To think that you should not ask when the baby is due unless you are 100% sure that the woman is pregnant?

[poshsinglemum]

I am not pregnant. I do have a round post pregnancy tummy but by no means a huge tummy. I'm a healthy size 14, not fat but with lovely curves. My tummy has always been rounded but more so post dd.
Two customers in the past two months at work have asked me when the baby is due. Grrr. I refuse to feel fat.
I never ask unless a woman has an obvious bump and is quite definately up the duff. Both womem who asked me were fairly old and only one was mortified. Grrrr.
Mabe it's because sometimes I wear empire lines to disguise flab rounded tum.

It's weird how being friendly asking when you are due is being considered bitchy? I mean if the person does think you are pregnant, in their head they are being lovely and friendly to you...it's not their fault they are wrong. Nobody would ask you for their own sake, because I certainly don't care when the woman on the bus with a bump is due, but you do it to be friendly. Yes people get it wrong, but they are not doing it to be bitchy.

In my case i would understand it (DD2 is 5 months and I am far too overweight and still look 6 months pregnant). As a size 14 though YANB at all U. Tell them to sod off.

In the hospital the day after having DD I was sitting at a table with the other women from the ward eating lunch and asked one of them conversationally whether they had had a girl or a boy. She answered, 'I'm still pregnant'.

I still can't work out why she looked offended.

Tbh she did look pregnant standing up but she was sitting behind a table ffs, how was I supposed to know?

I did ask one lady when she was due and she said no she was not pregnant, to which I died on the spot!! However in my defence we were being shown around a new maternity unit at our local hospital with two midwifes, and she being slightly on the large size I thought was another fellow mum!

i am scared to EVER ask. I have been really lucky and got thin quickly after each preg (thank YOU breastfeeding!) so haven't had this myself, but did once ask someone who i am sorry, but looked absolutely pregnant, she was thin all over with a massive belly, she told me she'd had the kid a year ago. Since then, I ahev been too scared to ever ask anyone. No point. If they haven't got a 'baby on board' badge, I ain't getting involved!

Of course it is,, unless maybe you are only four foot six tall

I had fibroids a while back and one of them was quite large and made my stomach look big. The number of people who asked me if I was pregnant was unbelievable. Someone giving a training course at work even asked me in front of a bunch of colleagues and I was mortified. Unless someone was going into labour in front of me I would not assume they were pregnant.

my sister was asked in john lewis when she was holding the baby she had had weeks before in her arms, despite having told the shop assistant that she had the baby too!

they were rubbish - she ordered a pram months before baby was due, went to pick it up THREE times to be told they'd cancelled the order and not told her and made her wait weeks in between.

my mum used to get this all the time to the point that she had her tummy patted by friends etc she has a serious bowel condition which causes her stomach to swell!

YANBU op!!