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Coming down to earth - alcohol and stress

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Tonight1 · 02/12/2023 13:33

I've had an awful lot of stress on past few weeks and have been reliant on alcohol. Currently have a screwdriver.

I got screamed at so much about prostitutes and being ugly recently as I cut my hair and got pushed down the stairs and have been in A&E. Missed out on a project I really wanted as I didn't check emails for 3 days. Someone on the run gave my address so police round looking for him all the time.

Family issues as well and really worried about a friend.

So I need to come down from alcohol, I was given 2 weeks valium from doc so I guess I could start those and go for walks and brace it out?

I did want to NC but then thought no point :)

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TwilightSkies · 02/12/2023 15:34

Who pushed you down the stairs?

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Tonight1 · 02/12/2023 15:45

Friend I live with - it wasn't malicious but I banged and tripped and fell.

Actually this will recover, I have a new project now and will start trying to eat again properly and may start the diazepam. It was reserved for stopping smoking but I guess I could use it now.

Luckily it's the weekend so I can think about things and get back on my feet.

Thanks!

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BeckyAMumsnet · 02/12/2023 17:05

Hello @Tonight1 we're sorry to hear what you're going through. We've moved your thread over to the Alcohol support board. We'd also strongly advise contacting your GP again for additional help.

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Tonight1 · 02/12/2023 17:37

Hi it's been moved here. I started in chat as it's more traffic. Still only on first screwdriver (vodka orange juice and ice) but engineer coming round tonight to fix heating so cup of tea after that.

I'll try to think more about longterm but yes gp very helpful. They want to help me move first and not be in any threat

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pontipinemum · 05/12/2023 14:32

@Tonight1 Hi, how are you feeling now? Who screamed at you about prostitutes?

Have you had a chance to book a GP appointment? I think you need some support around you. But feel free to let your inner thoughts flow on here. Believe I will not judge you. x

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Tonight1 · 05/12/2023 19:23

@pontipinemum thank you that's kind.

It's been very stressful past month as friend I live with came in the front door then screamed his head off about how I was uglier than the prostitutes he goes to as I cut my hair short. That upset me so much I lost a project which I really wanted. It was the prostitute bit not the ugly bit and him shouting which upset me and I didn't check my emails for a few days so missed deadline.

Elderly parent end of life.

Police round frequently as previous occupier gave this address as condition of bail until trial. I'm getting fed up of scampering around after them examining every inch of the place. He's not here.

Yes medics have been very helpful, have 2 weeks supply of valium (absolutely can't stand them) but I'll start taking it on Friday and stop alcohol then.

All seems to be police police police

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pontipinemum · 05/12/2023 21:25

@Tonight1 your friend doesn't sound like much of a friend. Do you live with him?

That's a pity you lost out on the project but I think you need to try and not dwell on that. Maybe it wasn't the right time for you to do doing a project.

I am very sorry to hear about your parents end of life treatment. I have been through it it is a truly awful experience

That's good about the valium I guess, I've never had it so IDK what it's like. But would they be able to get you in contact with anyone to talk to? I think it sounds like that is the most important thing for you to do. Your thoughts sound a bit jumbled. Is there a reason you are waiting until Friday to stop drinking?

Finally, the police, not I also know nothing about that but could you possibly go to the station and make a declaration or something that the person they are looking for does not live there and that you would like them to stop calling! It sounds on the verge of harassment

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Tonight1 · 06/12/2023 07:14

Yes think I've managed to stop police.

You have been very kind, thank you.

Coming down from alcohol Friday so 🤞

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Tonight1 · 06/12/2023 07:18

Oh Friday is only just it gives me a couple of days to calm down and start walking and herbal tea again

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pontipinemum · 06/12/2023 10:35

@Tonight1 have you ever tried the AA? I went for a while. I found it a really open and honest place where you could talk about what is going on in your life. I don't go anymore but I honestly wouldn't be where I am or who I am without them

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Tonight1 · 08/12/2023 09:17

pontipinemum · 06/12/2023 10:35

@Tonight1 have you ever tried the AA? I went for a while. I found it a really open and honest place where you could talk about what is going on in your life. I don't go anymore but I honestly wouldn't be where I am or who I am without them

Really glad that worked for you 💐

I've been given the address for a cafe near my house which opens until midnight so will start visiting today. It's for anyone going through a crisis. No later than 9pm though.

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pontipinemum · 08/12/2023 12:39

That could be very interesting. It will be good for you to get out there and talk to people who you can relate to

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Tonight1 · 16/12/2023 06:43

It does sound interesting. I haven't been yet but I have a large medical centre near me and it's part of that.

I've been a bit absorbed with Xmas prep and other stuff but I'd like to go and chat to staff and hear other people's experiences.

Really pleased though that you sorted it out :)

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Tonight1 · 30/12/2023 18:51

@pontipinemum it's going really well. I think it was about 2-3 weeks I was drinking masses. Under a lot of stress, but still...I don't want to do that again.

Still haven't taken any diazepam or been to cafe though. I was visiting relative in hospital then tried to take a short cut back home and stumbled across a really beautiful park with lots of trees and benches so sat there for a few minutes. I'm sure the old building at top of the park is where the cafe is. It's for anyone really, stress, loneliness, any kind of problem. Seems like a nice facility. I'll scout it out first then go over for a cup of tea or coffee. If I don't like it I don't have to go again!

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pontipinemum · 01/01/2024 19:15

Exactly and if you really don't like it you don't need to stay although as with all things I would recommend you give it a decent shot before just leaving

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