to not buy "thank you gifts" for teacher?

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Dd is in yr 3 and has had a bit of a tough year. We suspect she has mild AS and have discussed it at every parents evening with her teacher but absolutely nothing has been done.

She is very anxious and tends to panic when put on the spot. She began this year in the top group for Maths and is ending it in the bottom group .

I know this is little to do with her ability (am a lecturer, teaching kids with LD) and more her manner/AS, IYSWIM? Not answering quickly enough when doing verbal mathematics, for example.

She has lost a lot of confidence over this and has started to dislike school.

So, AIBU not to buy a thank you gift for these teachers who really haven't done a lot for her (more than their basic role which they are paid to do)?

Oh dear Mermaid...... I think i come in your group of parents! My ds is at residential school ad he has the most amazing teacher who regularly rings and keeps in touch and has gone above and beyond what she should do!
Last year i got her this
This year i have got her this

That's lovely lottie. I would do the same if her teacher actually contributed in any way than the absolute basic standard of what she should do (IMHO).

I certainly wouldn't bother if you have nothing in particular to say thank you for and your DD doesn't like her either.

lottie - you're getting the teacher an Angel ornament with "I love you" engraved on it

Have you considered a wolf fleece jumper - it's just as nice

Hand on heart, most teachers (and TAs) do not expect ANYTHING... and would be horrified to think that ANY family felt 'obliged'

However if the children do bring gifts I do like mine to clank in a 'wine bank' kind of way...

LOL Macform!

I love my job and would never expect any pressies x

I am also a teacher and really appreciate getting presents. I don't want or expect huge gifts. Home made cards are the best as you know the child has made it themselves. In 15 years of being a teacher the present that has meant the most to me was a single chocolate with ' the best teacher in the world' written on it. It would not have cost more than 50p but the vast majority of teachers will tell you teaching is not a job you do for the money but because you love teaching.

YANBU
You should only buy gifts for teachers and other staff if you want to thank someone.
Doing is as a routine action is pointless.

YANBU I only contribute to class presents (how we usually do it at our school) if the teacher has done a good job.

DD1 had a dreadful teacher in year 3. I complained to the governors about her so it would seem hypocritical to then buy her a thankyou gift! DD2 has had a teacher this year who has not really done much for her so will not be adding to her collection either. You could argue it is a bit petty but it works both ways.

I was the only parent helper my DD1s year 3 teacher did not give a thank you present to! She knew I had complained about her and snubbed me the last week of term! It would have been daft for either of us to give each other a gift.

I always get the DDs to make their own thank you card or letter though. As that is from them and they have had good relationships with their teachers mostly.

Laurie, my son is deaf........ the angel is signing the word love! I thought it suitable!!

Oh and "i love you" isnt engraved anywhere on there!!

I have just remembered I "regifted" a box of liqueur chocolates to a teacher who had made y DS' life miserable because I was giving a gift to DD's lovely teacher. It backfired a bit and the Not At All Nice teacher was thrilled! These two DCs are in their 30s. Probably wouldn't give Mrs Not At All Nice anything if it happened now.

I say don't bother, but that is because I am a secondary school teacher and we rarely get any presents, so I am jealous and bitter

i am buying this for the reception teachers (and the next years reception children) to enjoy. dd had it and loved it!

YANBU! I wish there would be a blanket ban on the present buying competitive nonsense. When I taught I really appreciated the lovely notes from the parents and home made cards, but the presents were unnecessary TBH and I'd have hated to think they felt under pressure to buy something.