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Calling time on wine: 100 days sober - starting 01/01/26

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reset100 · 27/12/2025 09:06

My wine drinking has slowly spiralled into a daily habit and I’m calling time on it. No drama, no rock bottom - just the realisation that it’s become a crutch and I want out of the swirl.

From 1st January, I’m committing to 100 days sober and I’d love others to join me. This isn’t about moderation or “just weekends” - it’s about a clean break and supporting each other to go completely alcohol-free for the full 100 days.

If alcohol has crept in as a daily default, if you’re tired of negotiating with yourself every evening, or if you simply want a proper reset with people who get it, you’re very welcome here.

No judgement. No pressure. Just accountability, honesty, and support.

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EnjoythemoneyJane · 07/01/2026 10:41

Day 8 for me and managed my first night of 8 hrs unbroken sleep since … actually no idea when, it’s so rare. So 🥳 I guess - a small victory!

Feeling quite thick-headed and groggy overall, though. Thanks to @SwiftyFifty for the timeline yesterday - it really helps to be able to manage your own expectations and not be disheartened that the gains don’t feel more significant in these early stages.

Congratulations to everyone who’s managed to stick with it despite challenging circumstances. A really bad day was always a huge trigger/excuse for me to properly push the boat out. (Mind you, so was a really good day, a minor celebration, a day with a y in it - y’all know the drill!)

Hope everyone has a good day today. Looking forward to us all helping each other make it to 100 days together.

paintcolourchart · 07/01/2026 11:13

@SwiftyFifty Ian Callaghan had a two part post yesterday about weight loss and wine belly. Very interesting. I'm sure you'll see it soon but just mentioning in case it doesn't pop up.

ThisIsMyBurnerPhone · 07/01/2026 11:14

Thank you @FizzPlease for all your practical suggestions and cheerleading. Congratulations on being nearly at one year. Amazing.

Thank you @SwiftyFifty for your informative posts. They’re great.

Thinking of you OP. Life has dealt you a terrible hand this week. Well done for being so positive and determined. We are all with you and I hope your car and health are both in good order again soon.

needastrongoneagain · 07/01/2026 11:59

Morning.

Thank you for that inspiring post @FizzPleaseand I really do mean that, as ‘inspiring’ is a word we like to throw around quite easily. I agree with you 100% that this thread is hugely motivating too. We are all in this together, bumps, cravings and slip ups I am sure will befall us all at some stage.

To empathise with others, I knew I needed to change when I was embarrassed putting all the wine bottles in the recycling bin, and use to put some in my car and take them to another bottle bank. Jeez - I have everything so dialled in re health and fitness etc, I’ve no fucking idea why I thought this was okay, or even all my healthy habits were negating drinking a bottle of wine a night.

@reset100 - bloody amazing for not caving given yesterday! Have you any news re the car?

@Goandygo I like the idea of planning and then forgetting and not dwelling. I am an overthinker too.

@freshstart2026 well done! Lean on that positivity and strength of character again. I’m sure it went better than you thought.

I’m on day 13, and totally empathise with feeling a touch flat the last few days. I have slept really well, but woken a bit thick headed, iyswim? It’s a bit better today.

SwiftyFifty · 07/01/2026 12:02

Wow @FizzPlease what an inspiring post. Well done on your sobriety. Yes I too feel like Wine was my best friend. Ridiculous really. The posts are lifted from Ian Callaghan and think they really give realistic expectations and goals. I did see the wine belly one other poster ( sorry can’t scroll up or I seem to lose my post) but I didn’t want to keep posting ( though people seem to find them useful) when it comes up again I will post.

NotMiranda · 07/01/2026 12:07

Last night was a bit of a struggle, but I distracted myself with over-elaborate packing away of the Christmas decorations. I shall be REALLY pissed off if any of them break in storage, as I've never used that much bubble wrap before!

I also recommend Goodrays CBD drinks, for those who like that sort of thing. Really nice flavours and regularly on offer, both online and in supermarkets.

needastrongoneagain · 07/01/2026 12:13

Happy for you to keep posting @SwiftyFifty! Love the posts.

While I remember, Hip Pop is a komboucha drink that is really nice, although I’m on herbal tea at the minute as it’s so cold!

