to have expected more than a cd (which I do like) for my 30th birthday from my dh???

[samoa]

That is it really. I mean it was my 30th birthday!!!!!!!

Lol at Asda tealights.

For my 30th my DP was all over the place - he organised a lovely dinner in the evening, drove down to Devon to pick my mum up, decorated the house with balloons.

He forgot though to buy me a present and a card, went slightly red when my mum/dd/stepson gave me presents and popped out to buy some 'milk'.

He came back with a VILE lime green jumper from Next and gave it to me in the carrier bag. Then a very plain card with To Getorf from John written in builders pencil.

I just laughed, the silly sod. I didn't mind that much as he had proposed 3 weeks previously and bought me a great big diamond ring.

We went out for a curry on my 30th, that's all, but we were very skint. I am still waiting for some recognition by DH of our 10th wedding aniversary, 3 months ago. Since pretty much everything we earn goes on mortgage, nursery, diesel and bills I am not holding my breath very hard. OR expecting the situation to change much by my 40th in November .

DH was 30 when we had cash and had a driving day at Silverstone and a night in a hotel, meal out etc the day before. Grr.

I had my 30th this year, and DH bought me a new PC & widescreen moniter I was very impressed!

Usually though, we just buy token gifts for birthdays (same with the kids).

for my 30th this year I got hosepipe! I'm starting to feel a bit hard done by after reading all these posts.

Even if money was a prob though, there could be some cheap but special prezzie he could get for you - something personal and showing that he loves you. He could also take the day off and do lots of lovely stuff for you, breakfast in bed, a lovely romantic walk, big shag etc.

It sounds as though he just didn't think it was special and i find that . I'm not one for massive prezzies, but I would want a bit of a fuss made of me, spoecially on my 30th.

Has your dh had his 30th birthday yet?
Would he be happy enough with the same effort put in for a birthday that mean't a great deal to him?
My dh took me to see a Gwen Stefani concert and i received a lovely white gold and diamond bracelet for turning 30 although i made it more than clear i quite fancied a bit of a deal being made. When my dh turned 30 we went out for a big family meal and i got him a watch but he wasn't as bothered about his 30th as i was.
Maybe he really didn't realise how important it was for you.

A CD!

DH bought me a diamond solitaire necklace to match my engagement ring, and paid for us and 20 family to go on the London Eye. Then we all came back here and ate sausages and got drunk, was fab

Do you make a fuss of him when it's a 'big' birthday?

Depends. We're pretty skint and I don't expect more than that for my 40th.

I can't remember what I got for my 30th, it was a week after we got married so I wasn't too bothered at the time

But DH gives me lovely gifts as a rule, sometimes I buy them myself and tell him, sometimes I hint heavily, and these days I'm really not bothered. He offered to buy me an iphone this year but I said no thanks, I'd rather have a DS (console, not more children!)

He bought me chocolates instead. Delicious posh ones though

I got up and made breakfast on my birthday! I think what I am pretty upset about is not being treated like I was special and no thought put into my birthday, especially since I don't live in the same country as my family or friends!

A big shag would have been great, have spent 5 mths without it (since the birth of our dd)!

A CD isn't that bad. I was 28 a couple of days ago and DH gave me a lovely present with nice wrapping paper (he did use packing tape to seal it but hey. The wrapping paper was pretty!) But inside the box was... an iron! An ironing iron, to do the ironing with!

sorry about the ironing iron scouserabroad . I don't know what I would have done if I got that on my birthday

When my DH turned 30, I booked us a hotel, bought him a new outfit, took him out for a meal and a few drinks including a 30 year old malt.Planned this all months in advance as a surprise.

Fast forward to four years later and my 30th birthday, what did I get???????? Nothing at all, He had just thought he would nip to the shops on the day and get me a card and a present, but could'nt as we were snowed in.

Grrrrrrrr

I think that it depends on your financial circumstances. If money is a bit tight, then a cd is fine but if not then a suprise meal at a restaurant or a nice bouquet of flowers with it might be nice

But zippy, even if money is tight he could be extra nice to her - sounds like he wasn't.

He could have been a bit more romantic, regardless of budget? Although to be honest, me and dh don't really do surprises for birthdays. I prefer us to go out for the day and buy something there, and have a nice meal.

I did get annoyed on my last birthday though as dh's brother and his wife only got me a (late) card. I wouldn't mind but I always make sure we get them and their 3 kids nice presents. Never even get a thank you- a 'thanks for the kids presents' would be nice rude people.

I wouldnt be particularly upset about it tbh. Yes I understand it was your 30th etc but how is your DH with you throughout the year. Sometimes men just dont get the hint or if they do they procrastinate until it is too late to plan or buy anything nice. I know my DH falls in that category. I am not so big on birthday's myself; all I insist on is a birthday card - the rest to me is nice but if he doesnt get anything its not the end of the world as he is always getting me things here and there just because.

I got a butter churn.

Beat that.

You can do romance without money though, one of my friend's dps bought her 12 red roses but because they had no money they were 12 red Roses sweets.

I've just had a birthday (though a non-significant one). DH didn't get me anything (because apparently he couldn't think of anything to get me). DH asked whether I would like to go out for a meal but I said I'd rather have a BBQ and a peaceful evening in the garden.

when the evening came, it turned out DH had not got any BBQ food, thought it was too much trouble to have a BBQ anyway, and went and sat indoors while I and the DC sat in the garden.

I'd have been delighted if he'd bought me a CD.

Next year, I'm organising my own present and celebration

ah samoa

i sropped ajor hints to dh about getting the new adrain mole book for my 30th birthday.

he got me lots of lovely books, inc almost all of the adrian mole books, but not the new one! so i had 2 copies of all the books as i already had those books.

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All you lot with your OMG I got a huge diamond .. and Take That performing naked in the garden

Thats really helping

at wordsonascreen

very true!

I never post in AIBU but this struck me as weird - I'm prepared to be flamed - why did you thank him for the lovely birthday? You have now told him that what he did was ok when it clearly wasn't. If you wanted something different you should talk to him about it.

Maybe his family just don't care all that much about birthday's or presents - I know mine don't. Luckily I married someone who is the same, so doesn't care when I don't do anything at all. My last birthday he didn't even bother with a card and I honestly don't care.

it seems like some of these dhs and dps have a hard time getting the hint!