How did you celebrate the court day thing??

[Italiangreyhound]

How did you celebrate the court day thing??

And what time of day was it?

And how much warning did you get of it?

And did anyone else come besides you and the social workers?

thanks so much.

PPS Please - I should have said please.

When my parents adopted my db I was to young to remember I do remember my sisters court day we (me and my other db's) had made her a present which she held tightly to all day and we went to wimpy (it was the 80's) my parents always had it on the calendar x yrs since x's adoption day but I don't remember us making a big deal out of it not like a birthday or anything!

None of our friends who have adopted children (we know several) have done anything. Special on court day.

Our celebration hearings were both at around 11am.

Both times we invited close friends and family to the court and then went to a restaurant where we bought lunch for all of our guests. We had champagne toasts and DH said a few words to thank everyone for all of their support during the adoption process. We treated the days a bit like a christening celebration and even had special celebration cakes made and had balloon table decorations.

After lunch we went to a pottery studio and had the DC's hand and footprint pressed into clay and made into a plaque to commemorate the day.

Lovely memories!

Oh and we got about three weeks notice!

And we mark the day every year as a sort of mini birthday. The kids get a small gift and we go out for a family meal or order a takeaway.

We had a couple of weeks notice.... our SW' s came, we invited her guardian (GAL), her full sibling and his Parents along with my mum and dad.

It was a lovely session.... really nice to meet the judge and put a face to the name... to be in the actual court where her future was decided!!

The judge had a bag of treats so very quickly became popular!! She still says know that the judge gave her smarties!!
Think it was mid morning. It really seemed to 'end' that part of the process..... closure I guess....

Afterwards we went to a local restaurant that has a kids play section.....

We had photos taken in the court room with the judge and his assistant printed some out for us there and then..... we have framed one and have it on display.

I'd advise anyone to go and do it..... r u close Italian to having yours?

woundbobbin lovely.

Thanks AngelsWithSilverWings, Excitedmamma and all.

Excitedmamma hope so, not sure!

We have a dedication planned for early next year so I am quite keen to keep the day as just the immediate family.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/adoptions/2196873-What-do-you-think-about-our-plans-for-dedication

I love the idea of "... a pottery studio and had the DC's hand and footprint pressed into clay and made into a plaque to commemorate the day."

I am thinking I should do it for birth dcs, my birth dd who is 10 and my new adopted ds who is 4.

Plus like the idea of ...local restaurant that has a kids play section....

both dcs, my birth dd who is 10 and my new adopted ds who is 4.

We didn't celebrate it at all and we don't mark it now.

There was a long time between the children being placed and the adoption order, so they already felt they were adopted.

Also the day was very stressful and afterwards we just felt relieved and not in the mood to celebrate

Celebration was mid morning so we went out for brunch afterwards. Then we went on a trip to a local wildlife centre. We did this because a) it was close to the court and b) we had taken our son there during introductions on our first family outing. It seemed fitting to revisit it.

Only two immediate relatives could make it so it was a very small affair. We had hoped more could come but it turned out a weekday was impossible for most people.

We didn't really do anything for our celebration hearing recently. It was at 10am on a Wednesday. I really wish now that we had invited family members to attend but we weren't given any information about what would happen at it and we were going to return to our holiday afterwards.

As we had celebrated every milestone on our adoption journey with pizza it felt right for us to go to pizza hut for lunch afterwards. The judge and the other court person kept telling us that they hoped that we would be doing lots of fun things afterwards.

It felt like a bit of a waste of time really but I think that this was because we arrived stressed because we had difficulty finding the court and finding somewhere to park. However it was a nice time of celebration and our little one loved all of the attention.

DC1 we and the grandparents went to court. Social workers always come. After court, took social workers out for tea and cakes.

DC2 court a bit further away and DC1 rather liable to act up so court hearing brief. We did invite the social workers but they didn't come. Tea and cupcakes for all four of us afterwards.

In both cases a small family tea and party at home afterwards.

We've done tea and small presents on the day every year since. The kids love their 'adoption days' and feel rather sorry for the poor birth kids who don't have them (this may be an issue for you of course!)

Have a lovely day.

It was in the morning & my parents came too (DH parents deceased)
We gave the girls charm bracelets, my parents gave them necklaces
We went out for lunch got changed and in the afternoon we went to a park with playground and miniature train.
In the evening 3 local friends came round and they had pizza and chocolate cake.
A couple of months later we had a big barn dance for 100 family and friends.

On the day itself I invited my mum and my DB (as DS was quite close to him at the time), then we invited both social workers and the solicitor over the road to posh patisserie and had tea and cake then trundled home on the tube.

We don't celebrate it at all now - I'd be hard pushed to actually remember what day it was without checking.

DS and I have a quiet tea together and a bit of a chat on the anniversary of our meeting - our family birthday.