Moving towards permenancy for relatives in care.. what are the chances an adoptive family will be happy to maintain contact?

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It doesn't look like I'll be able to take the children. For several reasons. Some of which I don't want to into.

What I was wondering though, as the children have been in care three times now in the last two years, i'm assuming that the next step will be to look towards some sort of permenancy planning for the children, which I hope will take the form of adoption.

Unfortunatley I don't think the children will be coming home.

Is it likely the adoptive family (if there is one.. in the future) would allow family to maintain contact with the children?

At present we see the children once a fortnight and their mum sees them once a week. Contact with mum doesn't always go well and can be upsetting for the children. It has been noted that the children repsond much more positively to contact with us (extended family).

Is it likely that SS could stop the parents contact and not ours?

Is this allowed?

Therefore, would this give us more of a chance of maintaining contact in the future?

Sorry if it's all a bit muddled. Have posted on this previously but don't know how to link to them.

TIA

I'll remember that Kristina, it took us 6 weeks to get contact established then 4 weeks (so two of "our" visits)to get things sorted out.

There mum was on the phone tonight, ranting and raving.

Honestly she hasn't a clue.

I'm sorry, I know it must be terrible for her losing her kids but its hard for you too, you don't need her hassling you

I am wondering, since you don't have a job/income, if you could get legal aid to get some legal representation? Just a thought.....

If you search through the adoption threads there are posts from a granny who got custody of her baby grandson. Her posting name is lijaco. I know you dont want custody but it woudl be useful reading

thanks, will look it up later.

oh and good morning!!

Make sure that you have a good solicitor and make sure that you keep contacts and show complete comitment to the children. At the end of the day the judge makes all the decisions and your solicitor could put forwrd your requests. I found our judge to have a complete independent outlook and disagreed with some proposals that ss set. It could be possible for you to see the children if they are adopted. I really feel for you been in this situation myself.

Thanks, contact again tommorrow the days just whiz past.

On a different note.. I got accepted to do post grad social work!

congratulations!