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Unfarkingbelievable!

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chaostrulyreigns · 16/07/2010 22:01

DD2 was invited back to a friend's house after school today. Lovely family.

The mom asked if it was fine that they could walk round to our local pub (lovely big open field for children to play on) with her - meet up with some families from school and drop her back off about 9.30. All fine by me.

They walked home down a very short but scenic wooded path (dad, mom, 3 girls) rather than the slightly shorter main road route about 9.15.

On the path was a nekkid young couple actually fucking.

The 3 girls saw everything - but have giggled about it in a k-i-s-s-i-n-g sort of playground manner, DD2's friend was kind enough to show me what actions the man was doing.

I think it may be time to do The Talk.

ffs.

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fryalot · 16/07/2010 22:03

dp came across a couple doing just this when taking the dog for a walk - they were just feet from the main road and anyone looking from the path could have seen them!

Luckily he didn;t have the kids with him.

(we found out later that it was one of dd1's friends and her boyfriend )

Perhaps you could tell your dd that they were tickling each other and as it was hot they'd got themselves nekkid

BitOfFun · 16/07/2010 22:03

Oh dear. Were they doing a piece to camera for Balls Of Steel?

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chaostrulyreigns · 16/07/2010 22:06

What's BOS BOF?

Vaire sheltered upbringing.

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BitOfFun · 16/07/2010 22:27

It's a show where people dare each other to do stupid outrageous things. All set up, obviously, but one 'act' is a couple who will shag anywhere- pub beer gardens, on the bus etc etc. I can't find a video to link to, just the whole shows, but look it up, it can be pretty funny.

IFancyKevinELevin · 16/07/2010 22:31

It's never too early to have the "talk". Get a couple of books "How did I begin" is a good one.

But take care to point out that being bent over a wheelie bin in a forest is not the way to "have a romantic cuddle".

Hope they got pine cones lodged up their bums, bloody idiots. Probably more of a shock for them, a load of kids standing there innocently watching them. The guy will probably see that every time he closes his eyes.

On a more serious note, we had a forest walk near our last place that was rumoured to be on a dogging website! It was National Trust to the filthy beggars. Let the community police know what you saw, just incase it's a regular thing.

Lavitabella · 16/07/2010 22:33

I bet they were embarrassed

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chaostrulyreigns · 16/07/2010 22:38

Thanks BOF - I may do that!

IFKE apparently the girls started talking about boys in their class they fancied. - they're only little.

Lavita I hope they bleeding were.

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tethersend · 16/07/2010 22:52

Just marking my place for when the outrage about dropping her off at 9.30 begins

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chaostrulyreigns · 16/07/2010 22:54

te that has made me spurt vaire good Cabernet on my laptop.

People were complaining about the quality of AIBU yesterday - but this is the goddamn truth - just timely!

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chaostrulyreigns · 16/07/2010 22:55

And I've never spurted before.

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peeringintothevoid · 16/07/2010 22:58

How old are the girls?

I did actually choke on my wine at
"But take care to point out that being bent over a wheelie bin in a forest is not the way to "have a romantic cuddle". Hope they got pine cones lodged up their bums"...

But that's probably just 'cos it's late on a Fri night and I'm a bit pissed....

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chaostrulyreigns · 16/07/2010 23:01

I've been drinking too pitv I think that's why I'm kinda larfing about it.

But OMFG she's 8 and friend's little sister is 6.

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Monty100 · 16/07/2010 23:05

This happened to me when I was about that age, at a beauty spot near where I lived. I was with my sister (same age) and a friend. We were completely horrified. I have had issues with sex all of my adult life and no psychiatrist could have got it out of me why. Until I read this op.

I was completely disgusted and traumatised by what I saw, and never told a soul, nor did we three who saw it, speak about it again.

This is true.

peeringintothevoid · 16/07/2010 23:10

Aw bless, that's not good, is it. My DD is 7, and I've given her some graphic but purely biological (reproductive) information since she was much younger - so she knows that sperm is manufactured in the testes, exits the penis to fertilise the egg in the female ovaries, and makes an embryo (turning into a baby). But thankfully, she's never asked about the whole 'sperm getting to the egg' bit!

I just blind her with science, and she loses interest, so probably being fairly graphic/factual, will diminish their interest completely - make your explanation biologically accurate but devoid of interest

I agree that it's a horrendous situation to try to explain, but I re-read that quote,
"But take care to point out that being bent over a wheelie bin in a forest is not the way to "have a romantic cuddle". Hope they got pine cones lodged up their bums"...
and it still makes me burst out laughing!

peeringintothevoid · 16/07/2010 23:12

Oh god, have now read Monty27's post, and feel like a horrid person.

Monty100 · 16/07/2010 23:15

Peer - It is funny.

But it wasn't funny to see two people copulating and hearing the noises when you didn't know wtf they were doing. I thought the man was harming the woman.

I know I know. Get over it and all that.

I'm just saying that as long as the dc's are put at ease about it.... in some way.

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chaostrulyreigns · 16/07/2010 23:15

Ohno Monty that's sobering.

DD and her friend have been all giggly about it and I hope that it can be pretty glossed over.

I'm sorry that you were so affected by the evnet.

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SlartyBartFast · 16/07/2010 23:18

could have been a mumsnetter surely,
arent people often talkign about unusual places... and embarrassing moments.
couple of years down the line, this thread will be resurrected by the perpetrator

lemonysweet · 16/07/2010 23:20

Monty, that must be awful, but just clarify for me, no psychiatrist could ever get that memory out of you and treat it, assuming after quite a bit of therapy...until this thread?

bumpsnowjustplump · 16/07/2010 23:22

Monty so sorry for you but dont think that is the case with caos's little one. They have been talking about it and laughting about it since so hope she is ok...

PMSL at "But take care to point out that being bent over a wheelie bin in a forest is not the way to "have a romantic cuddle". Hope they got pine cones lodged up their bums"...

hope there were no stingers around or they will need dock leaves a plenty...

lemonysweet · 16/07/2010 23:26

i realised i sounded really snarky there i didnt intend to, sorry monty!

wukter · 16/07/2010 23:27

I actually think that's foul.

Monty100 · 16/07/2010 23:59

Bump - I'm sure she will. Given the right explanation.

I have never sat and tried to explain it to a psychiatrist, just to clarify that point.

But all through every relationship I've had, I felt in some way, no matter how much I've loved that man, that what I was doing was wrong, and dirty. It didn't help that I was being brought up in a strong catholic ethos.

I always thought that sex was somehow wrong.

It's probably not explicitly down to that time when I saw what I saw. But that was the first experience of sex that I had and I so wish I had't seen it.

I'm just saying, don't take it so lightly for a child to see something like that when they don't understand it.

Just in case, they carry it in their head for a long time.

peeringintothevoid · 17/07/2010 00:06

Monty27, having focused on the catholic element of your upbringing, can I make the assumption that when you saw this happen, you had no frame of reference to slot it in to, an no one that you could comfortably go to and say "what on earth was that about??"

If you'd been able to, and receive a reasonable (biological and possibly social) explanation, do you think it would have been less traumatic?

Monty100 · 17/07/2010 00:10

Peer - yes, totally. I couldn't even have the words to describe it, or the nerve to even try.

I thought it was disgusting.

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