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15,000 Kids and Counting...Episode 3

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Lilka · 17/04/2014 16:31

Tonight at 9, on Channel 4

The Transition

The final episode of the series charts the transition from familiar foster home to the unknown of new adopted parents

As reality sets in, adopters and the children alike discover that the prospect of learning to love and fit in to a family that were once strangers can be daunting, and the stakes are high, with both sides asking the same question: 'Will they like me?'

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WWOOWW · 17/04/2014 18:47

Looking forward to this. Have it set on record.

parawhore · 17/04/2014 18:56

I've got it to record so I can watch it myself. Last weeks episode had me in tears so at least if it's recorded I can switch on and off Blush

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Devora · 17/04/2014 20:44

Excellent. I'm sorry it's the end of the series.

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Lilka · 17/04/2014 21:16

Very good so far, but Sad as ever

Lauren's reminding me a bit of DD1 - never crying etc. DD1 was so scared that she hid when I came to the house for our first meeting. I'm glad they're pointing out how hard it is from the childs POV. Very easy to focus on the happiness of finding parents, but the transition period and afterwards is such a difficult scary time for a child

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candycoatedwaterdrops · 17/04/2014 21:24

I missed a bit. What happened with prospective adopters for Lauren and Liam?

SauvignonBlanche · 17/04/2014 21:26

I can't stop crying!

Devora · 17/04/2014 21:28

That poor, brave little girl.

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Lilka · 17/04/2014 21:31

I think there was an issue at panel but it's been cleared up now

Bless little Lauren, her excitement followed by the sudden realisation that this means she's leaving her foster parents to live with complete strangers

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EverythingCounts · 17/04/2014 21:31

Will be watching on +1.

Candy - they found a couple who wanted Lauren and Liam right at the end of the last episode.

HappySunflower · 17/04/2014 21:36

I'm finding this weeks by far the most emotion inducing!

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Lilka · 17/04/2014 21:37

Started crying when Lauren was cuddling her SW

So brave when her whole life is so out of control Sad

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Ruushii · 17/04/2014 21:39

I didn't realise how difficult is was for children to cope with being adopted. This is eye opening for me.

Ruushii · 17/04/2014 21:44

Oh their little faces watching that DVD :')

mrsballack · 17/04/2014 21:50

My god, the couple who are adopting their boys sibling could be us. It's a bit close to home for us here. Hope it ends well for them

flightywoman · 17/04/2014 21:51

It's reminding me of when we went through it...

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Lilka · 17/04/2014 21:51

They're brave to let their DVD be put on TV Grin

I don't think I would. DVD's of yourself are embarassing Grin

But yes, it's very very difficult for a child. An older child faces the reality of losing the parnts they love (FC's), everything they know, to go to a complete unknown and it's terrifying. The introduction period is very articifial and nerve wracking, and when you do move in together, you're still strangers and the child has lost everything they knew. So then your child grieves their losses, and you're still someone strange. Getting to know each other, testing the boundaries. Hard time in many ways

With little ones, they have no clue what's going on, but when they move, they know it. My DS was 23 months old, his FC's were mummy and daddy. I think the first couple of days with me were like a holiday, then he realised mummy and daddy were gone and everything was different and he grieved. It was awful, no other word for it. Awful for him. And there's nothing I can do to ease this grief, only time will help. So he howled and sobbed and I couldn't comfort him

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Devora · 17/04/2014 21:51

It's making me relive our bloody awful introductions week. Poor little dd.

TheNewSofa · 17/04/2014 21:53

Its been an excellent series.

Brings tears to my eyes every few mins!

flightywoman · 17/04/2014 21:54

Intros were exhausting. The mornings just got earlier and earlier as we arrived for breakfast and stuff. I was knackered!

candycoatedwaterdrops · 17/04/2014 21:59

You can just see Lauren going through the emotions, bless her little heart.

Hels20 · 17/04/2014 22:03

The most emotional episode for me. Thought Lauren and Liam's SW was wonderful and the foster carers of the children (incl Destiny) were just brilliant.

I hope more people consider adopting. It's made me think we won't just stop at one...

mrsballack · 17/04/2014 22:04

Oh god yes, the exhaustion of intros.
We were told ours woke up at 8. By the end of the intros we were at the foster carers by 6 and one of them was already awake. Luckily we were not too far from their house.

namechangesforthehardstuff · 17/04/2014 22:06

Poor Lauren basically wasn't allowed to have any negative emotions though was she? 'Rabbit's feeling sad' 'Why's it sad? No need to be sad'. Poor little girl. :(

babyboomersrock · 17/04/2014 22:13

Poor Lauren basically wasn't allowed to have any negative emotions though was she? 'Rabbit's feeling sad' 'Why's it sad? No need to be sad'. Poor little girl

I agree. I thought it was heartbreaking - every time she tried to express her anxiety, she was "reassured". I hope to goodness it worked out.