I’m a disgrace

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Done it again. Was doing so well then 72 hours bender. Everyone hates me. I’m a mess

Get yourself to an AA meeting. They’re on 24 hours a day online. Google!

I’m not in a fit state for it but thank you for answering

I’m a mess

What brought it on?

Its anxiety. It is NEVER as bad as you think. Lots of water, tea a bath and be kinder to yourself. You can start again tomorrow xxx

Please go to AA either online or face to face. You will get help and support there from people who’ve experienced what you are going through.

Sorry to hear this OP, first off if you’re feeling rough get some food, a nice hot bath and some painkillers down you.

How long had you stayed sober up until this point? Is there someone you can talk to irl, you can get help and start again.

AA meetings will have seen it all and with respect, when you feel you're in no state, that's probably when you need their help the most. Good luck

Are you unwell? Do you need medical treatment?

If not - sleep, rehydrate, eat…and go to AA.

Nobody can fix this for you but you. But the good news is, you don’t ever need to feel like this again if you get help

Sorry can’t name check everyone but I really appreciate your answers. I honestly can’t say what brought it on. I’ve no excuses. I’ve a great life. I’m just a dick

I don’t need medical treatmen

Your not a dick you just lost control and drank too much. You will get through today and feel like shit. You need self care. Water, food, rest. Get all that first then tomorrow look online or speak to someone. Try some podcasts or audio books to listen to... they will distract from the intrinsic thoughts. You will be able to face things better tomorrow honestly. X

Stop beating yourself up over it, we all fuck up now and again. Tomorrow can be a fresh start.

Be kind to yourself.

I just feel like such a loser. I’ve tried so hard but I’m just spoiling everything. It’s shit

sending strength and solidarity

ive been where you are time and time again

im still not sober today, but after so many days like the one you are describing I have learned to (mainly) keep a handle on it.

who do you feel you have upset?

try and reconcile there is a chemical comedown going on in your body which will make you feel anxious, low and ashamed. It doesn’t mean you are a bad person. Today is a new day, one for recovery. Tomorrow is a fresh start once again.

eat and drink a little something if you can. Also recommend that hot shower or bath and podcasts great for getting out of your own head

Look, you've said you have a problem and it's clear you're trying to overcome it. If you really want help log onto an online AA meeting today. Start moving forward with your addiction.

I’ve upset all my family. They hate me being the drunk one. Other than that I’m great!

I agree with the others, don't beat yourself up.

Have a bath or shower, tidy up, have a cup of tea and something to eat if you can manage it.

And then start again. Day 1.

💐

You're not a dick OP. C'mon, what would you say to a friend in this situation? Have a wash, food, sleep - basic self care and then have a think about why you drink and what you can do instead - sounds glib but there's always a reason. For me it's a mixture of decompressing and insomnia. I'm not very good at stopping but I have started to successfully replace drink with other things.

Most addictions are rooted in trauma or neurodivergence. Blame and self blame isn't helpful. Assuming you want some kind of resolution, a change will be necessary. Drink is a symptom of avoidance.

Okay.
So this may sound harsh but..

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Yes , you messed up but now you need to work at putting it right. Had you been to AA meetings before ? Do you have a sponsor or fellow member you can call ? Addiction is hard and life long and you need to work so hard to keep sober. The work you have done before will not have been wasted but you need to start it again.
Go to a meeting , phone someone or see the gp. Time to start again

Nag over. You can do this

There’s a lot of talk of AA, which I know has helped a lot of people. I was never brave enough to go to a meeting, although I did look at some of their online resources

what ultimately helped me (and my conscience) was breaking down in front of those I love the most and telling them I’m aware I had a problem and I’m sorry for hurting them. Once you do that, you’ve got to be committed to change your behaviour though, so don’t do it lightly.

I think most people giving up alcohol have relapses, it honestly is usually par for the course.

Just sober up, feel better, and start again. One day at a time.

Thanks everyone. I really want to be a better person but I don’t know how to do it

You treat each new day one at a time and you take all the help you can. You also make your own help. What you’re writing is how I was 8 years back.

I was a bloody mess. The shame and comedown got so bad in the end that I was never sober as those feelings were so horrific I just drank them away each day. I almost lost everything. Don’t get to that stage. You can get off the bus anytime, but YOU have to be the one to make that jump. Sure, you may hop back on every now and again. But it’s down to you and no one else. Best wishes.

You’ve had some good advice on here - maybe follow some suggestions?
Alcoholism is a progressive illness and unless you address the problem it will only get worse.
I don’t mean to sound harsh but please get the help you need and deserve.