It's not a "growing understanding" - how insanely patronising. You don't think we adopters realise this???
Wasn't meant to be patronising. Sorry you've taken it this way. My point still stands, there's absolutely a growing understanding of how adoption affects the child. More understanding is good. It's hardly insane or patronising.
There is also a great emphasis on culture, background, religion etc when raising an adopted child. I'm surprised you don't know this.
I understand this. Doesn't mean that the emphasis is carried through correctly or meaningfully. Perhaps it's something you do, not all.
However it is not always in the child's best interest and can cause further upset as it can reinforce the feeling that they don't belong in their new family. Many children who have physical memories of abuse don't really want reminding of their past or to be constantly told that they part of a culture which they don't want to be.
There's also an argument that a child will try to adapt to their new situation and feel shame or that they would be letting their new family down. Of course there are cases where the abuse has hurt the child absolutely terribly and they can't revisit. Not all thou.
I have a good friend who is physically very different to her (adopted) family and stood out as looking 'foreign' which caused all sorts of bullying and trauma for her growing up. She wasn't remotely interested in finding out what her actual ethnicity was (birth mother wouldn't say) but she was acutely aware that other people had an issue with it. She had a relationship with her birth mother while she was still living but was so adamant that adoption was the best thing that could have happened to her. She had no desire to restore her identity or whatever you are on about.
You can't talk about how other adoptee's feel. Not your story to tell.
Nor do I. And I'm sure there are thousand just like us. Fantastic. Happy for you.
We don't need others speaking on out behalf of what we feel or what we
Adoptee's absolutely do. Particularly from adoptee's. Reforming adoption, how its practiced now and what can be done in the future to help understand the issues and human rights violations adoptee's face has to be key. You're okay with your adoption but wouldn't it be nice if things like open adoption (with safe family members) actually happened in the spirit that's written about? Letterbox letters are so censored that bio mother's can sign off as mum and tell their child they are loved and missed? At the moment that's not happening. At present many bio mothers/family members are being heavily censored in exactly what they can say. For a family member not to be able to sign off as mum/gran or whatever is revolting
Where upon in adulthood, at whatever age can decide what identify is to them and choose?
Adoptee's can't though. You're being terribly misinformed or disingenuous or just really not understanding the law of adoption. No adoptee can under present law revert back to their original identity. That needs to change.