To be annoyed at "trampoline" woman at a fete

[springchik]

We went to a fete this afternoon. There was some trampolines which my boys wanted to go on. Anyway as my 2.8 year old was going up the steps to the trampolines he kicked over a slush puppy drink that was on the top step. I apoligised and the woman who had taken my money said that thats all right it was my daughters shes only just bought it and it cost her £1.50. Child looked around 10. She said it very sarcasticly and looked like she was fuming. Anyway ds1 came off first so I took him off and helped with his shoes and a minute later ds2 was called so i turned to dh and said I'd fetch him off he wont come off otherwise you know what he's like. At which point the woman turned to me and said oh yes I know what hes like he knocks over childrens drinks again looking annoyed!

He is 2 and the drink in question was on the top step leading up to the trampolines!

If I'd said 'Oh, goodness, I'm really sorry' and she jumped in with the snotty comment before I'd had chance to offer to replace then I wouldn't offer because it was an accident and there's no need for rudeness.

The drink on a table scenario doesn't really work because you expect drinks to be on a table in a pub. However, if I knocked it over accidentally and the person immediately said 'Oh well done! That cost me £3.00! Look where you're going, fat arse!' Then I definitely wouldn't offer to replace it. I'd feel like I'd been bullied into it.

ok then,

1. op please come back in 7/8 years and tell us all about your perfect ds who NEVER leaves a drink in an unsuitable location. (won't hold my breath!)

2. It is commom courtesy to replace something you break/ spill accident or not.

3. By not offering to replace it you have in effect taught ds that is ok not to worry about other people/ possessions that are in the way - despite his age - he at the mo will be learning by copying behaviours - so if you want him to learn to apologise and care for others things you are going to habe to too iyswim.

YABU not to have offered to replace it but YANBU to think there was no need for quite a snappy response.

I agree, the table scenario doesn't work. If someone had put their drink down on the floor inside the pub I'd have also said "was you trying to cause an accident?"

And no, I would not claim compensation for an accident. I even have the crutches (five years later) to prove it!

Well said Mumbar

If my child's drink gets knocked over after leaving it in a stupid place that was going to get knocked over and could cause someone to slip over I'd tell them that they shouldn't have left it there! I've done that too when my children have had their drinks kicked over because of where they've left it.

OP, YANBU to be annoyed at her rudeness, especially her second comment. I probably would have offered to replace it, although with the first sarky comment my alter ego would have said "Oh, in that case I won't bother replacing it then."

well of course you'd tell a child the shouldn't have left it there but it still doesn't mean the other child should taught not to wory about others things.

If it was my child's drink I'd have said don't worry, actually tbh if ds 5 left it there I would mke him come and remove it and then go back and bounce. But then I believe in more haste less speed

Of course you shouldn't have offered to replace it as it shouldn't have been there in the first place. My goodness where do all these ultra polite people live please? If your ds had taken a run up and deliberately drop kicked the cup across the field an offer of a replacement would have been in order. She should have told her 10 yo to use some common sense next time she buys a slush puppy. She was snippy and passive aggressive so best ignored. Silly woman probably didn't want to take her turn supervising the trampoline hence her bad mood.

"My goodness where do all these ultra polite people live please"

It's a shame we don't live all over the place, in every village, town and city, the next door neighbour and the person in the street.

Maybe if we did, the world would be a better, nicer place.

I would have been apologising for leaving the drink in a stupid place then and worrying about the toddler slipping over not making snidey comments and angling for a free drink.

god move on from the drink incident

Never - these things become very important when you should be working and are looking for diversions...

YANBU!!

Can't believe everyone is suggesting you should replace this totally inappropriately replaced drink!

A 10-ish year old child is old enough to take responsibility for their own ages e.g. if leave your drink somewhere where it is bound to get knocked over then you can hardly be surprised or upset when it gets splilled - bloody obvious. I also agree that it's dangerous to leave it there and get the steps wet?

LMAO at this post -

By icer Sat 17-Jul-10 21:49:30
Sounds to me like she was trying to wangle £1.50 out of you, probably kept topping it up from a cheap 29p bottle in her bag,putting it on the step, and waiting for unsuspecting mums and their unco-ordinated toodlers.

Probably the case!! Or the kid got a wasp in it or some such and wanted to get a replacement funded out of some other sucker's pocket.

replaced drink = placed drink

for their own ages = own actions

oops