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support to get through the weekend pls
libbyliz83 · 12/05/2017 17:59
My sober app is saying I've been sober 19 days. I've checked it about 10 times today. It's the longest I've gone without drinking in 12 years. Had a couple of low days but got through it by convincing myself I couldn't because of work the next day. I did very well to stick to that but now I know I don't have work for two days. I'm really really struggling. Thought of nothing else since dinnertime. Been to shop three times and managed to redirect myself to a different shelf and bought random crap instead. I have no support network and I'm scared I'm going to cave in
mariahcurry · 12/05/2017 20:18
I went to aa. I would still go but it's difficult with childcare. There is a element of religion in the groups. One of the 12 steps is something about turning yourself over to a higher power. Most people in my group were not religious though, and I'm defiantly not! It's not for everyone but I found it really useful for the group support, everyone is in the same boat. I always think it's worth a try and if it's not for you, don't go back. There are other support groups out there, maybe google what's around in your area?
libbyliz83 · 12/05/2017 20:21
I was going to taper off. I'd read something on the internet about it where it helps take the edge off if you have one or two drinks a night. I didn't end up doing it cos it felt wrong mixing even that low amount with the pain meds. Ironically I don't like taking tablets I don't usually take anything even for a headache. I usually coped with any pain until evening and the first drink would make it better.
libbyliz83 · 12/05/2017 20:48
I think the tapering thing is where you go from the amount you were drinking down to just a couple of drinks, then one, then stop. All gradually over a couple of weeks.
I've been stopped now almost three weeks cold turkey so I think that rules out tapering off now.
CountessYgritte · 12/05/2017 21:29
AA isn't religious. It is open and relevant anyone regardless of religion or lack of one!
They do use the term "higher power" and that is something that can be off putting. My friends use it as a reference to conscience/community/vague feeling of spirituality/fate/destiny. I really agree that it makes it seem about religion but it really isn't.
Why don't you try it? You don't have to talk, you can sit in silence. Also, the meetings do vary - you may like one and not feel comfortable in another. Whatever, it is a good place to remind you why you are doing this and remind you that you aren't alone.
Your GP sounds a bit shit. I hope you find some support soon. You are doing brilliantly
Chickoletta · 12/05/2017 22:36
If you're interested in losing weight as well as stopping drinking, why not join a Slimming World group? I've lost 2 stone, drastically cut down on the booze (it has a really high syn value) and have made some really good friends. Hope you've had a lovely soak by now and are tucked up in your pjs.
It sounds daft but I also find that brushing my teeth stops me from wanting to eat/drink afterwards!
vxa2 · 14/05/2017 08:26
OP how are you today? I have just seen this thread. I am almost 13 months sober. My position was very similar to yours. Sounds like you need some RL support. If you google drugs and alcohol support and the area you are in you will be able to find out about provision in your area. I referred myself to my local service - they were great. If you are in Birmingham I run a small group for women choosing sobriety- Club Sober - you would be welcome to come. As would anyone else here.
At the top of the DRY board there is a list of useful resources which you might find helpful. The board is great - I got a huge amount of support from there.
PM me if you like - You are doing great - 3 weeks is awesome x
Squeegle · 14/05/2017 10:39
Please don't be hard on yourself. You are doing well, no one said it was going to be plain sailing and there may be some small battles lost in the way to win the war. It doesn't mean you've failed, just that it's hard.
Please try AA, it was a real source of support to my ex when he became sober. He met some people who became a great help to him and he said it really helped to feel that others really got it. He is an antisocial kind of man, so this was a big thing for him to go as you can imagine.
I found a lot of support in this website www.soberrecovery.com/forums/. There is a section for friends and family, but also one for friends and family which helped me.
Please look after yourself today, keep on trying. It will happen if you keep on keeping on. My ex has been sober for about 4 years now.
libbyliz83 · 14/05/2017 11:38
I'm going to start again. I'm not going back to gp but I'm going to use as much online support as I can find.
Unsurprisingly I feel a bit crappy this morning - sore head, acid reflux, dehydrated, mouth feels like I've licked a cat. Going to spruce up the house as it lifts my mood enormously when it's all shiny and perfect then going to do lots of batch cooking to store in the freezer. Bubble bath and early night tonight.
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