Less wets, more dry, sometimes damp. We are tryers to be dryers. Thread 3!

[Frouby]

New thread for those wanting to reduce alcohol. Always supportive and friendly. No judgements, just support to get to where we feel comfortable with our relationship with alcohol. All welcome.

Am a bit rubbish with clicky links but there are previous threads.

I think I’d be alright if it wasn’t for wine. Maybe I’ll try and be hypnotised out of it, like I was with fags. I can control beer, gin and all other alcohol. It’s just wine that is so moreish.
I convinced myself I’d been saving up for a bottle last night after a few AF days in the week. So of course I had more than I planned.
Ridiculous. It’s good to be aware though. This week’s been better than last, so next can be better still. Learning from mistakes and all that.

Yes I hear you NC4. I shared a bottle with DH as well as the drinks I'd already had. This was too much, really, because when the kids got me up I didn't feel rested and I've been crabby with them this morning. Today is another day.

NC4 maybe you could set a maximum number of units per week as well as 2 days AF minimum? To avoid going OTT on the evenings you do drink (the reward reflex!). I try and stick to 10 units a week which is one bottle of wine over 3 days (4 nights AF). Although with DP being around quite a lot recently I've failed on both fronts over the last 2 weeks having had a year of sticking to my rules religiously - more like 2 nights AF and 20 units in a week

That's a really good idea Anglaise. I definitely need to do that as I fell foul of the 'reward impulse' last night. Felt v annoyed as I'd wiped out the 'good' of my 5 nights AF this week prior to last night. But on reflection those nights were AF so were a good step. Onwards!

That’s what I used to do when I lived with ex-H. I’d have a bottle of wine one night at the weekend and maybe 2 g&ts the other.
Since I left him and have no-one judging my drinking I’ve had zero self control.
I should set myself that again.

I’ve been offered wine at play dates too!! Also school functions seem to have a backdrop of alcohol too!!
I also find it tricky to stop thinking about wine. Spirits and beer just don’t do it for me (although I would drink them on a hot summer day), it’s wine that cripples me!!
I went out last night..had 3 large glasses of wine over the entire evening. It’s a bottle really isn’t it?! I’ve done that loads before but in the early hours I woke with beer fear. Racing heart and just feeling wierd and horrid!! Woke and promised myself I wouldn’t drink tonight. Anyway..on way home now from day out and my thoughts have already turned to the cold Pinot that’s in the fridge!! Ffs!!

Evening all, welcome newbies.

Am dry tonight. Feel lousy, losing my voice and dh is annoying me. I cooked all day yesterday as we had friends over. A curry night which involved 2 starters, 3 curries, naan breads, pilau rice and dessert. Was knackered by the time they came, smelled of garlic and ginger and my fingers are still stained yellow.

His one job this weekend was to put a towel rail and loo roll holder up in the downstairs loo which he made a big deal of. And he was supposed to reheat leftover curry for our tea but he feels too poorly to ding a bowl of curry and some fucking packet rice. Bastard.

Am not doing it, am ill, am knackered and am not feeding the fucker ever again. He can starve.

Am making myself cheese on toast and he can make his own.

So am not drinking as I am too annoyed. Will hopefully be AF tomorrow too. Have a mega, mega busy few weeks coming up workwise and need to prep for it tomorrow night. So he can fuck off with a sunday roast as well.

Spoke to my cousin today who also has a shitty relationship with alcohol. She goes months without a drink then has a mad binge to the point she does stupid stuff, pees the bed, blacks out. She started drinking at lunchtime. I told her to stop, take the dog out and have some food but not sure if she will have. So will txt her and find out if she ok. Sigh.

I am going to try to catch up with all of this. Though I want one of Frouby's curries meanwhile, as I have not eaten yet. Have drunk wine, though.

Reminds me, Frouby, that I gave DS a book for Christmas. It was called "You Had One Job", and it was just a catalogue of people who had f*ed up the one job they had to do...

Frouby..send some curry down this way too!! My fave dinner but dh hates it. So guess what...we never have it!!!!
Sorry to hear you feel crappy but hats off to you for not drinking despite this. If I’m pissed off with dh, it makes me drink more!!
Dion - I need that book!! What’s it called?!

Mmmm curry. I love it so much but DH has so many dietary issues I rarely have it these days. Plus his Sri Lankan aunt used to make is brilliant home made curry for our freezer but she died last year. Sad times - I miss her and her curry! Am drinking wine but some went in the pie. Will share the rest of the bottle with DH and stick at that. Come on! Went to scout fireworks but they were a bit lame compared to school ones which were q pyrotechnic extravaganza! Didn't spot any mulled wine there but wasn't particularly looking.

