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Calling time on wine: 100 days sober - starting 01/01/26

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reset100 · 27/12/2025 09:06

My wine drinking has slowly spiralled into a daily habit and I’m calling time on it. No drama, no rock bottom - just the realisation that it’s become a crutch and I want out of the swirl.

From 1st January, I’m committing to 100 days sober and I’d love others to join me. This isn’t about moderation or “just weekends” - it’s about a clean break and supporting each other to go completely alcohol-free for the full 100 days.

If alcohol has crept in as a daily default, if you’re tired of negotiating with yourself every evening, or if you simply want a proper reset with people who get it, you’re very welcome here.

No judgement. No pressure. Just accountability, honesty, and support.

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cravingmilkshake · 04/01/2026 06:23

Good morning everyone .

a Sunday wake up with no hangover - well done everyone xx

Notbwinetimeitsmyprimetime · 04/01/2026 06:26

Morning all! Hope everyone is able to enjoy feeling fresh this morning, and if not, it's just the start of the journey - not the end.

SwiftyFifty · 04/01/2026 06:57

Morning. Yes no hangover but I CANNOT sleep! It’s taking two hours to get off then I wake at three and been up since half five. Forget the wine, I’m obsessed with my (lack of) sleep atm!

SwiftyFifty · 04/01/2026 07:07

Another good one from Ian Callaghan if you want to follow on FB

THE PHYSIOLOGY OF RECOVERY: A TIMELINE OF BODY REPAIR FROM DAY 1 TO DAY 365

Your body is the most sophisticated healing engine in existence. The moment you put down the substance—whether it is alcohol or another toxin—a massive biological engineering project begins.

Many people fear the cessation process. They worry about the cravings and the discomfort. However, they fail to realise that the discomfort is actually the sound of the engine restarting. It is the visceral feeling of a system coming back online after being suppressed for years.

Recovery is not just a mental battle; it is a physiological overhaul. Here is the roadmap of what happens under the bonnet from Day 1 to the one-year mark.

PHASE 1: THE ACUTE PURGE (DAYS 1 TO 7)

This is the most volatile period. Your body is screaming for equilibrium.

🚨 The Neurotransmitter Storm
For the first 24 to 72 hours, your central nervous system is in overdrive. Substances like alcohol act as a depressant. When you remove them, the brakes are gone, but the accelerator is still floored. This causes a massive spike in glutamate (the excitatory chemical) and a drop in GABA (the calming chemical). This imbalance manifests as anxiety, shakes, and sweating. It is simply your brain trying to recalibrate the dials.

🚨 The Sugar Crash
Your blood sugar levels go haywire. If you were drinking heavily, your body was used to a massive intake of liquid sugar. Without it, you crave sweets intensely. This is not a lack of willpower; it is physiological panic.

🚨 The Sleep Paradox
You are exhausted but cannot sleep. When you do drift off, you experience REM rebound—vivid, sometimes terrifying dreams. This is your brain attempting to catch up on years of lost deep sleep (REM) in a single week.

PHASE 2: THE ORGAN REPAIR (WEEKS 2 TO 4)

The acute danger has passed. Now, the heavy lifting begins in the vital organs.

🌿 Liver Decongestion
The liver is an incredibly forgiving organ. By week two, the inflammation begins to subside. The fatty buildup, known as hepatic steatosis, starts to reduce. Unless cirrhosis is present, the liver begins regenerating healthy cells at a rapid pace.

🌿 The Fog Lifts
That thick mental cotton wool dissipates. While concentration may still be tricky, you will notice moments of sharp clarity. This is the result of toxins clearing from the brain tissue and your blood pressure beginning to normalise.

🌿 Gut Biome Stabilisation
Substances wreak havoc on the gut lining. By the one-month mark, your digestion improves significantly. You start absorbing nutrients correctly again. This leads to physical changes you can see in the mirror: the grey or yellow hue leaves your skin, replaced by a healthier complexion as hydration levels return to optimal states.

PHASE 3: THE NEUROLOGICAL REWIRE (MONTHS 1 TO 3)

This is where the magic happens in the brain. It is also a danger zone for relapse because the 'pink cloud' of early sobriety fades, and the reality of life sets in.

🧠 Dopamine Recalibration
Your brain has relied on artificial stimulation for dopamine for a long time. Now, it must relearn how to produce it naturally. You might feel 'flat' or emotionally grey. This is distinct from clinical depression; it is a mechanical reset. The brain is literally growing new receptors to capture natural joy again.

🧠 The Prefrontal Cortex Awakens
This area of the brain handles decision-making, impulse control, and rational thought. It was dampened during active addiction. Now, it is coming back online. You start making better long-term choices rather than seeking instant gratification.

