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Calling time on wine: 100 days sober - starting 01/01/26

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reset100 · 27/12/2025 09:06

My wine drinking has slowly spiralled into a daily habit and I’m calling time on it. No drama, no rock bottom - just the realisation that it’s become a crutch and I want out of the swirl.

From 1st January, I’m committing to 100 days sober and I’d love others to join me. This isn’t about moderation or “just weekends” - it’s about a clean break and supporting each other to go completely alcohol-free for the full 100 days.

If alcohol has crept in as a daily default, if you’re tired of negotiating with yourself every evening, or if you simply want a proper reset with people who get it, you’re very welcome here.

No judgement. No pressure. Just accountability, honesty, and support.

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Notbwinetimeitsmyprimetime · 08/01/2026 12:12

I'm another one who finds early running helps. Noone wants to start a ten mile run at 5.30am feeling dehydrated and hungover!

SwiftyFifty · 08/01/2026 12:18

@EnjoythemoneyJane what a fantastic post.

freshstart2026 · 08/01/2026 12:21

SwiftyFifty · 08/01/2026 12:18

@EnjoythemoneyJane what a fantastic post.

Seconded!

EnjoythemoneyJane · 08/01/2026 12:31

I’ve been back through the thread and picked up all the suggestions for booze substitutes (apologies if I’ve missed any!) and thought I’d drop it here in case it’s useful for anyone else.

Flavoured Teas
Fresh mint tea
Fresh juice (or juice + sparkling water)
Pomegranate with ginger and lemon
Cloudy apple juice + sparkling water
Ginger cordial + sparkling water
Ginger switchel (water, chopped ginger, apple cider vinegar + sugar or honey; dilute with sparkling water)
Ginger beer
Lime & Soda
Cherry & raspberry syrups (Polish section of supermarkets) + sparkling water + drop of almond essence with the cherry to make a mocktail
Tonic with ice & lemon

Trip
Dash
Libra
San Pelegrino flavoured sparkling water
Nosecco (rec: Aldi’s 0%)
M&S AF Gin
Three Spirit Nightcap (online only)
Mother Root
Fix8 Kombucha
Freixenet 0% sparkling (lots of people fans of this)
Peroni 0%
Becks Blue
Crodino + Fever Tree Blood Orange Tonic
Koppaberg AF Cider
AF gin (Sipsmith etc)
Robinsons Lime & Mint Cordial + tonic water
Good Rays CBD
Hip Pop Kombucha
Tinned Mocktails

I’d also add a good Virgin Mary, made with V8 or Big Tom and all the bits (celery salt, pepper, Tabasco, lemon & Worcestershire sauce).

And for all the ginger enthusiasts, Lidl have a really good, punchy natural ginger shot in small cans, but they also do larger bottles for about 3 quid. It’s brilliant with sparkling water.

SoberAndSerene · 08/01/2026 12:59

GreenCherries · 08/01/2026 07:04

@JustAnotherDayWorkingAtHomeI am exactly the same re being all or nothing with everything!!!! Could have written that myself re drinking, hobbies etc!

Currently feel secure in my ‘all in’ AF mentality but also very wary of the sudden flip reverse my brain can do if triggered enough, has caught me out on many an AF stint.

Day 9 for me today, almost double digits, which is the best I have managed since September!

Thanks @GreenCherriesand @JustAnotherDayWorkingAtHome
Me too - I’m a binge drinker. 62 . Ive been drinking since I was a teenager and it’s 10 years since I’ve had more than a week away from alcohol. I normally binge drink 2 or 3 times a week eg roughly 2 bottles of wine plus any old liquor/ spirit that is hanging about ( maybe sloshing it into a hot chocolate drink to persuade myself it’s not really alcoholic - and then having a 2nd alcoholic hot chocolate- but upping the whisky level )

The anxiety and shame the following morning has become ever more intense and soul destroying with each year that passes.
I have to abstain completely. Abstaining is much much easier for me than moderation .
It’s never too late .

SoberAndSerene · 08/01/2026 12:59

EnjoythemoneyJane · 08/01/2026 12:31

I’ve been back through the thread and picked up all the suggestions for booze substitutes (apologies if I’ve missed any!) and thought I’d drop it here in case it’s useful for anyone else.

