Another one of those threads

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Ted27 · 21/01/2023 18:29

I try to stay away from them, but eventually get sucked in 😩

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121Sarah121 · 24/01/2023 21:49

mumof2many1943 · 24/01/2023 19:05

I did not read the thread so I am not able to comment. Have been hiding as my lovely DH died 6 months ago and our youngest had to go into residential care which has left me devastated and feeling guilty. Adoption (8) was totally joyous for us despite them all being disabled. I don’t know what I have written is appropriate but would like to thank all you “oldies” for keeping me going.
flapjackfairy where are you? 😍

I am sorry to hear about your husband. Your youngest moving to residential must have been heartbreaking for you but I am sure it was a move made with love and glad to hear the visit went well.

flapjackfairy · 24/01/2023 22:09

@mumof2many1943
I am still here. You never emailed me after christmas or if you did I didnt get it. I have given up.on the private messages here! They dont seem to send properly.
I have been looking out for you on the board as well . Cant keep up.with your name switches ha ha. I will email you tomorrow. Sending love to you all. Xxx

flapjackfairy · 24/01/2023 22:17

@Ted27
I remember lily's post saying her daughter had died and giving her name. It was so v sad. What an amazing mum Jade had !
It is so lovely to realise who everyone was in that other realm. That board was so helpful to me when I was going through the process and many of you felt like friends in the end. I was v upset when that lovely community was destroyed.

Remy7 · 25/01/2023 11:46

I didn't see the post and it sounds like a good job I didn't. Still fairly new to adoption in the grand scheme of things.
I just wanted to add in response to the comments about 'second choice' and 'unable to have a family in the normal way' that was mentioned, that adoption was our first choice. We were unwilling not unable. We are a same sex couple and adoption was always how we would have our family, we didn't even explore any other routes.
Thank you all you regulars for your constant advice and support to so many x

mixedrecycling · 25/01/2023 12:14

It's sad to hear about Lily's daughter - things were heading that was the last I heard, but like many I hoped that she would be able to turn things round.

EmmatheStageRat · 25/01/2023 14:51

Ted27 · 24/01/2023 20:44

@EmmatheStageRat

Yes it was desperately sad, not exactly unexpected but still so young. She battled her illness for such a long time but it destroyed her body- I think she just slipped away in the end. Lily found her in her flat.
I know some of the AUK people went to the funeral so I would imagine they are still in touch.
She worked in a vets and was well known in their community, walking her dog, a lot of people turned out for her.
Lily always wrote so beautifully about her, a lovely, but very lost soul.
Lily gave her name in a post after she died and I asked if she realised she had written it. She said yes because nothing could hurt her now. Her name was Jade.

@Ted27 , thank you for the update. So touching and I’m glad that Lily was supported by AUK members in her hour of need. It’s a terrible loss of a brilliant community. I never even bother to go there any more.

💐 for Lily, if ever you read this.

💚 for Jade. Your beautiful name lives on.

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