🧠 Physical Stamina
Your red blood cells are renewed (a cycle takes about 90 days). You have oxygen-rich blood pumping through a healthier heart. You might find yourself with unexpected energy for exercise, which further accelerates the healing process.

PHASE 4: THE STRUCTURAL SHIFT (MONTHS 3 TO 6)

Physiologically, you are much healthier. However, the brain is still undergoing deep renovations.

🧱 PAWS (Post-Acute Withdrawal Syndrome)
You might experience sudden waves of irritability or brain fog. This is the brain's final attempt to settle down. Neural pathways associated with addiction are being pruned away, and new pathways for healthy habits are being reinforced.

🧱 Grey Matter Growth
MRI scans of recovering individuals show that grey matter volume in the brain—which shrinks with heavy substance use—begins to return to normal levels. Your cognitive abilities, including memory, attention span, and spatial awareness, show marked improvement.

PHASE 5: THE TRANSFORMATION (MONTHS 6 TO 12)

By the time you approach the one-year mark, you are physiologically a different person.

💎 The Immune Fortress
Your immune system is robust. You succumb to fewer colds and viruses. Your body fights off infection efficiently because it is not constantly fighting off the toxin you were ingesting.

💎 Emotional Regulation
The emotional rollercoaster flattens out. You can handle stress without a chemical crutch because your cortisol regulation has normalised. You are no longer living in a state of chemically induced 'fight or flight'.

💎 The New Baseline
By Day 365, your risk of stroke, heart disease, and liver issues has dropped dramatically. Your bone density has likely improved. You have essentially built a new body from the inside out.

Recovery is not just a concept or a philosophy; it is a measurable, biological reality. Every single hour you abstain, you are funding a massive construction project within your own cells.

The machinery is working. Trust the process.

Which phase of this timeline did you find the most surprising? Let us know in the comments below.

#Recovery #Sobriety #HealthTimeline #BodyRepair #SoberLiving #AddictionRecovery #Biology #Wellness #MentalHealth #SoberLife
PS This is my personal experience, not medical advice. Everyone’s body, history, and risk is different. If you’re concerned about your health or safety, speak to a qualified medical professional.

Goandygo · 04/01/2026 07:14

Morning, all.
Day 2 ✅
Thanks for all the info @SwiftyFifty, I'm going to read it all properly and make a few notes to put in my journal.
Great to read so many of us hangover free.
( to the pp who accidentally sipped some beer - don't worry about it. Keep going).
I've a busy day so have to be mindful today, but I'm confident.

chatgptsbestmate · 04/01/2026 07:22

SwiftyFifty · 04/01/2026 06:57

Morning. Yes no hangover but I CANNOT sleep! It’s taking two hours to get off then I wake at three and been up since half five. Forget the wine, I’m obsessed with my (lack of) sleep atm!

@SwiftyFifty have you upped or are you taking Magnesium? For me, I'd suggest Magtein (Magnesium Threonate) but many people swear by Magnesium glycinate. Also a good strong multi B vitamin?

SwiftyFifty · 04/01/2026 07:31

@chatgptsbestmateyes I’m taking magnesium 3-in-1, vits D and B, milk thistle plus a few others! I was really active yesterday too did about 13k steps. Just have to ride it out…

SwiftyFifty · 04/01/2026 08:16

I don’t want to keep posting but do check out Ian Callaghan on FB he has sone really amazing advice about how to deal with the weekend. He’s only been sober a year too so more relatable to us newbies

reset100 · 04/01/2026 09:12

Sunday check-in (feeling smug… just tired 😴)
Very little sleep last night and I’m not panicking - apparently this is really common in the first week or two without alcohol. Your body’s basically recalibrating after years of being sedated rather than actually resting.

I’m tired, yes. But here’s the difference:
No hangover.
No anxiety spiral.
No racing shame thoughts.

Sharing in case anyone else had a broken night and is wondering if they’ve done something wrong - you haven’t. This phase passes. The good sleep comes back, and it’s proper sleep when it does.

Happy Sunday all x

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reset100 · 04/01/2026 09:14

ThisIsMyBurnerPhone · 03/01/2026 18:58

I’m struggling too. Home from holiday, busy day travelling. My STBXH was meant to move out while I was away with the DC, but instead he moved back into my bed! I’ve chucked him out of my room again, washed the sheets, but honestly just wanted to come home and start the year well, not deal with another broken promise. So angry and upset. I’ve gone to bed early with a cup of tea and will deal with him next week when the DC are back at school.

