Anyone want to join me for 30 day Annie Grace no alcohol experiment starting 1st November ?

[easterdaffsx]

Just that really .
I'm really going to have a good go at this and I'm scared .
The thought of 30 days AF terrifies me and that's why I know I need to do it.
Trying to balance a v stress job/ 12- 14 hours a day/long commute/ children and a a fabulous relationship which I'm currently putting pressure on with my drinking .
Anyone want to hand hold or do this with me pls would be great ?

For fuck sake, get to our hotel and there's a bottle of champagne awaiting me, ordered by my best mate for my birthday (who knows I'm not drinking) having spoken to my partner last night who told her "I might have a glass if she orders it" very thoughtful and all but fucking hell people just don't get it do they? So hard to resist but I've sent him downstairs with it to tell them I'm pregnant and swap it for a mocktail. I really really wanted it too :( danger danger everywhere....

Other people are definitely the hardest part of not drinking....

@bella1426, yep. I have this all the time....."Just have one" or "you're not that bad" or "there's worse than you."
It's so draining.
Well done for sending it back. You can and will have a lovely time without drinking.

Blimey @bella1426, well done for resisting! I’m sure I’d have been so strong. I’d be pretty pissed off with your partner and friend if I were you, though.

@Amdone123 that lack of support is disappointing. Maybe they feel threatened or judged about their own drinking? Everyone I’ve told so far has been great; I think they!re relieved I’m doing it.

Guys thank you for this. I was really hankering for a drink tonight as I’m heading out but I’ve just read your posts and I feel reenergised now. ❤️❤️

@PromisesMeanNothingSue, I know but it's the way it can be sometimes in our society. It definitely says more about others. It's the only drug that people encourage you to take.

@Muttly, that's great. Have a great time and remember how good you'll feel in the morning.

Just back in after a lovely meal out with friends. After reading your posts I wasn’t even tempted. The “not having the first drink” and how we get a buzz 20 minutes after that drink and spend the rest of the night chasing that buzz really resonated with me. Thanks guys.

@Muttly, well done. You can do this !
So true about having that first one. One is too many and a thousand not enough !

Just re-read my last post… I meant not sure I’d have been so strong, obviously!

@Amdone123 absolutely. I was listening to this interview with the wonderful David Nutt today - - and he talks a lot about the fact that society/the media/the govt won’t acknowledge that alcohol is a drug, and one of the most harmful ones, at that. Acknowledging the fact would mean people having to think about their drug habit, the drinks industry’s profits would be at risk, and it would open up a sensible conversation about the relative harms of various illegal drugs, and whether they should remain illegal or not.

Well done @Muttly!

I can’t believe how different I feel this time round. Like the penny’s dropped. I credit the David Nutt book the most, but I’m also enjoying the Annie Grace course - I signed up but hadn’t realised I needed to activate it, so I’m on day 5 or something of the Alcohol Experiment, but day 13 alcohol free.

@PromisesMeanNothingSue, wow. Well done on Day 13 - that's brilliant. So true that sentiment. I remember another poster somewhere or other saying that in 10 years time, we'll look on it like smoking ( rightly so in my opinion, but others who can just ' enjoy ' it would probably disagree).
I've got many neices and nephews and their idea of a good night out is eating. They're all Foodies, I like that. Though they do ( not all) smoke weed. That's not for me. I remember talking to a colleague years ago ( teachers), and she suggested this for me. I was appalled. I've never taken a drug ( apart from alcohol).

I fell off the wagon 😭 so hungover on my birthday...back to day 1 again 🤬🤬🤬

@bella1426, happy birthday 🎂
Be good to yourself today. A hot bath, lots of tea, a nap, chocolate, cake - whatever it takes.
Tomorrow is a new day and a new start. Make a plan. It will all be ok in thee end.

@Amdone123 thank you, sounds lovely but am in airport about to get on a flight hell 😭
Tomorrow is a fresh start though, lesson learned (again)

Happy Birthday @Bella1426 I think it’s ok to fall off the proverbial alcohol horse and get back on again :)

Day 16 here. Life is really crap just now but I know drinking will just intensify all my negative feelings so hanging on in there as from previous experience I am likely to say or do something I’ll regret later.

@IJustLovePirates, well done on Day 16. That's great. I'm up n down but I'm concentrating on the next 10 days af and eating properly. Not quite baby steps ( though I do take it one day at a time), but I know from experience that 10 days can be good for me.

Day 16
Dd now got COVID and burning up
Dp away
Ds supposed be coming home from this weekend for a long awaited planned and expensive 18th gift which can't be postponed
I sooooooo need some wine right now

Oh no easter what rotten luck. All the best to your DD?

No to wine though well done on day 16.

Thanks Muttley
No wine
It's passing .... eating cake instead ! (Rolls out of the room )

I’m eating crisps nom nom no wine here either

@easterdaffsx, well done on Day 16 ! That's great. Your poor dd. Hope she's feeling bit better tomorrow.
The feeling will pass, it always does. @Muttly, enjoy the crisps. I'm trying to lose some pounds for my winter holiday so not drinking wine obviously helps enormously. The problem is I can't eat crisps or chocolate to offset the wine craving. I can have a few treats of course but actually you've reminded me to get some low calorie nibbles in. Thanks!!

Day 17and I’ve also succumbed to falling of the alcohol horse. I’ve been crying for a few days about a family situation and had to take Valium to sleep last night as I was both angry and distraught.

@IJustLovePirates, sorry to hear you're distressed.
Look, you got 16 days af - that is hard to do. It's hard when life gets in the way, especially when it's something causing you heartache.
Just take it one day at a time. I hope the family situation eases up a bit but please be good to yourself. You did what you could. You haven't killed anyone - you gave it your best shot.
I haven't had 16 af days. I've had 12. But I'm seeing that as a positive. Because it is.
Sending you strength. Keep posting if you need to vent.

My mum died in Scotland. There was a bit of a time lapse where they forgot to call me n the other side of the world so I found out but text,

My e x husband was at funeral. He previously tried to rape me

I’m now drunk and very distressed

Am disappointed I was doing so well

Sorry. Think am drunk but not troll….. am genuinely crying

So sorry for your loss @IJustLovePirates. 💔