Calling time on wine: 100 days sober - starting 01/01/26

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My wine drinking has slowly spiralled into a daily habit and I’m calling time on it. No drama, no rock bottom - just the realisation that it’s become a crutch and I want out of the swirl.

From 1st January, I’m committing to 100 days sober and I’d love others to join me. This isn’t about moderation or “just weekends” - it’s about a clean break and supporting each other to go completely alcohol-free for the full 100 days.

If alcohol has crept in as a daily default, if you’re tired of negotiating with yourself every evening, or if you simply want a proper reset with people who get it, you’re very welcome here.

No judgement. No pressure. Just accountability, honesty, and support.

@needastrongoneagainsorry for your loss that is very tough.

@FizzPlease well done to you for staying strong through loss.

day 12 here went to yoga tonight not really had any cravings. DH opened a bottle of wine Sunday and finished it last night. I had no desire to join him but made me feel better that he can enjoy a drink without me as been worrying about that.

Day 7 drawing to a close 🙌

Thankfully I haven’t had any real cravings yet but I think that’s mainly because I’m drinking AF wine like it’s going out of fashion! Only downside is that I have never peed so much in my life 😂

A week down! Fabulous!

Embrace the AF wine if it works, think how beautifully well hydrated you’ll be!

Morning all. Yesterday was a struggle for me - didn’t want wine but felt out of sorts, bored, low and thst something was missing. Had an af tanqueray and fever tree was nice. Like Lassie said, I am peeing more or less every hour during the day!
Sleep I’m disappointed in. I go off to sleep easier than when we started this but I wake lots and just wake up feeling unrested and angry ( new thing this week)
Anyway Day 15 but I need to feel sone new benefits as I’m starting to not enjoy the whole sobriety thing as much as I did in week one.
First World problems I know - sorry to those that have lost loved ones and are grieving

quick check in for me on my way to work.

@SwiftyFifty day 15 for me too. I’ve had periods of weeks/months AF in the past so two weeks for me whilst good, is not a major achievement, if that makes sense? I’ve been here many times before then either had a fuck-it blow out or attempted to moderate with disastrous results.

I too worry about the boredom when the pink cloud wears off. That will be the real test. I’ve tried literally everything so I can’t hand on heart say it will be different this time but I’m reading everything I can get my hands on/listening to podcasts about the harm alcohol does so I’m just hoping and praying it is sinking into my subconscious so that I can resist when the cravings inevitably come 😞

We can only keep trying and keep posting here for accountability which 🤞will help, even just a little.

I’ve not had time to fully catch up on the thread because I’ve been unusually busy but I’m rooting everyone on from the sidelines- we CAN do this!! 💪 💪💪❤️

I love this @GreenCherries!!

Interesting how many of us struggled yesterday. There must have been something in the air!

I’m glad I made it through as I had a wonderful sleep and woke feeling very refreshed. I’m chuffed this is day 14 - once today is over I’ll have done two weeks!

I’m feeling anxious as I have to call my doctor today - getting through is a nightmare and the receptionists are unhelpful. I’ve also got the usual stress about work. BUT I know I can handle it much better sober than I would if I’d been drinking a bottle of wine every night. So that’s a positive.

Edited to add: I am also weeing a lot!

I also agree with the boredom factor. If I didn’t have DC I’d probably watch a film or two on the sofa every night to distract myself, but sadly that’s not an option! When the nights get lighter gardening is something I really enjoy. But right now it’s hard!

Thanks @GreenCherries Your old mornings sound like mine used to be. I’m also struggling a bit. I’m getting ready to go away on a weekend yoga retreat and there’s mindful drinking. Last time that meant some people got quite messy on gin and wine. I want to send something on a group chat about doing dry Jan/100 days and that I’ll bring some AF drinks. Is this a weird thing to do? I want to set myself for success at the weekend.

I am still sooo tired, but slept until 5.30am and will take that as a win.

@needastrongoneagain thinking of you. The early days of grief can be so very hard.

I want to send something on a group chat about doing dry Jan/100 days and that I’ll bring some AF drinks. Is this a weird thing to do?

I don’t think it’s weird at all - I’m sure there will be others who will be doing dry Jan too and would welcome it.

I would definitely message in advance. I'd probably just say 'dry jan' to keep it simple. You might find others are doing it too.

@needastrongoneagain, I’m so very sorry about your dad, but I understand the feeling of relief having watched my dear mum go through the same. I know it’s unbelievably tough but I hope his peace also brings you some ❤️

It’s very inspiring to read about everyone’s progress - the struggles and temptations, boredom and bad days, as well as all the little victories. It really helps map my own journey and keep me on track through the wobbles and disappointments, and so helpful to be able to copy other people’s coping strategies.

