Morning all,
We are incredibly grateful to be parents to our two wonderful adopted children, who are siblings and have been with us since birth. Adoption has been a positive experience for us so far. Both children are of primary school age, though we recognise there may be harder years ahead.
We always envisioned having three children, and while we would happily adopt again if another sibling came along (though after 3+ years, this now seems less likely as BM is getting older), we’re now considering whether to explore having a birth child.
We understand that this is a hugely impactful decision, and much of what we read highlights the potential challenges. We’re very aware of how this could affect our adopted children and want to approach it with as much care and thought as possible. At the moment, they are both developing really well, and our family feels happy and settled, but we know that adding a birth child could bring up complex emotions. We’re also mindful that a birth child might sometimes feel left out, as they would be the only birth child while our adopted children have each other as a shared experience.
That said, we’re just trying to gather as much information as possible to help us make an informed decision at this stage.
Has anyone had a birth child after adoption and found that it worked well for their family? Or are there any social workers who have seen examples where this has been a positive experience for everyone involved?
We’d really appreciate any thoughts or experiences—both positive and negative.