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Is there a support thread for anyone giving up ??

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TheOriginalNutty · 06/08/2017 17:31

Just wondering if there is a support thread for anyone giving up alcohol ??

I gave up 9 days ago and I'm finding it a bit of a lonely experience.

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somewheresorted · 06/08/2017 18:41

I'll join you TON, Day 12 for me and I too could do with the support, have even been reading old threads this afternoon on Mumsnet regarding problem drinking.

How are you feeling so far - well done on day 9!

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TheOriginalNutty · 06/08/2017 18:58

That's great SWS Grin

Well done on being on day 12. How are you doing, finding it hard ? easy ?
I'm doing ok so far. I have wanted a drink but thankfully so far the feeling of wanting to never feel so out of control again is stronger.

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TheGrumpySquirrel · 06/08/2017 18:59

I think I need to give up. Been comfort drinking and eating since my miscarriage.

ImperialBlether · 06/08/2017 19:00

Get a copy of Jason Vale's book, "Kick the Drink" - it's very, very effective.

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TheOriginalNutty · 06/08/2017 19:16

Oh will look that up now IB, thank's.

That must be hard grumpysquirrel. Have you spoken to anyone about the miscarriage ? It's understandable that you are turning to things for comfort x

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TheGrumpySquirrel · 06/08/2017 19:27

Not anyone other than my DH really. But the more time passes the harder it gets for some reason.

somewheresorted · 06/08/2017 19:29

Pretty tough actually, not physically but mentally. Have realised that there's a whole lot of sorting out to be done with my life and if I'm ever to get off this drinking merry-go-round then I need to do it properly this time, so emailed my local AA this afternoon and will be attending a meeting this week.

I haven't hit rock bottom, nothing too bad has happened regarding my drinking - other than slowly knackering my health and suffering with the constant anxiety, low grade depression and shame and guilt that my drinking brings! and not living the life I know I could be leading, but I've been here too many times before; abstaining for periods, changing the days I drink, what I drink and the constant counting of units, it's so exhausting and this time I really want it to change.

Sorry to hear you've had such a difficult time Grumpy squirrel- just take it one day at a time at the moment and look after yourself.

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TheOriginalNutty · 06/08/2017 19:46

Yeh i think as SWS said, just take one day at a time squirrel. I am sure there are people on here that you could talk to also. Sorry not been on here for years so don't know what groups there are on threads but there will be someone who understands exactly what you are going through.

SWS well done you for contacting AA. I can't decide if I need to or not. I always see it as a place for people who drink every day, from morning to night but I know it's not.
Like you, I have a whole host of things going on that I need to sort out and I know that I will never be able to sort anything while I am drinking.
I've never drunk every day, my problem was that once I did start I couldn't always stop and it put me in dangerous positions and caused me to hurt the people I love, and that needs to stop.

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TheOriginalNutty · 06/08/2017 20:25

Don't know if you are on FB SWS but I have just joined a group on there called Club Soda and it seems really good so far .

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Dottie39 · 07/08/2017 14:03

I'm on day three...
Had to go to shop today and was so tempted to buy some wine. I didn't.
My drinking has been out of control for years, a bottle or two of wine an evening is the norm. I feel ashamed.

Marryoneorbecomeone · 07/08/2017 14:13

THeres the Dry thread on Relationships and the Brave Babes thread too

Marryoneorbecomeone · 07/08/2017 14:17

I drank a couple of bottles of wine a night, for ages. I went to AA in Dec 2015 and haven't drank since. My life has improved SO much, and you couldn't pay me to drink.

When you're tempted to have booze in the house, "play to the end of the film" and think what life looks like when you've finished drinking that particular bottle, the guilt, the hangover etc. You never ever have to feel that again.

Good luck x

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TheOriginalNutty · 07/08/2017 14:56

Well done Dottie, not giving in to temptation is a huge achievement.

Thanks Marry, will have a look. That's a good idea too and will really help me.

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christmaswreaths · 14/08/2017 11:28

Hi All, I gave up for nearly 2 months in March/April for Lent but when I started again quickly went back to bad habits.

I want to give up too, I am going to start again today. It's very unhealthy...

polkadotsrock · 20/08/2017 17:39

I've just quit too after a scary experience on holiday. So far I feel excited for the self esteem boost this will give me- no more shame- but kicking myself for waiting so long.

rupertpenryswife · 21/08/2017 07:40

I am starting today I have tried before and failed, I hate myself so much for how much I drink. Not sure if I should seek professional help so support on here would be great. I'm desperate to find tips to stop myself drinking I feel so weak.

polkadotsrock · 21/08/2017 13:32

Having only just started too I don't have any tips but the DRY thread mentioned above has lots of others and good resources that
I lost hours reading last night!

rupertpenryswife · 21/08/2017 14:05

Thanks polka I remember that thread I read it during my previous failed attempts. I have made a appointment to see my GP on Friday as I'm afraid this attempt to quit will fail if I do it alone, I looked at aa but don't fancy that just yet, I just hope my GP is sympathetic,I feel bad enough as it is, I didn't ever want to have this recorded on my medical record but I think it may be the only thing left to do.

polkadotsrock · 21/08/2017 14:42

Given our journeys are starting so closely feel free to PM me for some support. Happy to help where I can

rupertpenryswife · 21/08/2017 15:19

Thank you polka I might take you up on that its good to have someone who understands how difficult it is, feel free to pm me also.

rupertpenryswife · 22/08/2017 14:44

How is everyone doing today? I feel a bit rubbish and its only day 2!! I'm trying to find good alternatives to wine for when I would normally have my first glass. Anyone have any alternative topples?

rupertpenryswife · 22/08/2017 14:44

Tipples olbviously!!

polkadotsrock · 22/08/2017 14:58

I'm down today, don't know why. A friend came for dinner last night and had a beer with DH and I drank some fancy cordial, was easier than I thought especially as he brought wine. Schloer is nice, though can be a little sweet.

polkadotsrock · 22/08/2017 14:59

I'm down today, don't know why. A friend came for dinner last night and had a beer with DH and I drank some fancy cordial, was easier than I thought especially as he brought wine. Schloer is nice, though can be a little sweet.

rupertpenryswife · 22/08/2017 15:02

That's how I'm feeling too, I think it's hard thinking I may never drink alcohol again not that I even feel like it at the moment, I'm not a huge fan of sweet drinks or coke and things so guess I need to try some and see, I have previously had the alcohol free beers they were not too bad and seemed a bit like a treat. Have you tried any of the flavoured teas? I think I may overdo the caffeine at the rate I'm going.

I hope your day improves if you managed not to drink last night when your DH was, that's a massive well done to you.