Am I a Sports Day bitch?

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PLEASE READ AND DIGEST SLOWLY BEFORE SAYING UABU!

Just had competitve sports day. Yes they still exist in some pockets of the country!

Anyway my kid is pretty sporty (useless at everyting else so it is very important to her) and came second in six events with the same kid beating her in every won. This kid beat all school records and so did my kid in one but obviously it doesn't count as 1st place gets it.

I was complimenting the winner to another parent as she is a real talent but this parent told me that this girl is actually a year ahead but was moved back a year. Her results mean the previous records have been taken away from girls who were actually the correct age and its going to be hard for the next year group coming up to beat these records if the child was a school year older than they are.

So, I admit I'm a little miffed that DD would have been first if it had been done on age and she will never be first in any race as she will be up against a girl wo is a year older, but on principal I think it's worse that the girls who got records in previous years have now had them removed.

Anyway I'm not planning to say anything as I will look like a pushy parent eventhough I only believe in principal that sport should be done on age. Go on, let rip!

they have RECORDS too?

i think you are caring a bit too much

Is she actually a year older? Maybe she's a late August birthday?

YABU - she was moved back a year for a reason.

YABU

This child is (presumably) useless academically, hence being moved back a year.

Therefore, sport is the only thing she is good at. (Even more so than your DD who at least is still in the right academic year).
Don't take it away from her.

And age divisions are pretty arbitrary anyway. You could say it's unfair for an early September child to compete against a late August child. (Probably the reason I was always crap at sport actually). But they have to select the group somewhere, so they do it on academic year.

My DS is nearly a year younger than his best friend, but in the same school year.

What about the children in the same school year, who were born in September 2000 for example, and August 2001? YABalittleU. It's only sports day lol

I don't have a problem with the girl. She is very nice and I always chat to her and even said to er mum how mature she was compared to my ditsy girl. She would beat everyone in her correct year as she is a phenomenal talent and will be a sports star in the future. My child will be sporty but it won't be a career. I just felt more sorry for the kids who had long standing records removed. FWIW she is November born so close to 2 years older than some of the competitors but only one year older than mine.

Surely it's ok to be unreasonable if I'm not going to do anything about it or bitch (apart from on here)?

School records are unreliable anyway.....let a bunch of kids enjoy their sports day....the results are not going to appear on any CV of the future are they?

Well, it's never unreasonable purely to have an opinion, OP. [diplomatic emoticon]

YABU and you sound petty and rather nasty - this girl is in your dd's year so has every right to be legitimate winner. My dn is SEN and the only thing he excels at is sport, I would hate people would think like this if he is held back a year which is very likely.

Oh I think you're fair enough to be miffed. I'd be miffed if it were my DC.

I'd be totally peed off in your situation. The records will be buggered up for years because of it.

Proudnsad, YABU to think I sound nasty. I ave done nothing nasty but feel a bit miffed. I take it you being oh so perfect have never felt unreasonably miffed?

I agree that school records do not go on a CV but DD will be trying for a sports scholarship and the criteria is that she has to be best in the year in two sporting areas. Normally she would have been. I still won't say anything though. FFS I thought this was a place for privately venting i.e. not doing it in the real world without being called nasty.

If it's a scholarship at the school she's at, the school will know that the other child is a year older and presumably view your DD's achievements accrodingly. And if it's at another school then it is a bonkers criterion because you could have one school with two outstanding athletes (as indeed you do) and another school with the top performer being merely above average.

YANBU to feel a bit annoyed by this, it does seem a little unfair. But I think it would BU to mention it to the school.

YANBU to be a bit annoyed. But I guess there's probably a very good reason why she was held back a year especially if she's a november birthday.

DS1 is an august birthday so lots of children in his year are quite a bit older than him but thats just how it works out.

However there is a growing trend in our school for august children to be held back a year - no real reason other than the parents want them to be the oldest in their year .

It's another school and it is ridiculous but they have so many applicants that they only look at the top kid in each school as their argument is out of 200 boys they will find the top 3. She may not even get a scholarship as there is always a kid better but we are precluded from trying.

sorry, meant to say girls! I am going crazy!

I really don't know why I wasted 30 seconds of my life posting here. But will waste 30 more to say what a laughably lame response - 'I suppose you're perfect and have never been miffed'. Err how old are you? And, double errr, you asked the AIBU question. Well actually you asked if you were a sports day 'bitch' and you then invited people to 'let it rip'.
Damn that was at least 50 seconds.

God give her a break, OP clearly states she will not be bringing this up with the school whatever MN jury say.

I don't think it is unreasonable to be annoyed,can your DD join an athletics club or similar to distance her from the existing competition?