I need help

[enok]

Am 53 and have an excuse for everything -I hide bottles - yes I am a teacher etc etc wine is the only thing I look forward to daily.
My husband hates me drinking

Do you actually want to stop?

Have you tried to stop yet?

I’m a recovering alcoholic with many years of sobriety. I only stopped when I wanted sobriety more than I wanted to continue drinking. Do you really want to stop?

I know I need to stop but at the moment am honestly enjoying wine and functioning the next day

I lost a friend a highly functioning alcoholic - she died of alcohol poisoning - just one day her body could not take it any longer she left behind a 13 year old and a 7 year old. Just letting you know.

Thank you and appreciate this

Enok why not speak to your gp or al anon group and try to get some support

Do you want help as in reasons to stop? We’d say in AA that alcohol is still working for you.

How much every day? Have you any signs of ill health effects yet, although liver damage can be asymptomatic - until it isn't. Anything health wise bothering you, or is it that you feel awful all round? Are there financial effects, or effects on your relationships?. What is making you think like this today?

I am realising it's affecting lots of things

My husband is very cross with me

Why do you think he's cross with you. Did he say?

Yes he hates me drinking

You will only stop if YOU want to. Nothing anyone else says will make you stop just like that. If you feel you need and want to stop you must get outside help from GP, rehab, AA, counselling whatever it takes.

If you don't want to, then it might be the wine or your marriage. It is that stark isn't it? What do you want to do yourself, do you feel it's not as big a problem as others are making it to be? Denial is a big factor in addiction.

Your husband hates you drinking and is very cross with you. Is he not enough of a reason to stop? Do you respect him more than the wine? If not him, what would be your reason?

Not sure but probably addicted

So help please xx

You will get lots of help when you ask the right people. And only if you really want to. Do you want to stop today? If so, find a local AA meeting and go to it, either in person or online. Call the Samaritans for a non judgmental talk. Go to the GP asap, find local addiction counselling services in your area. It's not easy but you have to be willing.

Yes I love him but he has his faults hence my love of wine

How much do you drink every day? That impacts whether you can just stop or need to taper and need medical help.

Do you actually want to stop drinking?

About a bottle of white wine daily 11?%

@enoki need to cut down/quit drinking maybe we can support each other? I used to hardly drink dh has always been a big drinker but a few years of dealing with family trauma I now drink to much and to often

Have a look at The Sinclair Method, particularly with Rethink Drink. It’s been life changing for me and it’s not an all or nothing approach - you can still drink but you can have control of it.

Definitely can you pm me?

What do you want to know about it? There is lots of info on the Rethink Drink website.