Flavoured Teas
Fresh mint tea
Fresh juice (or juice + sparkling water)
Pomegranate with ginger and lemon
Cloudy apple juice + sparkling water
Ginger cordial + sparkling water
Ginger switchel (water, chopped ginger, apple cider vinegar + sugar or honey; dilute with sparkling water)
Ginger beer
Lime & Soda
Cherry & raspberry syrups (Polish section of supermarkets) + sparkling water + drop of almond essence with the cherry to make a mocktail
Tonic with ice & lemon

Trip
Dash
Libra
San Pelegrino flavoured sparkling water
Nosecco (rec: Aldi’s 0%)
M&S AF Gin
Three Spirit Nightcap (online only)
Mother Root
Fix8 Kombucha
Freixenet 0% sparkling (lots of people fans of this)
Peroni 0%
Becks Blue
Crodino + Fever Tree Blood Orange Tonic
Koppaberg AF Cider
AF gin (Sipsmith etc)
Robinsons Lime & Mint Cordial + tonic water
Good Rays CBD
Hip Pop Kombucha
Tinned Mocktails

I’d also add a good Virgin Mary, made with V8 or Big Tom and all the bits (celery salt, pepper, Tabasco, lemon & Worcestershire sauce).

And for all the ginger enthusiasts, Lidl have a really good, punchy natural ginger shot in small cans, but they also do larger bottles for about 3 quid. It’s brilliant with sparkling water.

Thank you - really helpful

ImALittlePea · 08/01/2026 13:06

"When I actually do the maths and imagine how many bottles I’ve sunk over the weeks and months and years and decades, all stacked up in one room, or laid out in an endless line miles long, I’m overwhelmed by the shame of it all and the sickening fear of what I’ve done to myself.

..... I landed here with only one foot in because it felt like something I should be doing. I now feel like it’s something I actually need and want to do."

@EnjoythemoneyJane this sums my feelings PERFECTLY. Thank you.

I really appreciate you all sharing. I haven't fully, yet, but I hope to at some point.

Goandygo · 08/01/2026 13:18

@EnjoythemoneyJane thanks for that list. It's really useful.
In this cold, miserable weather I also reach for a latte ( the packet ones), add calorie free syrup (tk max do a dazzling range), squirty cream and a little grated dark chocolate 😋

SwiftyFifty · 08/01/2026 14:15

@SoberAndSerene yes this sounds like me. Binge one night then die the next and repeat. And yes if I finish off with a Bailey’s or something else thst I would not usually drink then it doesn’t count. Late 50s you are right it’s never too late. What was fun and a bit crazy when young becomes something totally different when you get in your middle age. My problem is after half a bottle my “ fuck it” mentality kicks in and I literally have no switch off it regard to health or consequences

SparkFinder · 08/01/2026 14:40

SoberAndSerene · 08/01/2026 12:59

Thanks @GreenCherriesand @JustAnotherDayWorkingAtHome
Me too - I’m a binge drinker. 62 . Ive been drinking since I was a teenager and it’s 10 years since I’ve had more than a week away from alcohol. I normally binge drink 2 or 3 times a week eg roughly 2 bottles of wine plus any old liquor/ spirit that is hanging about ( maybe sloshing it into a hot chocolate drink to persuade myself it’s not really alcoholic - and then having a 2nd alcoholic hot chocolate- but upping the whisky level )

The anxiety and shame the following morning has become ever more intense and soul destroying with each year that passes.
I have to abstain completely. Abstaining is much much easier for me than moderation .
It’s never too late .

I agree. The concept of moderation that is sold to us is a big fat lie. There's an entire industry that needs people to keep consuming alcohol and I think the recommended units idea has convinced us that some drinking is fine, even good.
Abstention seems incredibly hard, until you're out the other side of 'giving up' and are in the place of seeing the benefits. Abstention is freedom and moderation is a trap. With moderation alcohol still has a noisy negotiating voice in your head, even if you're managing it (and really you're probably not, it's probably managing you).
With abstention the voice is gone (most of the time!) and you are free.
The language of abstention - sober, abstain, dry, giving up - is the language of loss and deprivation. But the true words should be freedom, self, peace, joy.

