To give an outright "NO!"?

[Citrus81]

DP's ex wife has gone and had the cheek to ask if she can temporay MOVE IN with us as she has nowhere else to stay!!! AIBU to give an outright fuck off "No"???

I detect a back story. Is she the mother of his DCs? Do they get on? Is there an alterior motive? Do you see her as a threat?Is it possible that actually she doesn't have anywhere to stay and thinks you're decent enough people that you'll house her for a bit?

lol yanbu at all!

unless you happen to all get along very well and it would be one big happy family?

Pffftttt

Are you serious? What's the whole story??

depends on your relationship with her.

If they have kids together, if things are amicable, then why not? Would their children want their mother to be homeless if their father could help?

If things are bitter and there are problems, then obv would not work.

More details needed I'm afraid

Yanbu! Jesus, what a cheek!

I would have stuck with the fuck off personally....

Yay, it's the Brady Bunch.

YANBU - stump up some rent money.

so can't see that working. But you might want to help her out e.g. do you have a friend willing to put her up a couple of nights? Or pay for a cheap hotel for her?

well, i would say NO WAY can I see that working but then I dont know your circumstances

she is either very very desperate and swallowing her pride to even ask, OR she has ulterior motives and is Up To Something

they are on "tolerating" each other terms. They do have a child together but even so, as if I'm going to have the ex wife moving in, imagine, all cosy the three of us on the sofa??? pmsl ... the woman is fucking deranged.

Blimey - none of you know anything whatsoever about this ex-wife (cue posts telling me there's a long running back story and I really should pay attention), yet you're all full of righteous indignation. Being an ex wife doesn't automatically make you evil, you know.

It's a balance hassled :

My DH's ex is the evil ex-wife,

and I am the evil stepmum.

Ying and yang see, ying and yang....

Where does the child live?

all full of 'righteous indignation'? Really? Indignation? Righteous?

Quote the righteous indignation in my post and I will post you a cheque for a million pounds.

where is the child going to go?

its not about the ex being evil

its about the non existant privacy of a couple with an ex living-in (though letting her have the next room and being up to very noisy sex all night might get her moving bck out!)

it would be hard enough putting up a mate, and having them and their mess under your feet, but an ex wife. with all HER ways of doing things in the OPs house, and there would be BOUND to be little digs about her knowing what the DP likes etc etc, offering to cook his favourite dinner

YADNBU-just give a definite,unequivocal NO!

why has she got nowhere else to stay?

Hecate - I stand well and truly corrected. If you could see me, you'd see that I'm hanging my head in a forlorn sort of way.

Good.

can I kick you a little?

Can I watch said kicking whilst hovvering on my evil step-mum broomstick?

Give the kid a roof over their head, tell the mother to sling her hook!

Nah. All that head-hanging has given me a crick. I've suffered enough.

Anyway, I'm the ex-wife that ex-H's DP is mates with, so I'm biased on the whole thing. We go drinking, etc. She'd house me if I was stranded, and I wouldn't once question her culinary standards, honest .

Well if it were a choice of her living with you for a couple of nights or her living in a cardboard box then obviously yabu
human kindness etc etc
but if she has friends or family she could stay with why doesn't she? Or doesshe want to be with her child if he/ she live with you
more details in the op would have helped