That's it really.
Firstly because dp and I are in an IVAs, however they do get paid, no mortgage or CT arrears etc.
Our DS has asd and his needs aren't clear for longterm, which I think are, he won't be independent but his needs will always be met.
The rest of the report was wonderful tbh which is fucking worse.
If it had said "you'd both be shite at parenting a kid with trauma" I'd be weirdly happier with that, but for the sake of me losing my employment during the pandemic when finding other employment wasn't too easy, feels quite harsh. And that was the advice given, an iva to ensure our mortgage remained safe etc.
And my sons autism is quite profound admittedly, but he has all the right things in place. He's been diagnosed, he's attending a SEN school, he is thriving at home. We have fought and championed him, we were hoping those skills would be used on another wean who's worlds a bit uncertain.
We've got him in school full time from September and my close friend gives him days out with her for his respite away from us 🤣
I'm unsure if I'm going to continue the idea of adoption. I have been sent away "to reapply in 6 months" quite a few times now and it's really quite painful.
Just wanted to let you know and thank you all so so much for your help and advice this last few months xxx