NotMiranda · 08/01/2026 14:50

I think some people can drink in moderation naturally, and others... just can't. My DM is one who can have one drink and then nothing else. I'm not; nor are my siblings, and nor was our father.

fragglerockless · 08/01/2026 14:59

It's so helpful reading everyone's progress, thank you for sharing.

This is now the longest I've not had alcohol for for at least five years. I'm feeling good. My sleep has been poor this past week, but last night was the best so far, so hopeful that an improvement is coming.

This week I haven't found the lack of alcohol much of a problem. A LOT of my headspace used to be caught up with whether I was going to drink that day and hopeful that my husband would suggest us having a wine that night. Literally every day I would think and hope about it, especially when it got to Wednesday and Thursday. Friday and Saturday was a given there'd be wine.

I have found it so freeing this week that there will be no wine, so no need to think about it. Having said that, I also feel that the weekend is looming and I hope that the feeling of resolve and acceptance continues.

Goandygo · 08/01/2026 15:12

@fragglerockless you're doing really well. I think for the weekend just one day ( for some, one hour works) at a time.
Concentrate on today and also how good you're feeling. Don't think too far ahead. If I do that, the seed gets planted.
Have you got other things to do at the weekend?
I find having a list helps, then if I get antsy, I look at it and find something to do.
I used to dread af weekends. I only ever managed 1. I'd get to 10 days, feel great then drink that weekend. But, here's the thing. I really enjoyed af weekends. To wake on Monday morning, feeling proud, clear headed, richer - and the house clean, laundry basket empty, is brilliant.
Last year I got used to af weekends and after a few months, it never occurred to me anymore.
I do understand why weekends are a problem though. It seems most of the population are gearing up to drink at the weekend ( no judgement btw).

SparkFinder · 08/01/2026 15:29

fragglerockless · 08/01/2026 14:59

It's so helpful reading everyone's progress, thank you for sharing.

This is now the longest I've not had alcohol for for at least five years. I'm feeling good. My sleep has been poor this past week, but last night was the best so far, so hopeful that an improvement is coming.

This week I haven't found the lack of alcohol much of a problem. A LOT of my headspace used to be caught up with whether I was going to drink that day and hopeful that my husband would suggest us having a wine that night. Literally every day I would think and hope about it, especially when it got to Wednesday and Thursday. Friday and Saturday was a given there'd be wine.

I have found it so freeing this week that there will be no wine, so no need to think about it. Having said that, I also feel that the weekend is looming and I hope that the feeling of resolve and acceptance continues.

You're doing great. Plan something nice into your weekend and go get some 'treats' on advance. If you used to buy wine ahead for the weekend go buy a lovely jar of bath salts, a magazine and fancy lemonade (or whatever frivolous equivalent you would enjoy) and know that you have a lovely relaxing time ahead. Or book the cinema one night, or a walk with a friend one morning, or whatever it takes for you to have something to look forward to.

SwiftyFifty · 08/01/2026 16:22

The "Moderation in Drinking is Healthy" Myth is Absolute Bullshit

Veteran here. Drank for 45 years. Over a year sober. Let me tell you about the biggest lie the alcohol industry ever sold us: that drinking in moderation is good for you.

It's not. It never was. And the science has been screaming this for years, but nobody wants to hear it.

THE RED WINE LIE

Remember when everyone said red wine was healthy? Good for your heart? Full of antioxidants? Yeah, about that.

You know what else has antioxidants? Grapes. Blueberries. Literally any fruit that hasn't been fermented into poison.

The "heart healthy" studies? Funded by the alcohol industry. Surprise, surprise. And when independent researchers looked at the data without industry money involved, guess what they found? No benefit. Zero. Zip. Nothing.

You want resveratrol? Eat a fucking grape. Don't pour ethanol down your throat and convince yourself it's medicine.

THE "MODERATE DRINKING" SCAM

Here's what they don't tell you about those studies that say "moderate drinkers live longer than non-drinkers":

They lumped former alcoholics—people who quit because alcohol was destroying them—in with lifelong non-drinkers. So yeah, people who quit drinking after decades of abuse have worse health outcomes than people who drink moderately. Shocking.

When researchers separate out the lifelong non-drinkers? Moderate drinkers don't live longer. They just die differently.