Struggling not to open the cold Pinot!!!!!!

My curries are now epic, next time I do one you are all invited.

Have tried for years to make proper takeaway curries and they were always shite. Bought a book recommended in here called The Curry Secret and it's amazing. Its a proper faff, you boil onions and ginger and garlic up then blend it, then blitz tomatoes and oil and spices up, then mix them together, cook your meat in some of the onion mix with more spices, then add the meat to the sauce with more spices and chilli depending on what type of curry you want.

I did lamb bhuna, chicken madras and a vegatable bhuna for dd. It was nicer than even our favourite takeaway and was really looking forward to leftovers but it's in the.freezer now and I have had passive aggressive cheese and biscuits 😂😂😂.

Have got my pudding left from last night though so that's ok. Dark chocolate ganache/mousey thing on a ginger base with fresh rasperries.

Was like Jamie Oliver Vs The Spice lounge yesterday and DH couldn't even be bothered to dinner ding. And I wasn't doing it out of principle.

Will do it tomorrow instead of sunday lunch .

Oh yum! I hope you feel better tomorrow Frouby and that it tastes even better as revenge lunch!

Frouby, I will travel for your curry.

Still trying, and failing (after too much wine, with no excuse) to catch up with this lovely thread.

Flossie, I'll try to find the book. I bought it in The Works. It appealed to DS's sense of humour, along with a book about 'farting at work' (another Works purchase). Sigh.

Meanwhile. I went out with school mums last night, and the conversation turned to Christmas. This is why I am soaking wet tonight, as I can only see wine as the answer from now until 8th January, when DS departs. FML a thousand times over.

Omg Dion..I can’t think of Christmas yet!!!!!!

I'm totally dreading Christmas too. I'm ignoring it.

We are away in Tenerife from 13th to 20th December. It took a lot of stress out of it all last year. What wasn't bought and wrapped by 1st December didnt get bought. Ds birthday the day we go so will have his party on the sunday, he's very happy to be going on holiday on his actual birthday.

Did a big food shop the 23rd first thing in the morning, dh picked the turkey up the 24th, then that was it for a fortnight. Just crashed out and ate and drank for a fortnight.

I just need to survive November. Mad busy month workwise, a birthday to buy for, Christmas to buy for, holiday clothes and stuff to organise for the dcs, ds outgrown his summer stuff, dd probably want some new bits too and if I don't stop drinking lager I will have outgrown mine as well. 😂😂😂.

Am hoping that being so busy I will have to do a few late shifts and stay off the drink that way. Would go to SW for 6 weeks but I don't have the bloody time.

On my way home from Portugal today. I've not moderated and feel like I've probably had enough of daily binging.. even in a week I feel like I need loads more to even feel an effect. Back to reality tomorrow. I had wine after breakfast one day

Been reading the thread and really fancy a curry!

I also fancy curry. My home made curries are always shit. Maybe I’ll get the book.

I went out dancing last night, so had a fair few drinks. I wasn’t supposed to. I was supposed to be meeting this bloke for a second date but he didn’t show up. Idiot. So I met up with a friend for drinks and dancing.

That’s me now, till next weekend. I need to get on the wagon.

Thanks for your replies at the end of last week .
I'm still set for AF Mon Tue and Thur next this coming week .
Feeling nervous about coming in and not pouring a cold glass of white ....
Have cold elderflower in the fridge and will keep busy x
Have a long day tomorrow and have to travel 80 miles most of it on the motorway , and I've just tackled driving on the motorway after 20 plus years of a ridiculous feat if them , so flipping hard day all around I guess !

Hi everyone,

May I join in?

I need accountability. I need to cut way way back.

It's mainly wine. A bottle a night and then a rum or two if I'm not driving the next morning.

Lost Mum to alcohol related illness earlier this year, should really be enough to kick me into gear but it hasn't.

Lynmilne - sarcasm rarely do any good. This is a support thread..

Didnt get to see lynmilne’s message but deffo sarcasm isn’t the way you go here. We are totally here to empathise and understand.
Defender - welcome. You really have seen the effects of alcohol. It’s hideous. But that doesn’t mean you should be able to stop the habit!! It just makes the guilt deeper. We are here to help.
Tinker- it’s the habit of coming in and pouring a glass that I struggle with. It’s my reward for getting through the day!! Hard to break!!
Had a bottle of white today. Many reasons why!! Was dry last night, that’s the first excuse. There are many more that make me feel it’s worthy!! All of which are actually no reasons to drink so much..but obviously in my head..it gives me every excuse!! Fml