SwiftyFifty · 07/01/2026 12:20

THE FRUSTRATION OF THE STUBBORN WINE BELLY

You are eating cleaner than you ever have. You are forcing yourself through gym sessions or long walks. You have cut down on the takeaways. Yet, when you look in the mirror, that distended, hard stomach remains. It sits there like a drum, refusing to soften or shrink.

This is not vanity. This is metabolic frustration. And for many of us who have spent decades enjoying a drink, it is a confusing reality. You might see weight loss in your face or your legs, but the midsection stays solid.

This is what we call visceral fat retention, often colloquially known as the wine belly. It is distinct from the soft, pinchable fat just under the skin. This is the fat that wraps around your internal organs, and it is notoriously resistant to standard diet and exercise advice.

WHY THE GYM CANNOT OUTRUN THE BOTTLE

The reason you cannot shift this weight with a simple calorie deficit or hours on a treadmill is that visceral fat is not just a storage issue. It is a hormonal and metabolic issue.

When you consume alcohol, your body views it as a toxin. Your liver pauses all other metabolic processes to metabolise the acetate from the alcohol. Burning fat stops completely. If you are drinking regularly, you are keeping your body in a state of suspended metabolic animation.

Furthermore, alcohol spikes cortisol, the stress hormone. High cortisol levels specifically instruct the body to store fat in the abdominal cavity to protect the vital organs during times of perceived stress. The result is that hard, protruding look that feels impossible to shift.

THE VISCERAL FAT DANGER

This type of retention is biologically active. It acts almost like a rogue organ, secreting inflammatory markers into your system. It crowds the liver, the pancreas, and the intestines.

If you have spent years drinking, you likely have a degree of fatty liver. When the liver is congested with fat, it cannot function efficiently to burn energy. You enter a vicious cycle: your liver is too stressed to burn fat, so it stores more fat, which causes more stress.

This is why traditional dieting fails here. You can starve yourself, but if your hormonal environment is geared towards preservation and inflammation due to alcohol and visceral stress, the belly stays.

45 YEARS OF DRINKING AND THE TURNAROUND

I speak from experience, not from a textbook. I spent 45 years drinking. I know the feeling of the bloating that does not go away in the morning. I know the lethargy that comes with carrying that extra internal weight.

I lost 5 stone.

I did not do this by spending hours in a gym punishing my joints. I did not do this by taking diet pills or buying into expensive gimmicks. I did not rely on shakes or meal replacements.

I did it by understanding that the problem was not just calories. The problem was toxicity and metabolic healing.

When you remove the inflammatory trigger—the alcohol—and focus on nutrient-dense foods that support liver function, the body begins to heal. It takes time. The visceral fat is often the last to go because the body protects it fiercely. But once the liver clears and the cortisol drops, the midsection finally starts to flatten.

THE MYTH OF MODERATION FOR WEIGHT LOSS

Many people try to negotiate with this fat. They switch to low-calorie mixers or spirits, thinking the sugar was the enemy. While sugar is a problem, the alcohol itself is the primary driver of visceral retention. As long as the liver is processing alcohol, it is not processing body fat.

If you are frustrated that your hard work is not paying off, you have to look at the chemistry. You cannot exercise away a hormonal block.

A SUSTAINABLE PATH FORWARD

Losing 5 stone after four and a half decades of drinking proved to me that the body is forgiving. It wants to heal. But you have to give it the right environment.

This requires a shift in mindset. It is not about deprivation; it is about liberation from the bloating, the indigestion, and the heavy visceral weight. It is about waking up with a flat stomach and high energy.

If you are stuck in the cycle of trying to out-train a bad diet or a weekend of drinking, stop. You are fighting a chemical war with physical weapons. It will not work.

Realise that you do not need a new exercise programme. You do not need a detox tea. You need to address the root cause of the retention. When you fix the metabolism, the weight follows.

I have done it. No gimmicks. Just clarity and consistency. If you are ready to shift the unshiftable, it starts with putting down the glass and letting the liver do its job.

SwiftyFifty · 07/01/2026 12:21

IF A MONTH WITHOUT ALCOHOL FEELS UNCOMFORTABLE, THAT’S THE POINT

If you’re doing Dry January, taking a break, or even just thinking about cutting back, this might be a hard truth to swallow.

