bothered if you think I was rude or aggressive tbh, I suppose I was meant to smile at them let them push in call my son an idiot and that would have made me a better person

Some people on here have truly messed up views of life.

Makes note to tell DS2 everyone is more important then him and he just has to lump rude ignorant people as otherwise he will be slated by the women on mumsnet!!!

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BeerTricksPotter · 18/07/2010 19:00

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ragged · 18/07/2010 19:07

You didn't mention them calling him an "idiot" to his face (or back as it were) in the OP.

I think the whole thing has been blown way out of proportion now. Time to draw line under it and move on.

SoupDragon · 18/07/2010 19:13

"Makes note to tell DS2 everyone is more important then him and he just has to lump rude ignorant people as otherwise he will be slated by the women on mumsnet"

It might be better to teach him that you don't have to be rude and agressive back to people - that is just as gutter born as you think the women were.

ruddynorah · 18/07/2010 19:20

you were rude.

they were muttering about him because they were embarrassed.

they should have just asked him if he was waiting.

you shouldn't have had ago at them. not a good example to your ds really is it?

DaisyFields · 18/07/2010 19:22

Littlemisshissyfit, I had a crappy experience at a prom 2 seasons ago. My boyfriend had taken me for my 21st birthday, in the interval, he was queuing for ice creams while I was getting water. When we met back up in the ice-cream queue, he asked me to take his place while he popped to the loo. The grumpy old farts behind went mad at me, saying how dare I just push in and wouldn't listen as I tried to explain that I had just swapped places with my boyfriend. They made me feel so bad that I ended up letting about 6 of them get served ahead of me, but was so annoyed with myself for giving in. I used to go to a handful of proms every year, but haven't bothered since.

OrmRenewed · 18/07/2010 19:33

All you needed to do was what you did initially. And then leave it. You didn't say they called him an idiot originally. I still think their muttering was because they were embarrassed at having pushed in front of a child when they didn't see him or realise he was waiting.

You didn't say they called him an idiot originally. Even so you were a great deal ruder - but I guess we all draw the line in different places.