My drinking has crept up lately, not so much in terms of quantity (I'm under 14 units per week) but in terms of frequency to having a drink on most days. I've decided to have a dry January to get back into good habits which I've done before and found useful.
I'm doing it for myself but I'm wondering whether it may have any effect on my DH. He has declined to join me because he says he 'needs to drink to be able to cope with bad days'. I'm not sure how much he drinks but I estimate about 50 units per week as it was over 40 last time I counted and it has crept up lately. I suspect that I may unwittingly be enabling his drinking. He has a tendency to top up my wine glass when I'm not looking so I think I've only had one glass when I've actually had more. I only know when I find myself unexpectedly drunk after 'one glass' or if I catch him at it. He will also make cocktails and bring one to me without asking first whether I want one. It makes me wonder whether he uses that to help excuse his own drinking i.e. it's okay for him to have a drink because I'm having one too.
Does anyone else find that their partner's drinking habits affect their own?