If a month without alcohol feels uncomfortable, that discomfort is information.

It is not failure.
It is not weakness.
It is feedback.

Most people are taught to treat discomfort as something to eliminate as quickly as possible. To smooth it over. To distract from it. To drown it out.

Alcohol is very good at doing exactly that.

WHAT ALCOHOL IS ACTUALLY DOING

Alcohol has a very specific job.

Think about a typical evening.
You get to 6pm, the day finally slows down, and that restless edge kicks in. Your shoulders drop, but your mind doesn’t. There’s a low hum of tension underneath everything.

The drink isn’t about taste.
It’s not even really about pleasure.

It’s about switching something off.

It numbs.
It blunts.
It quietens things you don’t want to feel.

Stress.
Restlessness.
Loneliness.
Boredom.
Anger.
That low-level sense that something isn’t quite right, even when life looks fine on the surface.

Alcohol doesn’t create relief.
It postpones awareness.

WHY IT FEELS WORSE AT FIRST

When you remove alcohol, those things don’t suddenly appear out of nowhere.
They were already there.
Alcohol was just sitting on top of them, keeping the volume turned down.

So when people say they feel worse without drinking, what they usually mean is this:
They can feel again.

That can be frightening if you weren’t expecting it.
It can feel like you’ve made a mistake.

But that’s not a sign to go back.
That’s the signal you’ve been muting finally getting through.

DRY JANUARY, MISUNDERSTOOD

This is where most people misunderstand things like Dry January.

They see it as a cultural trend, a social media challenge, or a test of willpower, when it’s far more useful as a diagnostic tool.

It shows you what alcohol has been doing for you.
And what it has been covering up.

Instead, people treat it as something to endure.
A month to survive.
Thirty days to grit their teeth and count down.

That approach turns the whole thing into a battle.
And battles are exhausting.

WHAT TO PAY ATTENTION TO

Dry January isn’t about proving you can white-knuckle a month.
It’s about paying attention.

Noticing what shows up at 6pm.
Noticing which thoughts get louder.
Noticing which emotions you’ve been avoiding.
Noticing which parts of life feel empty or uncomfortable without a drink layered over them.

That information is gold.

Because you can’t change what you refuse to feel.
And you can’t heal what you keep numbing.

DISCOMFORT AS DATA

Discomfort is not the enemy here.
It’s the data.

It’s pointing you toward what needs care, adjustment, or support.
Not what needs to be silenced.

If a month without alcohol feels uncomfortable, don’t panic.
Don’t label yourself broken.
Don’t assume you’ve failed.

Nothing has gone wrong.

WHERE REAL CHANGE STARTS

Pay attention.

Listen to what your body and mind are trying to tell you without the anaesthetic.

That discomfort is showing you exactly where the work is.

And that’s where real change actually starts.

Save this for the moments when not drinking feels harder than drinking ever did.

Not to force yourself through it.
Not to prove anything.

But to notice what’s asking for your attention, now that nothing is numbing it anymore.

AuraBora · 07/01/2026 12:57

@SwiftyFifty These posts are really fantastic and really helping my mindset. Thank you for sharing and pls do keep on posting!

Iamateadrinker · 07/01/2026 14:17

Posting for accountability. All good here, however yesterday I had an irritating admin task to do at home. My first thought was " I'll have a glass of wine"
Then I sat and thought
How in the name of all that's sensible would that help?
Would the task miraculously get done?
Would I be able to do it any quicker/ better accompanied by wine?
No and no again
So I cracked on and felt very smug later( and a bit proud of myself to be honest)
However...it has shown me how near I am to breaking my promise to myself but also how I can achieve my goal.

anewyearthisyear · 07/01/2026 14:30

Did day 6 and felt pretty good about it. My triggers are definitely when I am hungry or thirsty. So I'm eating whatever I want whenever I want (mini christmas pudding for breakfast this morning - although in fairness that had nothing to do with craving wine). My general diet is pretty good - cook dinner from scratch, eat veg so I'm not too bothered about inhaling a bar or two of chocolate - better than necking a bottle of wine.

