Angry toddler

[waitingforafamily]

Hi,
We have adopted a 3yo boy and an 18mo girl and they have been home a month/6 weeks.
It's all going really well apart from DS is quite angry and says NO a lot and just doesn't like sharing. He pushed our little dog today and I just don't know how to deal with him when he gets angry.
Every question I ask him is NO even though I know it's a yes 🤔
Any help/thoughts would be gratefully received
TIA

YOU asked for help, YOU asked for thoughts.

adopters on here - some of us with over 10 years experience - some of us with 2, 3, 4 children have taken 5 or 10 minutes to give you the help you asked for.

your last post is uncalled for.

we are not 'experts spouting vitriol'.......we are adopters who have walked your path.
adopters who wish someone had said - its too early to be in nursery - he/she needs to be at home with you
adopters who have had months /years of children in therapy
adopters who have children with diagnosed attachment disorders
adopters who fight social services for money to pay for therapy to try to undo what BM, FC have done to our darling children....

you do not have to like what people say - but a polite THANK YOU for your response would be bloody nice.....

You know what we've been polite and kind, but this is the truth.....
if you child is pushing your dog, being angry, saying no, snatching, and YOU do not know how to deal with him, then you need to be home with him, no shipping him off to nursery after 4 weeks!!!! What the hell are you thinking.......?

Enough magic number. I am thankful for nice responses and not condemnation.

I asked for advice and not "what the hell are you thinking" comments. Just nasty IMO

My son is an amazing kid who has bonded with us all in an amazing way. He is 3 and has the normal tendencies that 3 year olds have.

Nursery have said he is speaking, sharing and socialising brilliantly. He runs in and loves the learning.

I know that a few hours in the morning are doing him the world of good and the other 21 hours in the day he spends with his family.

I am in constant contact with foster carer who has fostered over 200 children and very experienced who put them on a good path to moving onto us. She is fully in agreement that he would benefit from this.

I actually asked for advice on how to deal with a stroppy and snatching toddler. Not whether you think I am doing the right or wrong thing with nursery.

I do hope your children have the right to an opinion rather than having yours enforced on them like you are doing here on this forum

Have adopted 10 children all have Different needs not one is the same
also have fostered over 200 children in our 40 years, many have seen through too adoption, all with good outcomes.
Yes society and ideas change, but 35 years ago I would say that a good
80% we fostered did not stay in care. That's what my records say most returned back too birth parents .

I will make no more answers to you. You are not interested in hearing anything.

Be clear on this however - I have not asked you for any opinion on my children. To bring them into your thread is below the belt.