Am I a Sports Day bitch?

[GagaOlala]

PLEASE READ AND DIGEST SLOWLY BEFORE SAYING UABU!

Just had competitve sports day. Yes they still exist in some pockets of the country!

Anyway my kid is pretty sporty (useless at everyting else so it is very important to her) and came second in six events with the same kid beating her in every won. This kid beat all school records and so did my kid in one but obviously it doesn't count as 1st place gets it.

I was complimenting the winner to another parent as she is a real talent but this parent told me that this girl is actually a year ahead but was moved back a year. Her results mean the previous records have been taken away from girls who were actually the correct age and its going to be hard for the next year group coming up to beat these records if the child was a school year older than they are.

So, I admit I'm a little miffed that DD would have been first if it had been done on age and she will never be first in any race as she will be up against a girl wo is a year older, but on principal I think it's worse that the girls who got records in previous years have now had them removed.

Anyway I'm not planning to say anything as I will look like a pushy parent eventhough I only believe in principal that sport should be done on age. Go on, let rip!

God give her a break, OP clearly states she will not be bringing this up with the school whatever MN jury say.

I don't think it is unreasonable to be annoyed,can your DD join an athletics club or similar to distance her from the existing competition?

Don't think the OP was being nasty at all, although maybe a little unreasonable

But I think i would be just as unreasonable if it were my DD

ooops-double post

she could be 3 days older. anyway. i wouldn't automatically assume that your dd will now always be second to this girl. as tey get older the gap in ability will reduce so your dd could puul up level by next year.

i dont think you are a bitch because you arent going to say anything but i do think it is a bit petty to be getting this annoyed about it. it is just a bit of fun.

i do think YABU for saying your child is useless.

I wouldn't worry about the records - it's the nature of such things to get messed up by talented individuals/early developers/redshirted children/some combination of the three and they still seem to fall eventually (you could argue it raises the bar and sets more of a challenge for the forthcoming years, but that's only if they take much notice of them. Most children care more about winning their event than setting new records imo and I really doubt that any of the long standing record holders give more than a passing thought to whether their records have fallen yet or not.

As regards the scholarship, I can see that's a bit irritating. Can't you apply anyway and get the current school to endorse the application that she is top of her chronological yeargroup and see what happens?

Snorkie, I agree with the challenge. Without this girl in her year she would be resting on her laurels and the competition is good. This girl's sporting work ethicis also excellent and my dd looks up to her. Funnily enough this girl is not allowed to play in certain team sports because of her age and has to play in the year above. I assummed it was because she was brilliant but apparently there are rules, a bit like rugby, that in certain sports an older child legally cannot play in a younger team. I don't know the ins and outs.

If dd didn't find sport so important I wouldn't be wanting the sports scholarship. Believe it or not I hate watching at the sidelines wondering if she is going to win and then have to pick up the pieces afterwards. Sportiness may make you popular but give me an academic geek any day!

What exactly do you expect the school to do? Run her with her old class mates and highlight the fact she has been moved?

Surely it would be the same with academic subjects too, she would be compared with her current peer group.

yabvu

Gaga, is the scholarship a deciding factor on her attending the school? Presumably it's a good school for sporting children, but if you can afford the fees without the scholarship it may well not make much difference to her when she's there if she has it or not. Of course if it makes the finacial difference between going and not going that's another issue, but in the school my dc go to once they're there it's not clear who has scholarships or not and I don't think it makes much if any difference to the amount of sport they do (though presumably those with sports scholarships have an obligation to be on teams whereas those without don't).