I also hid bottles in the kitchen and bathroom (can't believe I am saying that). Making dinner is a trigger - suspect that is true for a lot of women. So now I pour a glass of AF something when cooking and ask dh to keep me company - used to encourage the opposite when I wanted to sneak a drink.

I do feel a bit of a change in attitude. Finally I am not thinking "this is bloody unfair" and just thinking "you know there may be good times and happiness ahead without the wine"

thanks to @FizzPlease and @SwiftyFifty especially but to all of you for your posts.

2026x · 07/01/2026 15:10

anewyearthisyear · 07/01/2026 14:30

Did day 6 and felt pretty good about it. My triggers are definitely when I am hungry or thirsty. So I'm eating whatever I want whenever I want (mini christmas pudding for breakfast this morning - although in fairness that had nothing to do with craving wine). My general diet is pretty good - cook dinner from scratch, eat veg so I'm not too bothered about inhaling a bar or two of chocolate - better than necking a bottle of wine.

I also hid bottles in the kitchen and bathroom (can't believe I am saying that). Making dinner is a trigger - suspect that is true for a lot of women. So now I pour a glass of AF something when cooking and ask dh to keep me company - used to encourage the opposite when I wanted to sneak a drink.

I do feel a bit of a change in attitude. Finally I am not thinking "this is bloody unfair" and just thinking "you know there may be good times and happiness ahead without the wine"

thanks to @FizzPlease and @SwiftyFifty especially but to all of you for your posts.

So now I pour a glass of AF something when cooking and ask dh to keep me company - used to encourage the opposite when I wanted to sneak a drink.

I was always glad when my DP had stuff to do when I was cooking for the same reason

freshstart2026 · 07/01/2026 15:12

That low-level sense that something isn’t quite right, even when life looks fine on the surface

Thanks @SwiftyFifty for this gem from Ian C. I read it and instantly realised this is absolutely true for me. I’ve never been able to pinpoint the feeling before and have never seen it articulated, but this is exactly what makes me want to drink.

SwiftyFifty · 07/01/2026 16:17

It’s about this time of day esp wfh when I just get overcome with tiredness. By now I would usually have been doing a whoosh order buying random stuff I don’t need so I can throw in a bottle of wine. Or I would be doing the walk of shame to the local shop berating myself for not bulk buying in the weekly shop ( but knowing if I did I was just keep drinking it until it was gone)
I have always thought I was “ lucky” thst I had a few shops nearby so depending on the mood, if the first bottle went down too quickly I could go to the other one for the second bottle.
The Shame. A woman my age walking round the area half cut buying another bottle. The expense. The health risks.
I have despised this habit of mine now for years so it feels good to anonymously‘fess up. We have our own AA meeting here.

In other observations, I am peeing way more prob drinking less as not dehydrated and my wee doesn’t smell as strong, ( sorry if TMI) but I see this as a good thing.

CocoBean22 · 07/01/2026 16:42

Hi everyone! Really enjoying reading everyone’s updates here makes me feel less alone in my journey.

Day 2 for me today and I must say last night was my first night of no wine and I surprisingly dropped off to sleep quickly, HOWEVER I kept waking up every 30 minutes or so for the first half of the night 🫠
The sleep after having wine for so long is real 🤣
X

2026x · 07/01/2026 17:20

SwiftyFifty · 07/01/2026 16:17

It’s about this time of day esp wfh when I just get overcome with tiredness. By now I would usually have been doing a whoosh order buying random stuff I don’t need so I can throw in a bottle of wine. Or I would be doing the walk of shame to the local shop berating myself for not bulk buying in the weekly shop ( but knowing if I did I was just keep drinking it until it was gone)
I have always thought I was “ lucky” thst I had a few shops nearby so depending on the mood, if the first bottle went down too quickly I could go to the other one for the second bottle.
The Shame. A woman my age walking round the area half cut buying another bottle. The expense. The health risks.
I have despised this habit of mine now for years so it feels good to anonymously‘fess up. We have our own AA meeting here.

In other observations, I am peeing way more prob drinking less as not dehydrated and my wee doesn’t smell as strong, ( sorry if TMI) but I see this as a good thing.

Chat GPT says this is why!

