Unfarkingbelievable!

[chaostrulyreigns]

DD2 was invited back to a friend's house after school today. Lovely family.

The mom asked if it was fine that they could walk round to our local pub (lovely big open field for children to play on) with her - meet up with some families from school and drop her back off about 9.30. All fine by me.

They walked home down a very short but scenic wooded path (dad, mom, 3 girls) rather than the slightly shorter main road route about 9.15.

On the path was a nekkid young couple actually fucking.

The 3 girls saw everything - but have giggled about it in a k-i-s-s-i-n-g sort of playground manner, DD2's friend was kind enough to show me what actions the man was doing.

I think it may be time to do The Talk.

ffs.

How do you think I should deal with this?

I'm starting to worry.

am also that they were on the actual path - have they no shame??

I think it might be time for the Talk - to explain, rationalise but not normalise what they saw.

Chaos - I'm sorry for worrying you.

On the other hand, I really don't think you should take it so lightly.

Definitely talk about it and explain, in what ever way you feel appropriate that it's something that is done out of love and enjoyment between two consenting people.

And hope that they won't ever have to think about it ever again.

Does that make sense?

Please don't worry, your dc's I presume aren't being brought up as strict catholics as I was which made me remember it forever!

I can see the gorse bushes now. lol. Gorse bushes! I ask you.

I am sorry for downing something that is in a way amusing. For adults.

That's ok Monty.

I shall definitely try to position it with her tomorrow. I have a book that I bought for DD1 but never used - she seemed to just know about it and be very comfortable straightawy. I was cross at the school as we'd been informed that the school did the talk in Y6, but she came home at end of Y5 telling me that they'd been told all about it and we've had mini conversations since. So no real big sit down significant conversation.

I have already vowed to do it differently with DD2, and it seems I now have my ideal opportunity.

And, yes, we are Catholics, but I'm hoping that people who have issues about sexuality and guilt, were brought up differently to the way catholics are brought up these days.

Any advice greatfully received.

And - yep gorse bushes - that'll learn 'em. Arf.

ahhh Monty

i can imagine how it would look pretty awful to a child. sudden jerky movements. sometimes you just know somethings wrong by the way it moves, like a drunk person stumbling too fast.

Lol, see I have a sense of humour about it. Ouch Ouch! It was quite distressing to hear. Perhaps it was the prickles??

No seriously, we didn't have any 'talks' so I believe that talks might be good, whether in school, with parents and/or both.

My dc's are teens now, I've had to try and make them feel really comfortable about all of this so they don't grow up with the issues I have. I have and am putting through the catholic education system, but trying to be a real switched on mum too. They seem ok so far. I want them to enjoy the stuff that I've not really been able to.

Maybe I'll write a book about it one day myself.

'Sex? It's not just a shag walk in the park.'

I'm happy to talk. But I'm surprised that your post has envoked my memories in this way, and the sadness I feel that has ruined something that should have been so different.

Lemony - that's it. Spot on. It was horrible.

Chins up everyone, Chaos and all you who have listened, will talk to their dc's.

Mine are fine about it all by the way.

Thanks everso monty for being so candid about your experience wuth me - I really appreciate it and I think it will lead me to deal with an 8yo better than I would have before talking with you.

Thanks again.

Chaos - I'm more than happy that I've helped, if I have.

They are still little children despite the demands that society puts upon them, and us as parents.

God bless.

It's an interesting topic and glad to have aired what I had to say although I'm a bit about it. It just came out. Memories eh? Make them lovely for your dc's. I try with mine. They have no idea how I feel. Sadly it's all an act.

Me being liberal and ever so switched on, is the act that I mean.

I hope that 'on the path' doesn't literally mean 'on the path' as in 'Excuse me while we just step over you...'