Sick of being shouty!

[Buster51]

I have posted along similar lines in the past, & I must say I still rarely yell at DS but when I do I completely over react! :-( feeling bad, a bit of "cheek" lead to a whole drama mostly caused by my overreaction. Feeling like the worlds worst witch of a mum!

I did have issues when I was younger with getting angry to the point of tears, & although it has improved as I've got older, I still sometimes get the overwhelming stressy urge! I have just gone back to work, DH is away for 8 weeks (forces) feeling already guilty about that just beating myself up to be honest. Poor DS

[64x32x24]

Well done for not shouting!

Buster when I was little we sometimes vacationed at friends' house; they didn't have a toilet, just a bucket behind a curtain that then needed to be emptied. I must have been about four or five and I hated it. (Still remember it clearly now!) For a while whenever we went somewhere I would check before we went if there was going to be a toilet. (And I might have asked 'what colour is it?' to make sure, after being told 'yes there is a toilet', that they weren't 'tricking' me when in fact there was just a bucket being used as a toilet.) So maybe your DS has some memories of a place where there was no toilet (or he was denied the use of it) and, having little concept of where you went, was concerned for your welfare.
Your 'yes of course there was' ... might not be quite so obvious to him! There may be no 'of course' for him.

[Buster51]

oh! I didn't even think about that I was very confused! Having said that, when DH is away (army base) and we skype call him, DS always says to him "can I see your toilet/shower etc!" DH is always equally as confused by his fascination with it! Feeling a bit bad now for my generic answer! oops!

[KristinaM]

I know of children of about 4-6 year old ( from perfectly normal families ! ) who have had an " accident " at other peoples houses because they didn't know where the toilet was. And didn't think to ask until it was too late

One said to her mother " I didn't think they had a toilet " .

it's not uncommon for children who start Reception to get constipated because they are scared to do a no. 2 in the school toilets .

My children were all scared of flushing the toilet at the age of your DS, buster .

Lots of small children love public toilets and will ask to go frequently when you are out somewhere like a shopping centre . Others are terrified of the hand driers and won't go at all .

So in summary, toilet issues are common for small children .

[Buster51]

thank you both, interesting to know!

I had an 'almost' well yes kind of shouty morning :( I feel lost at the moment and don't know if what I'm doing is doing more harm than good!