The World Health Organisation said it in 2023: there is no safe level of alcohol consumption. None. Not a glass with dinner. Not a beer after work. Not champagne at weddings. All of it increases your cancer risk. All of it damages your organs. All of it is literally poisoning you.

BUT WHAT ABOUT EUROPEAN CULTURE?

"But the French drink wine every day and they're fine!"

Are they? France has one of the highest rates of liver disease in Europe. Their life expectancy isn't significantly better than that of countries that drink less. And "they've always done it" isn't a health argument—people "always" smoked cigarettes, too.

Culture isn't science. Tradition isn't evidence. Just because everyone's doing it doesn't mean it's not killing them slowly.

THE TRUTH ABOUT WHAT ALCOHOL DOES

Every single time you drink—even "just one glass"—here's what happens:

  • Your liver stops everything else it's doing to process poison
  • Your brain cells are damaged (yes, even from one drink)
  • Your cancer risk increases
  • Your sleep quality decreases
  • Your gut lining gets inflamed
  • Your mental health takes a hit

"But I feel fine!" Yeah, so did I. For 45 years. That's how slow poisoning works. You feel fine until you don't.

WHY WE BELIEVE THE LIE

Because we want to. Simple as that.

We want to believe we can have our poison and our health too. We want to believe there's a safe way to do something that feels good. We want permission to keep doing what we're doing without guilt.

The alcohol industry knows this. They spend billions making sure you keep believing it. They fund studies. They lobby governments. They create campaigns about "responsible drinking" and "moderation" because if people realised the truth—that any amount is harmful—their entire business model collapses.

THE UNCOMFORTABLE TRUTH

There is no healthy amount of alcohol. There never was.

Every drink damages you. Some people's bodies handle that damage better than others. Some people get lucky genetically. Some people die at 90 having drunk every day. But that doesn't mean the alcohol helped—it means they survived in spite of it.

You know what actually improves your health? Not drinking poison. Radical concept.

WHAT ABOUT ENJOYMENT?

Look, I'm not here to tell you not to drink. You're an adult. Do what you want.

But stop lying to yourself that it's healthy. Stop pretending that glass of wine is medicine. Stop using fake science to justify a choice you'd make anyway.

If you want to drink, drink. But be honest about what you're doing: you're choosing temporary pleasure over long-term health. That's fine. People make that choice every day with all kinds of things.

Just don't call it healthy. Don't call it moderate and responsible and good for you. Call it what it is: a calculated risk you're taking because you enjoy it.

THE BOTTOM LINE

After 45 years of drinking and over a year sober, here's what I know:

The "moderation is healthy" myth is the alcohol industry's greatest achievement. They convinced the world that their product—a literal toxin, a Group 1 carcinogen—could be good for you if you just didn't overdo it.

It's genius marketing. It's also complete bullshit.

You want to be healthy? Don't drink. Want to reduce your cancer risk? Don't drink. Want better sleep, better mental health, better organ function? Don't drink.

Or drink. Your choice. Just stop pretending it's a health choice. It's not. It never was.

The truth doesn't care about wine culture, beer tradition, or cocktail hour. The truth is: alcohol is poison, and there's no healthy dose of poison.

applejar · 08/01/2026 16:56

chatgptsbestmate · 07/01/2026 20:27

Yes @applejar, I agree. It's the weirdest thing to know that the numbed feeling which we crave and love, is killing our brain and body. I totally get you

I know I can't drink alcohol again. What can we do to help you? ❤️🥰

Thanks everyone for the welcome 🙂

@chatgptsbestmate it's quite nice just to not feel alone in this. That's a big help already

@2026x I've never seen a therapist, no. I spent a large chunk of my 20s with a guy with alcohol dependency and other MH issues - looking back I wonder if there was undiagnosed ND there - but also he was in MN parlance a "cocklodger" and emotionally manipulative. I eventually ended things with him, but went through an awful period of living alone and treating myself really badly. I'm not sure anyone noticed what was happening to me. Occasionally I think about what that time was like and I feel sad for myself, but I don't think about it that often. I guess I've filed it away with other painful experiences in some kind of deep down painful experiences locker 🙄

I sometimes wonder if I should go to the GP and explain what happened and ask if I could still be referred - it's a while ago but it feels unresolved.

