Wanted: A Family of My Own - Episode 2

[Lilka]

On ITV in an hours time

Anyone going to watch?

[Lilka]

What did he say "I thought you are" about?

Devora one of the Dads was talking to him about his place in his birth famiy vs. adoptive family (the age order)

The Dad says to his son 'you're the oldest child in this family'

And his son replies "I thought you are"

[Italiangreyhound]

'I'm not going to say it's been easy, but it's been a nice sort of hard.' What a fabulous quote!

[Buster51]

Oh wow all these parents make it look so easy! Certainly wasn't me in the first few month never mind days! DS wouldn't come near me, brings it all back.

They seem wonderful parents, I most definitely had something in my eye throughout. Lovely children

[Italiangreyhound]

Buster we know from all your posts what a caring, kind Mum you are.

[excitedmamma]

our matching panel was nothing like that... we just cried!!

Think we must have got the sympathy vote ... anyway.. who cares, 2 years ago today she moved in

[Italiangreyhound]

I cried when matching panel said yes.

[RhinosAreFatUnicorns]

I have enjoyed watching all these programmes and friends have told me how much it has opened their eyes to what we went through.

Every time we watch a panel we laugh though - I flung my arms round our chair when he told us the good news that we were matched! The ones shown on TV seem very restrained compared to my hysterical giddiness. Chair was very but utterly lovely :)

[Buster51]

same for us I was in floods on tears when they said yes! Then half of our panel started crying too, oh I remember that day so well.

[Buster51]

oh wow thank you Italian :) nice of you to say

[excitedmamma]

We cried when the chair came in to get us... she said we were special... we cried in panel when my DH said he never knew you could feel love like this (and he has 2 bc) and when we heard it was a unanimous yes, we and the SW cried... gibbering wrecks the lot of us

[Italiangreyhound]

MrsDeVere my heart goes out to you, there are no words to say. I read about your lovely dd when you wrote about it a while ago and I am so very sorry for your loss.

In terms of a parent it is very hard and yet it is the way things normally happen, older people die. I know some people in paticular (men especially - sorry to be sexist) can sometimes be totally blind sided by grief. They sometimes find it so hard to accept, My father cried a lot at his mum's funeral where as my mum was more stoic. She kept it together for years through family funerals and turmoil and when my dad died she had a full scale depression.

It must have been a very hard time for you.

My mum has dementia now and is in a care home, the panel (matching) asked what I would do if she needed me. Luckily, she is quite far away and has my sister! If she were ill I am not sure I would have told social services because of the same fear they would think I could not cope! Anyway, am rambling, *MrsDeVere massive hug (very much more like we used to say on the fertility boards than here on adoption threads!)

[nervouslurker]

I have been slowly working my way through the programmes mentioned in the board, and I think I've been in tears almost every night.

[odyssey2001]

I feel like a robot. We never shed a tear at either panel. We just thanked them, smiled and left!

[Italiangreyhound]

odyssey2001 I think it is such an enormous thing we all react differently. The teas at panel (matching were relief) and very short lived and to be honest I have not cried nearly so much in this process as I expected to. I am the person who cries at John Lewis adverts (the one with the bear!) and so I am surprised I have not cried more. We are all different and in a way this process takes us all differently!

[Italiangreyhound]

I am crying watching it now!

[Barbadosgirl]

I put my hand up to crying at the bear advert!