That’s frustrating! Stay in your lane and deal with him next week. 💪

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TwoNicePuppies · 04/01/2026 09:19

Thank you @SwiftyFifty I'm loving these informative posts; god the sugar cravings & vivid dreams are insane! My husband thought I’d been possessed last night, I ate 3 mince pies, 2 crumpets with honey on & a bag of truffles in the space of an hour! Whilst drinking I’d never touch anything sweet! Not worrying about weight gain, I’m sure it’ll settle in time. And my vivid dreams are often involving alcohol, last night it was at the Edinburgh Fringe where I go for a week every year, start drinking at noon each day & carry on until around 3am. I’d just ordered my pint when my dog jumped on my & woke me up, I was so relieved that I didn’t take a sip!!

Helplessandheartbroke · 04/01/2026 09:23

Morning op, the lack of sleep is torture! My mind is too busy for me to switch off! No hangovers is definitely a plus though

Miloarmadillo2 · 04/01/2026 09:38

I’ve had three nights of terrible sleep. I have suffered with insomnia for several years (thanks a bunch, peri) but was on a relatively even keel with continuous HRT and magnesium. Panicking I am back to the bad old days as I now can’t fall asleep in addition to the 3 am wake up. Helpful to read recent posts that it’s normal and I need to push through - thank you.

needastrongoneagain · 04/01/2026 09:40

Morning.

@SwiftyFifty I’m really enjoying your posts and I have started to follow Ian Callaghan on FB. please don’t stop - I imagine the text, wherever it’s coming from, is really resonating with many. Have you tried Ashwaganda? It’s a herbal supplement, the evidence is less strong than magnesium re its relaxing effects, but it completely zonks me out! Perhaps check for contraindications, but I’m pretty sure it’s typically safe. Otherwise any other sleep hygiene habits you can use? Cool bedroom, routine, no tech or TV in bedroom, mindfulness before sleep etc?

I stopped drinking after Christmas Day, so 26th December is my Day One, after a year really of cutting back significantly, a lot of false stops (and then start), learning first to moderate, having lots of drink free days etc. I was so hungover Boxing Day after a relatively small amount of alcohol I haven’t really been able to face it. I’ve only had one mild craving since then, but I think the last year has gradually got me to this - rather than it being some revelatory process over Christmas.

I found a podcast this last year called They Think it’s all Sober which I really like. On the face of it, I have absolutely nothing in common with two mid thirties blokes from the music industry that misused alcohol and also other substances and swear a lot - being a middle aged female that drank too much wine to self medication. However, they are surprisingly relatable and not at all judgmental if you are just sober curious.

Custardandcreams · 04/01/2026 09:51

Morning all, loving the no hangover and no fuzzy feeling this morning.
Got a busy day planned for today I’m feeling positive.
The first weekend is nearly done!!!

Toadsrevisited · 04/01/2026 10:27

Morning all! Had another epic sleep: 10 hrs each night I haven't been drinking. Feel so much clearer when I wake up too. Did find last night that I wanted lots of snacks but letting myself as mentally trading it off against calories in my usual half a bottle of wine a night. Finding tonic water with lime much better than AF wine which makes me want real wine.

Drinking had crept to to half a bottle every night over last year (big life events as excuse) and I need a reset in how I see evenings.

Toadsrevisited · 04/01/2026 10:29

I'm using the TryDry app and have promised myself the 'savings' for whatever treat I want at end of each month.

SwiftyFifty · 04/01/2026 10:37

Last one for today! I’m glad they

are helping others as they are me

NEW YEAR, NEW ME is the biggest load of horse shit sold to the British public every January.

If you have spent forty-five years drinking as I did, thirty-one days of white-knuckling isn't a transformation. It is a pause.

Stop looking for a miracle in a calendar month.

Nothing is wrong with you if you find this hard. You are not weak. You are not a failure. You are simply a human being who has spent decades using a chemical to regulate your nervous system.

I spent twelve years in the British Army and four decades at the bar. I know what it looks like to try to force change through sheer willpower. It usually fails because willpower is a battery that runs out by 6 PM on a Tuesday.

If you are serious about Dry January, here are ten things no one else will tell you because they are too busy trying to sell you a fucking app or a mocktail recipe.