Sorry just replying quickly while the kids watch a bit of hey duggee, but will read the rest of the updates when they are in bed

chatgptsbestmate · 08/01/2026 17:55

@applejar sending hugs ❤️

freshstart2026 · 08/01/2026 17:59

I’m seeing friends this weekend and there will be lots of alcohol involved. I’m feeling miserable that I’ll be missing out on the drinks, but am trying to remember the aftermath - I’ve had so many nights where I’ve woken at 3am, head fuzzy, like I’ve been hit with a sledgehammer, anxiety through the roof, absolutely parched, feeling sick, stomach churning, heart racing. It’s awful.

Wishing14 · 08/01/2026 18:14

I also really recommend ‘sober instagram’ - follow every single sober account you like the look of, you can find them for any age (it’s not all young influencers!) , flick through when you’re struggling. It absolutely was what helped me in the early days.

Goandygo · 08/01/2026 18:27

@freshstart2026 keep playing it forward. You're not missing out, you're gaining a good night's sleep, clarity, no headache, no feeling sick, no feeling irritable, eating rubbish - the list is endless.
I often think back to the days when I was off work and I'd go to the shop, buy wine, beer and cigarettes ( I only smoke when drinking). Easily £50 to feel awful the next day.
Madness.
(Do you have to go ?
I don't think there's anything wrong in removing temptation by not going).

2026x · 08/01/2026 18:39

@freshstart2026if you go think you’ll find that once you order the first AF drink it’s actually pretty easy after that (that’s what I always find anyway). You may want to plan to be there for less time if everyone is drinking a lot - a couple of hours is always my max, that gives enough time for people to get loud and start repeating themselves, which is a good time to leave 😂

Notbwinetimeitsmyprimetime · 08/01/2026 19:20

Can someone explain to me "playing it forward"? Is it just thinking how it's nice not to be hungover? Thank you

Goandygo · 08/01/2026 19:24

Notbwinetimeitsmyprimetime · 08/01/2026 19:20

Can someone explain to me "playing it forward"? Is it just thinking how it's nice not to be hungover? Thank you

Yes, that's all it is really.
All those negatives connected with drinking - not only at the time, but the next day.

Notbwinetimeitsmyprimetime · 08/01/2026 19:35

Goandygo · 08/01/2026 19:24

Yes, that's all it is really.
All those negatives connected with drinking - not only at the time, but the next day.

Thank you!

enok · 08/01/2026 19:36

EnjoythemoneyJane · 08/01/2026 12:31

I’ve been back through the thread and picked up all the suggestions for booze substitutes (apologies if I’ve missed any!) and thought I’d drop it here in case it’s useful for anyone else.

Flavoured Teas
Fresh mint tea
Fresh juice (or juice + sparkling water)
Pomegranate with ginger and lemon
Cloudy apple juice + sparkling water
Ginger cordial + sparkling water
Ginger switchel (water, chopped ginger, apple cider vinegar + sugar or honey; dilute with sparkling water)
Ginger beer
Lime & Soda
Cherry & raspberry syrups (Polish section of supermarkets) + sparkling water + drop of almond essence with the cherry to make a mocktail
Tonic with ice & lemon

Trip
Dash
Libra
San Pelegrino flavoured sparkling water
Nosecco (rec: Aldi’s 0%)
M&S AF Gin
Three Spirit Nightcap (online only)
Mother Root
Fix8 Kombucha
Freixenet 0% sparkling (lots of people fans of this)
Peroni 0%
Becks Blue
Crodino + Fever Tree Blood Orange Tonic
Koppaberg AF Cider
AF gin (Sipsmith etc)
Robinsons Lime & Mint Cordial + tonic water
Good Rays CBD
Hip Pop Kombucha
Tinned Mocktails

I’d also add a good Virgin Mary, made with V8 or Big Tom and all the bits (celery salt, pepper, Tabasco, lemon & Worcestershire sauce).

And for all the ginger enthusiasts, Lidl have a really good, punchy natural ginger shot in small cans, but they also do larger bottles for about 3 quid. It’s brilliant with sparkling water.

Guinness 0.0% is my go to! It really does the job

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