Sorry if this has been discussed before, I seem to have reached a point where i need impartial opinions.
My husband and I are in our early 30's and starting to seriously think about children. We've been married 4 years and together 10. He and his family and friends have always been drinkers. I very rarely drink, a couple of times a year perhaps.
We both work and he has a stressful job. I would say 5 or 6 nights a week he drinks 8-10 cans of beer. This can go up to 12 on a weekend. He does this on weeknights and goes to work at 7am the next day, i cannot understand how he doesn't feel terrible.
He is never violent, angry or anything bad. In fact he is very caring and loving. It's just by 7pm most nights his eyes have glazed over and there's no chance of a meaningful conversation. i end up sat reading or watching tv like i'm on my own because he's chugging beers and getting increasingly drunk.
He is rarely rolling around on the floor drunk, he just gets glassy eyes, slurs a bit and gets tired.
I have tried speaking to him about it but he doesn't see a problem as i don't drink, therefore i can always drive places when he's had a drink. I tried to speak to him about the impact on his health but again he says he's fine and isn't an alcoholic.
I just feel very lonely and the expectation that i will always drive or do things once he has had a drink is getting tiring. As I said i don't really drink but i also don't really have a choice. He will often ask me to take him to the shop for milk and surprise surprise another crate of beer is always needed at the same time. Also i am tired of the smell of booze and surprisingly sex isn't the number 1 thing on my mind when he's like that.
I don't know if I'm overreacting or underreacting? If i speak to my family they just tell me he's a good bloke and to let him be.
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Am i married to an alcoholic?
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ella90210 · 08/04/2018 19:16
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