My foster child is leaving this Friday, sob

[Flower3554]

Hi everyone, We have been foster carers for 19 years and at the moment specialise in newborns who are going for adoption. Our latest placement has been with us since he was 4 days old and he is now 6 months old. He is the most darling little boy and I'm going to miss him so much. He is currently into introductions to his new family and these are going really well. After visiting him at our house for the last few days today I had to take him to their home and leave him with them until bedtime when they will bring him home and do his bedtime routine.
I can't explain what it felt like coming back to my empty home but I'm dreading Friday when he leaves for good.

Have just sat and read the whole thread, am an absolute mess Flower you are amazing!!!!!!!!

It won't be long before another LO needs you again and the joy will start all over again

Best wishes for the future you're doing such a fantastic job

oooh blimey, tears are streaming down my face! What a fantastic person you are. Your text to the new family broke my heart! How hard it must be for you, but so rewarding too. I really admire you. Good luck with your new little one when he/she arrives x

Hello again everyone, I had some bad news yesterday on top of everything else. I rang my fostering unit to let them know little one had moved to his new family, I am expected to do this in case introductions dont go well so they know where the child is. While I was on the phone I was given the news that the birth mum of the baby I was expecting to get next month has requested that the foster carer of one of her previous babies takes care of this one. She has this right of course especially if she has formed a rapor with the carer. While I totally understand this I am devestated to say the least and its only today that this is sinking in. I'm sure there will be other babies soon though so I am trying to think positive and I will let you all know as soon as that phone rings. I feel as though I've gained a load of new friends these last few days. Thank you all.

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Oh Flower sorry to hear that, but i am sure you are top of the list for the next baby. Keep us posted. xx

OMG flower ... you must have the strength of 1000 men .. I've just read your posts and am sitting here crying my eyes out!

I hope you are coping ok and get another baby soon.
You do a truely amazing job x

Ditto - god I need some tissues, my DD's keep looking at me strangely! I wish you all the very nest of luck for the future Flower - bless you.

Thanks everyone. Just a brief update, little ones new Mummy rang me tonight and we talked for almost an hour. Only just stopped blubbing again because she said he was absolutely fine, a joy to her and her DH and it was a testament to my care of him that makes him such a darling.
I know I'm still grieving for him but she cheered me up no end. I can see a weeny light at the end of the tunnel.

Flower I have read your thread and have to say it made me fill up too.

It is people like you who make this world a better place & although you are sad now just remind yourself that you have given that LO (and others) the best start in life he could have hoped for (even better than his biological mother could offer) & you have also given the greatest gift to a couple who were obviously desperate to give their love to a child - you have not just made their (adoptive parents & LO) day month and christmas you have made their lives!

I personally know 2 people who foster the same way as you do, I know how emotional I got when their babies were adopted it doesn't bear thinking what they were going through, I know I couldn't do it you are made of far stronger stuff than me!

Keep up the good work, you are a blessing in their tiny little life's... you're an angel!