When you stop drinking, a few things happen at once:

  • Glycogen stores refill (liver + muscles)
  • Each gram of glycogen holds ~3–4 g of water
  • ADH and kidney signalling normalise
  • Electrolytes rebalance
  • Inflammation drops

All of this temporarily increases total body water.
This is restorative water, not pathological swelling.
Is that water “meant” to stay?
Short answer: no, not all of it
There are two components:
✅ 1. Some water is appropriate to keep

  • Your body was slightly dehydrated when drinking regularly
  • Healthy glycogen storage includes some bound water
  • This is part of normal physiology

This portion doesn’t “come off” because it’s supposed to be there.
But…
🔄 2. The extra water does come off
The overshoot — the bloated, heavier-than-expected feeling — is temporary.
As:

  • hormones stabilise
  • kidneys recalibrate
  • stress levels drop

…your body lets go of the surplus.
This usually happens without you doing anything.
What people typically experience (timeline)
Days 1–7

  • Weight may rise quickly
  • You may feel puffy or heavy
  • Urination can be inconsistent

Weeks 2–4

  • Kidneys “find their set point”
  • Excess water is released
  • Weight trends back down

Weeks 4–8

  • Weight stabilises at a truer baseline
  • Often lower than pre-quitting weight
  • Fat loss becomes easier

A helpful way to think about it
Think of it like this:

  • Alcohol keeps you slightly chronically under-hydrated
  • When you stop, your body refills the tank
  • It slightly overfills at first
  • Then it settles at the right level

You don’t keep carrying the overflow.

SwiftyFifty · 07/01/2026 17:23

@2026xThis makes so much sense! Thanks you so much this really explains whst is happening with me. I think I was always really dehydrated before

SwiftyFifty · 07/01/2026 18:17

I’ve just been in Chat GPT first time! I think I’ve found my new bff ( bye bye wine)
Amazing You can ask anything “she” asked how much I drank ( no judgement) and gave me a plan to use over next few weeks re sleep and having a snack before bed etc. I’d recommend it if anyone is intetested.

freshstart2026 · 07/01/2026 18:52

I’ve had a crap day and would dearly love to drink a bottle of wine to drown my sorrows. How do others deal with this?

2026x · 07/01/2026 18:55

SwiftyFifty · 07/01/2026 18:17

I’ve just been in Chat GPT first time! I think I’ve found my new bff ( bye bye wine)
Amazing You can ask anything “she” asked how much I drank ( no judgement) and gave me a plan to use over next few weeks re sleep and having a snack before bed etc. I’d recommend it if anyone is intetested.

It’s pretty incredible. It gets some stuff wrong though (as in factual stuff) which is surprising so it’s worth cross checking stuff where accuracy really matters.

chatgptsbestmate · 07/01/2026 18:56

freshstart2026 · 07/01/2026 18:52

I’ve had a crap day and would dearly love to drink a bottle of wine to drown my sorrows. How do others deal with this?

Eat ASAP and shower/bed/book ❤️

2026x · 07/01/2026 18:57

freshstart2026 · 07/01/2026 18:52

I’ve had a crap day and would dearly love to drink a bottle of wine to drown my sorrows. How do others deal with this?

Wine will not make your day better. You’ll feel better for about 15 minutes then you’ll feel like you need to drink the rest of the bottle anyway, then you’ll have a shit night’s sleep, then you’ll wake up feeling hungover and disappointed that you drank. Everything that’s already happened to make today shit will still have happened but wine will make it worse 💪

freshstart2026 · 07/01/2026 19:28

2026x · 07/01/2026 18:57

Wine will not make your day better. You’ll feel better for about 15 minutes then you’ll feel like you need to drink the rest of the bottle anyway, then you’ll have a shit night’s sleep, then you’ll wake up feeling hungover and disappointed that you drank. Everything that’s already happened to make today shit will still have happened but wine will make it worse 💪

Thank you 🙏 This is all so true

JustAnotherDayWorkingAtHome · 07/01/2026 19:29

freshstart2026 · 07/01/2026 18:52

I’ve had a crap day and would dearly love to drink a bottle of wine to drown my sorrows. How do others deal with this?

I am eating black bomber cheese and doing a jigsaw puzzle then going to watch traitors and just keep occupied. I sometimes have a bath if had a bad day.

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