Hello - I've been reading this forum with interest over the last few weeks and I was hoping that someone might be able to help / point me in a useful direction!
To cut a very long story short, my partner and I are thinking about adoption but my partner is very uncertain about his feelings. Are there any blogs / books / films that anyone could recommend that maybe explore pre-adoption feelings further? In particular, he seems stuck on the biological angle and not wanting to parent "someone else's" child; I'm so sorry to express it that way as it sounds horrible but these are the things that he seems to be battling with.
We have tried a couple of documentaries and books but they are very much focused on what happens when the couple have already made the decision to adopt or knew it was the path they wanted to take.
I know there's no magic solution and that I have to accept that these feelings might be here to stay but,at the same time, I find it very hard to believe he's the only person to have had these feelings when considering adoption.
Anyway, sorry if this is garbled; it was harder to write that I expected. Many thanks if you've read it!