Calling us mum and dad

[Runner31]

We are very close to meeting our LO and have coped really well with the ups and downs of the process but the one thing that has snuck up on both of us is LO calling us mum and dad before we've met. It just feels so fake. LO is older and with a good attachment to the foster carer and has had last contact with birth mum very recently so I had expected us being called mum and dad would be something that would happen gradually.
I feel bad for even finding it a bit weird. Has anyone else been freaked out by their name change?

@sassygromit face to face isn't an option but he will have that with siblings.

@Italiangreyhound it's going really well. Too good so i'm thinking this is the calm before the storm. We've put strategies and rules in place now ready for trouble so that they're established and He's responded really well. He's clearly trying to worl us out and testing us but so far it's no more than normal 7yr old behaviour. 🤞 it continues but we're feeling ready and well rested for any trouble ahead.

@runner31 just to explain my question, a couple of years ago the BASW commissioned an independent enquiry into adoption and one of the outcomes was a recognition that contact after adoption arrangements had to reviewed. I haven't been following it closely, but you had mentioned final contact and it made me wonder if anything had changed. But tbh I am doing some painting in the house at the moment and the fumes are gluing my brain together, it was the wrong time to ask you - your focus should be on your 7 yo and I hope it all continues to go wel!

*well not wel!

Thanks and don't worry about the timing, it's nice to get a distaction and pretty healthy to have my mind on something else for a bit.
Birth mum is support of the adoption and for her and our LO contact wasn't too continue after the adoption. To be honest it's little bit of a mess. Final contact with mum was supposed to go ahead before he was placed with us but didn't and now we don't know if it will happen because SW want it to but will play it by ear and see if our LO needs it further down the line. Quite unbelievable really.
For our sanity we're going with it and just supporting our LO as things develop.
Hope the painting is going well. We did loads before Christmas so I don't envy you.