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Baby boy born this morning

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Flower3554 · 08/12/2006 13:40

Hi everyone,
Just to bring you up to date, its two weeks today since my little one left and it has been so quiet here. All thats about to change though as a baby boy was born this morning and I've been asked to be his foster carer. I dont know any more details yet but I'll keep everyone posted.

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FLAMEinEckItsWiiDay · 08/12/2006 13:42

I didn't post on your last thread but followed your story that things look like they will be getting noisier again (but obv for whatever the circumstances are iyswim)

JackieNoHoHo · 08/12/2006 13:46

As Flame says, for the circumstances, but for you and for the little boy you're going to be looking after - sounds like he couldn't have a nicer foster carer.

piglit · 08/12/2006 13:52

How exciting for you. Will you have him over Christmas?

happybiggirl · 08/12/2006 13:53

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Flower3554 · 08/12/2006 14:00

IBecause of this little ones family circumstances, which I obviously can't go into I will have him over Christmas and probably for some months after that. I was thinking before that since we started fostering 19 years ago we have only ever had one Christmas without at least one little one here. In fact we have a little tradition that the youngest child opens the living room door to see what Santa has brought them. New babies need some help with this important task though lol.
I do get a bit nervous but its mostly excitement.

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pooka · 08/12/2006 14:05

How exciting for you Flower. I am so glad that there are people like you around to take on the care of vulberable babies and give them a fantastic start in life.

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Flower3554 · 09/12/2006 21:08

Update as promised. The baby boy born at 9am yesterday was brought to me last night just 11 hours old. There had been problems at hospital and it was felt he would be safer elsewhere. I have been posting on breast/bottle thread as he has been difficult to feed. He has the most amazing spiky fair hair and is quite red and wrinkly but sooooo scrumptious. To add to a good day, two of my previous lo's came to visit with their adoptive families and to see them happy and content knowing what their lives could have been was a total joy. I'm not what you would call a religious person but today felt like "Gods in his heaven alls right with the world." I've been up since before 3am, I'm totally whacked but also feeling whole again.

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SpicymulledSheraz · 09/12/2006 21:10

Hi Flower, what lovely news. Been wondering how you are. Oh a little baby for Christmas, you must be so pleased. Any news on the last little chap?

foxinsocks · 09/12/2006 21:12

aaaah what lovely news

hertsnessex · 09/12/2006 21:17

that is wonderful news.

cx

tribpot · 09/12/2006 21:19

Thanks for doing such a great job. My adopted nephew and niece weren't removed from their birth mother at birth (although their younger brother was last year) and they should have been. I feel utter sympathy for the mother, of course, but the baby's needs are paramount.

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Flower3554 · 09/12/2006 21:28

The last little chap was one of my visitors! His new Mum and Dad had asked their social worker for permission to visit us, (usually SS like families to give it more settling in time) but they were desparate to let me know they were coping well. I had my reservations, although I ached to see him< but I agreed and he was absolutely fine. There was a spark of "I know you don't I" but no tears, apart from mine, of course. It always amazes me how quickly little ones adapt.

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LIZS · 09/12/2006 21:32

aww flower so pleased your void has been filled again. Good luck with your new charge !

FLAMEinEckItsYuleAgain · 09/12/2006 21:34

Oh all choked up reading that!!!

Pixiefish · 09/12/2006 21:37

Awww- hope you have a lovely Christmas Flower and well done you for doing such a valuable job

Saturn74 · 09/12/2006 21:41
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moondog · 09/12/2006 21:46

How amazing to be entrusted with such a new baby!
I remember your thread a few weeks ago.

Hope the feeding is going better.

SpicymulledSheraz · 09/12/2006 21:46

Flower lovley news about both little boys. Thrilled to bits for you. Sounds like this little guy has had a rough start in life, lucky for him that you are there. Have a lovley Xmas - won't be peaceful!

gonechristmascrackers · 09/12/2006 22:42

Just want to say a HUGE thank you for being such a caring person to do this sort of thing.

The children placed with foster carers like you are the lucky ones. I see other children frequently who would benefit from the love you would give them.... Well done and good luck !!

Fingers crossed you get the feeding sorted quickly both for you and him. He is so lucky....

FlamesparrowThePirate · 07/01/2007 20:29

How did Christmas go??

ThisTime · 07/01/2007 20:44

Just wanted to bump this as followed your story x

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Flower3554 · 08/01/2007 08:22

Just to update, the baby returned to his Mum a couple of days before Christmas. As we had been told this placement was likely to be a long one this came as quite a shock to us.

A legal situation arouse which meant that the initial decision to remove baby from Mum was considered faulty. I'm obviously having to be careful of giving confidential info so I can't elaborate.

The difficult part for us as carers was that the first we knew of this decision was when social services knocked on our door and said they had to take little one there and then. I then had less than an hour to pack his belongings which they sent someone to collect.
They had forgotten to let me know(shock)(angry) of their decision.

However, baby's Mum insisted on bringing him back the following day so that I could say goodbye properly and I was so touched by this.

I was unsure for a time if I wanted to continue fostering I felt so used. There is however a baby due at the end of this month I've been asked to care for, so who knows.

I will keep you updated as and when I am once again "with child"

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Flamesparrow · 08/01/2007 08:27

Oh honey I'm pleased that the mother brought the child to say goodbye though.

Hulababy · 08/01/2007 08:38

Sorry, you had such an abrupt ending to your last LO's placement with you. Seems very unkind. How nice of mum to bring baby back to say goodbye though.

You are an amazing person, doing this.

Kbear · 08/01/2007 10:40

Flower, I don't know how you cope with such a rollercoaster of emotions, if you love babies you can't help but get attached can you. You are a wonderful person to have the strength to do something so special.