My husband is a binge drinker and has been for a lot of our marriage. We're currently at a crisis point (again) because he's off work with stress (again) and I asked him not to drink but he's been on two massive benders in the last week. I lost my temper with him and said that enough is enough. He's in a massive strop with me and sleeping on the couch.
The problem is that we've been here lots of times before. I don't like the stress and forgive him and then the drinking sneaks back in. But this time I'm putting my foot down properly. He currently drinks heavily every Friday, Saturday and Sunday. Mostly goes to the pub and I'm scared of him driving so I drop and collect him. But he never wants to leave and I end up sipping non-alcoholic beers I don't want, getting home later than I want and having my sleep disrupted. His drinking is taking over my whole life and I feel like if I don't disengage I'll waste the rest of my life on his crap.
I'm just looking for any words of advice on the disengaging bit. I'm a total control freak and obviously the fact that I'm always looking after him is giving him no motivation to quit. I was thinking about Al Anon meetings but I'm not even sure if he's an alcoholic as he does shift work and doesn't struggle with having no alcohol when working nights.