Most noticeable thing for me is sleep seems to be resetting in a major way. I used to be passed out on the sofa by 9 most evenings, but now I’m up until 11, and could easily sit up later but try not to. The 2-5 am insomnia is disappearing (despite the trippy-ass dreams!) and I’m waking like clockwork at 7. Not sure the big energy boost has hit yet, but I feel like it will at some point.

One other thing that suddenly dawned on me yesterday is that I’m sooo much calmer. I have much more patience and feel more sort of ‘centred’ in myself, if that’s not too LA?! Stuff just doesn’t annoy me as much, and it made me realise how twangy and short-fused I usually am. So that’s a good thing.

Hope everyone’s having a good day.

Not weird at all to say you're doing dry Jan and take AF drinks along. Dry Jan is so mainstream I don't think anyone will give it a second thought.

@SwiftyFifty @GreenCherries the hourly peeing is slightly annoying especially during the night but I’m thinking of all the positives of flushing my system out and being more hydrated. Also hoping to get rid of the wine belly but that’s at risk of getting replaced by a chocolate biscuit belly 😂

Hope everyone has a positive day. IWNDT 🩷

This is interesting

@EnjoythemoneyJane
Feeling exactly the same. Sleep is getting so much better - even last night when I didn't go to sleep till 11.30, woke briefly at 3am and then at 7, I almost bounced out of bed and felt ready for the day.

Im lucky to have Weds off with my 3 year old DD - instead of driving DD to school we all went on foot and I've already clocked 10k steps on a morning walk /bike ride with my DS. It's a glorious sunny day and I feel like I have such a spring in my step.

I know I'll feel tired this afternoon but I just feel so much more content and calm.

Morning.

I just want to say thank you so much for your kind comments regarding DF. It’s so appreciated, it really is. I am indeed glad DF is at peace, but I can’t at the moment get past in my mind the last few days of his life and how traumatic it was watching him. I am sure that I will get there, it’s really early days of course. I’ve no desire to drink after a very strong urge Sunday night after seeing him.

@FizzPlease - thank you. DH had a huge stroke 3 years ago and I self medicated with wine. It went from drinking to enjoy (and I was drinking too much even then, but not to the extent it got to). I hid the trauma of the situation and the hospital visits and the grief in a bottle or more of red, so your post about your DM really struck a chord, as I didn’t want that again during DF’s passing. Totally different situations in some respects, DH was so young and healthy (he survived, but is vastly disabled) but I absolutely know what you mean. I am sorry you lost your mum. Your posts are so lovely and helpful.

I am still here and sober, sleeping is good, but I’m knackered when I wake up, but that’s definitely to do with DF.

Trying to do my small gratitudes - today I was up early for a very frosty run, but it was still and really quite beautiful, even if I was like Bambi on Ice 🤣

The above said, I did feel pretty weary yesterday- long day of work and rushing around with kids after school in the pouring rain.
So it's defo true that there are ups and downs but I'm focusing on the positive energy I have today!

That sounds like a lovely morning with your DD @AuraBora. It’s stunning out there today isn’t it, or at least it is here! A crisp cold winter day.

@needastrongoneagain Sorry about your father and also your DH, that must have been/be so hard.
It sounds like you are dealing with it all very well!

Yeah it's just beautiful. I was walking along just feeling how lucky I am in so many ways. One major thing with me and drinking is it makes me so negative and down on myself and everything. It really is such a depressant isn't it? But equally so hard to not use as a crutch!

Thanks. Yep - life is tricky, but it’s tricky for so many of us - we all have lots of ‘stuff’ to contend with I am sure 😊

Weekend yoga retreat sounds awesome.
Im quire surprised about the alcohol though- the odd one I've been on was very healthy living/vegan food/ no booze etc.
Hopefully there will be others there not drinking..

Thank you all. I’m not the only Dry January person and several others have said they are alcohol free. A couple of others have said they’re drinking wine (which is fine) but I feel I have set myself up for success now. Thank you all. Will raise an AF glass to this thread while away.

I faced my fear of ringing the doctor and it was okay - they were actually quite helpful. I have an appointment to hopefully get more anxiety meds on a repeat prescription, rather than having to ring up and chase whenever they run out.

I also have a stressful work situation tomorrow which I’m dreading. As much as I would like a wine tonight to forget about it for a bit, I know drinking would ultimately make it worse as I won’t be on form tomorrow.