  1. THE FIRST TEN DAYS ARE FOR SURVIVAL
Your brain is going to scream. Your sleep will be a mess. You will be irritable, snappy, and probably bored out of your mind. This isn't a sign that you NEED alcohol. It is a sign that your body is finally reacting to the absence of a toxin it has relied on for years. Don't look for clarity in week one. Just look for the pillow.
  1. STOP COUNTING DAYS LIKE A PRISONER
When you count days, you are focused on the distance from your last drink. It keeps the drink as the centre of your universe. If you are always looking back at the starting line, you aren't looking at where you are going. Stop the tally. Start the observation.
  1. BOREDOM IS NOT AN EMERGENCY
After decades of drinking, your brain is used to a massive spike in dopamine every evening. When you take that away, life feels flat. It feels grey. People call this boredom. I call it peace that you haven't learned how to sit with yet. Don't run from the quiet.
  1. YOU DO NOT NEED A LABEL
You don't have to call yourself an alcoholic to stop drinking. I didn't. I don't use labels, I don't go to meetings, and I don't follow twelve-step programmes. I just realised that alcohol was no longer serving the man I wanted to be. You can just decide you are done without joining a club.
  1. THE PUB IS NOT YOUR CHURCH
We are conditioned in the UK to think the pub is the centre of the community. For many of us, it was just the office where we did our drinking. If you go there in January and try to drink lime and soda while everyone else gets hammered, you will be miserable. You aren't missing out on connection. You are missing out on a repetitive loop.
  1. EXPECT YOUR FRIENDS TO BE WEIRD
When you stop drinking, it holds up a mirror to everyone else. Some people won't like what they see. They will try to coax you back. Just have one. It is only January. They aren't worried about your thirst; they are worried about their own habit.
  1. EMOTIONAL OBSERVATION OVER WILLPOWER
I developed the Emotional Observation Method (EOM) because fighting an urge is like trying to hold back the tide with a bucket. Instead of fighting the urge, sit and look at it. Where is it in your body? What triggered it? When you observe a feeling, you are no longer the victim of it.
  1. YOUR WEIGHT MIGHT NOT DROP IMMEDIATELY
Everyone expects to wake up ten pounds lighter by January 15th. It doesn't always work like that. Your body is healing from years of inflammation and metabolic damage. Give it a fucking break. Focus on the internal repair, not the scales.
  1. THE GOAL IS NOT TO BE SOBER
The goal is to be present. Sobriety is just the baseline. The real work is figuring out why you wanted to be absent in the first place. Use this month to look at the gaps in your life that you usually fill with wine or lager.
  1. JANUARY IS A DATA COLLECTION PERIOD Don't view this as a test you can pass or fail. View it as an experiment. What happens to your temper? What happens to your anxiety? What happens to your bank balance? Even if you slip up, the data you gathered about your behaviour is still yours.

I quit after forty-five years because I was tired of being a spectator in my own life. I didn't need a slogan. I needed the truth.

This isn't about becoming a new you. The old you is still in there, just buried under decades of habit and routine.

You are not losing a friend. You are removing a weight.

Stability first. Enjoyment later.

How many Januaries have you spent promising yourself this would be the one?

SwiftyFifty · 04/01/2026 10:54

@Toadsrevisited 10 hours! I haven’t slept that long since I was a baby! This is the dream good on ya!

freshstart2026 · 04/01/2026 10:58

I LOVE these posts @SwiftyFifty - thank you! I’m going to give his FB page a read.

I must admit I’m struggling today - usually we’d be off to the pub or have a meal out on a Sunday. I can’t face going out because I’d just want a drink, plus it’s freezing cold. I guess I feel a bit bored and flat (but maybe as Ian G says it’s just peace I haven’t learnt to sit with yet).

I’m feeling anxious because I have an assessment day for a potential new job next week. I’d really like a glass of wine or three to take my mind off it.

SwiftyFifty · 04/01/2026 11:02

@freshstart2026 I love nothing more than doing my housework then tucking into a bottle about two. I’ve book the cinema this afternoon specifically to avoid this and was out for hours yesterday- personally I find it helps to go out rather than stay in the house. good luck with the assessment

chatgptsbestmate · 04/01/2026 11:02

freshstart2026 · 04/01/2026 10:58

I LOVE these posts @SwiftyFifty - thank you! I’m going to give his FB page a read.

I must admit I’m struggling today - usually we’d be off to the pub or have a meal out on a Sunday. I can’t face going out because I’d just want a drink, plus it’s freezing cold. I guess I feel a bit bored and flat (but maybe as Ian G says it’s just peace I haven’t learnt to sit with yet).

I’m feeling anxious because I have an assessment day for a potential new job next week. I’d really like a glass of wine or three to take my mind off it.

Totally get this. Alcohol makes the boring and the stressful fuzzy and get throughable

Now we have to find another way through! It's not easy

Goandygo · 04/01/2026 11:20

No, it's not easy.
I find it easier though to stay in, than go out. There can be too many temptations outside, though of course I go out lots of times and don't buy it / drink.
Today is a very special birthday celebration for one of my favourite people. We're going to the pictures, for a meal then a pub.
I've already got the Wine Witch on my shoulder.
But, I actually think I can do it 💪

freshstart2026 · 04/01/2026 11:29

I think I need to get out of the mindset that the weekend, this month, the next 100 days are something to be “got through” until I can have a drink again. I’m not sure how though!

Toadsrevisited · 04/01/2026 11:42

@freshstart2026 I keep.telling myself that not drinking is easier than going for a run in the cold :)

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