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Alcohol support
I'm spiralling
SauvyB · 07/09/2020 02:06
I've been drinking way too much recently. I'm just getting so drunk every time and can never just stop.
Urgh. I feel sick even admitting this 
SauvyB · 07/09/2020 02:08
I'm not an alcoholic FYI.
Thinking of doing 100 days sober... if anyone would like to join me?
MissSmiley · 07/09/2020 02:26
Hi OP why do you think you're spiralling? What's causing it?
SauvyB · 07/09/2020 02:28
Not sure 😢. Lots going on...
Just feel like I drink till I pass out. I never, ever say no to an extra glass of wine.
Drank 3 bottles with my friend yesterday over a causal lunch and DH not happy.
Couchbettato · 07/09/2020 02:37
Alcohol abuse can also mean just misusing alcohol and not drinking responsibly.
Alcohol addiction doesn't mean 24/7 drinking, but usually drinking in response to needing an emotional outlet, whether that's just social lubricant- but on the regs, to physical dependency.
If you need alcohol to get the situation going, or you can't say no once it's flowing, you could be misusing alcohol.
It doesn't sound like you have a physical addiction to it, but alcohol misuse/abuse can easily lead to addiction and addiction recovery should be medically supervised.
Don't think DH getting annoyed at you will help. If you're an emotional drinker you're likely to misuse alcohol more to de-stress from the tension.
SauvyB · 07/09/2020 03:00
Definitely misusing.
The best part of my day has been at 7pm when the first glass is poured. I only have a couple a night... but it's going from a couple, to three, to 4. To hangover and that's just in the week.
SauvyB · 07/09/2020 03:02
@MissSmiley hmm, nothing too serious.
Fallen out with a friend which has affected me. She was a complete user and happy to be rid of her but feeling very sad about it.
One of my grandparents has been really ill too.
Moved house
Going back to work soon too which I feel sick about!!!! Been on MAT leave for 6 months!
MissSmiley · 07/09/2020 03:03
I don't think that sounds too bad, you've identified that you would rather drink less, why don't you only drink at the weekend? If you can't manage it then you need to cut it out completely for a while
MissSmiley · 07/09/2020 03:04
How do you manage a six month old baby after four glasses of wine though, do they sleep through every night?
SauvyB · 07/09/2020 03:08
Yeah, they sleep through. It's rare I'd have 4 glasses tbh and that would be between 7pm and 11pm...
I can cut it out easily. I've just spiralled out of control. It's just adding up and I've been pissed every night for a week.
I hate myself for it and have the worst anxiety. I just need to stop drinking for a good stint.
I'm worried I have a real dependency on it / unhealthy relationship.
MissSmiley · 07/09/2020 03:11
A week isn't long, some people get pissed every night for years, alcohol can definitely make you feel more anxious though, if you fancy doing a 100 days sober I'll join you, I've been drinking every day too, not loads but I can't tolerate it like I used to and I would really like to give up for a while
SauvyB · 07/09/2020 03:13
That would be great @MissSmiley
I've said above I'd find it easy to cut out... I think I'm kidding myself.
I know I can cut it out but I'll feel rubbish not drinking so it will be great to have moral support.
Why do you drink every day?
I think mine is defo from boredom as well. Mum life can be quite mundane.
MissSmiley · 07/09/2020 03:17
I partly drink every day because my ex hates it and I do it to piss him off, I've had a lot going on in my life lately and it's escapism really
MissSmiley · 07/09/2020 03:18
I've got to be up for work in 3 and a half hours so I'm going to try to sleep, but I'll come back tomorrow and we can make a plan :-)
Coyoacan · 07/09/2020 03:25
May I recommend that you supplement heavily with vitamin B complex, as alcohol drains vitamin B out of the sytem.
OverTheRubicon · 07/09/2020 10:13
You're drinking 4 glasses of wine a night, sharing 3 bottles with a friend, can't start drinking without getting drunk and it's causing issues in your relationship. You absolutely are an alcoholic.
An alcoholic in charge of a 6 month old baby.
It's so great that you are seeking help, it will be so much easier for you to benefit from it once you accept the situation.
Twickerhun · 07/09/2020 10:20
Op I have very young children too so I totally get how easy it is to go from 1 a night to 4 a night without noticing but you need to think about your DC. How can you care for them if you are drunk and then hungover? What if they get sick in the night? I try to go for a few nights in a row now without a drink. And then a limit of two small glasses if I do drink so I’m always safe to co- sleep or assess of my kids need help. It’s too easy to stretch the limits. I take it you don’t BF?
iswhois · 07/09/2020 10:20
I can't stop drinking once I start so I find it easier just to not start!
Even if you aren't dependent per se or experience withdrawals without it, you still have a problem with drinking if like me you can't control yourself on it. Normal drinkers can go out for a couple of glasses and actually have a couple of glasses- I drink the pub dry every time.
Els1e · 07/09/2020 15:06
I’m like this. I did dry Jan. Missed my wine but got through. But I’ve been steadily creeping back up. I find it really difficult to just have a couple of glasses and usually end up finishing the bottle. I’m having another go at getting control and was going to do dry Sept and Oct but I’ll join you for the 100 day challenge.
MissSmiley · 07/09/2020 18:51
Hi again OP and everyone else, I've given up for whole years before when I was doing ivf so I know I can handle the social stuff but it's hard, going to start today and see how long the 100 days goes first
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