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15,000 Kids And Counting - On Channel 4, starting on 3rd April

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OneOfOurLilkasIsMissing · 27/03/2014 22:10

Heads up folks, Channel 4 are doing a new adoption documentary "15,000 Kids and Counting"

Series Description - Child protection levels in Britain are at a record high. Over 15,000 children were waiting to be adopted in 2013 - twice as many as five years earlier

With unparalleled access to the entire adoption process, this series follows social workers, foster carers, birth parents and adopters as heart-wrenchingly difficult decisions are made about the future of some of Britain's most vulnerable children

Episode 1 is on 3rd April at 9.00PM, is called The Decision

The adoption process begins with the most difficult decision of all: the decision to remove a child from their birth family

The first episode in the series follows the social workers whose job it is to take children away from their parents and recommend whether they should ever return; and meets parents who are desperately fighting to keep their children

Episode 2 a week later - The Search

This episode follows the search for adoptive parents for a two-year-old boy and a three and seven-year-old brother and sister

With the added challenges of having slightly older children, siblings and a child with possible health issues to place, the task for social workers Annette and Jackie is a massive one

With the future of these children in their hands and recently set government targets to meet, they struggle not to become emotionally involved as they strive to find adopters before time runs out

I'll certainly be watching, looks interesting

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Emily123456 · 05/04/2014 20:15

Thanks very much

Emily123456 · 05/04/2014 20:24

Would to thank everyone for there helpful and nice comments to anyone who does not agree your entitled to
Your opinion

HappySunflower · 05/04/2014 20:36

How are you now Emily?
Have you been able to have letterbox contact to find out how Sophie is?

Emily123456 · 05/04/2014 20:45

I am ok I have letterbox contact once a year Sophie is in nursery now and doing very well

Devora · 05/04/2014 20:50

All best to you, Emily.

BertieBotts · 05/04/2014 20:51

Emily, I also think you came across very well on the programme.

There will always be people who judge, most of us cannot begin to imagine what it would be like to be in such a situation. I had an ex partner a bit like Matthew, it's so impossible to "get it" unless you've either been there or had a lot of indirect experience of such a situation.

I'm glad to hear Sophie is doing well.

Maryz · 05/04/2014 20:52

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HappySunflower · 05/04/2014 20:53

That is very good to hear.
Your letters will be very important to her as she grows up.
Glad that you are ok. :)

UnderTheNameOfSanders · 05/04/2014 20:54

Hi Emily,
I am so glad you are having letterbox contact. It may be difficult for you to reply to the letters but they really will be of value to your daughter as she grows up.
You so reminded me of my daughter's birth mother. Young, not very well educated, and forgive me for saying it, dominated by a partner older than yourself who really appeared not to treat you well.
My daughter's BM eventually found the strength to leave her partner and forge a new life for herself. It took her a long time, but she is doing so much better now. I really hope you do too, you deserve better.
(and stay off the thread on Chat).

Lilka · 05/04/2014 20:58

I'm glad to hear that Sophie's doing well and you are okay. I hope your letters will be really helpful to Sophie when she's a bit older, and I really hope you can build yourself a good life Emily. I think it was a brave decision to go on telly and I wish you all the best Smile

Emily123456 · 05/04/2014 21:00

Thank you for all your lovely comments I have got a job now and am ready for Sophie to come back whenever is Sophie is ready and I can't wait to hug her again

lotuslover · 05/04/2014 21:13

Emily, I wish you all the best. You came across as such a caring person in the documentary. How are things with your partner now?

Emily123456 · 05/04/2014 21:28

Me and matthew still speak

Emily123456 · 05/04/2014 21:29

Thanks I
Just wanted Sophie to have a good life

EverythingCounts · 05/04/2014 22:20

Good luck to you Emily.

TheScience is right about the Bristol situation - a bed was purchased by SS for the boy but the parents didn't put it together (IKea type job so should have been possible) and on a future SS visit they saw it still in the packaging against a wall.

Italiangreyhound · 05/04/2014 22:21

EverythingCounts what was the programme with the bed, is it available on catch up?

MyFeetAreCold · 05/04/2014 22:28

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morethanpotatoprints · 05/04/2014 22:29

Hello Emily if you are still here.
I came to add something and to wish you heartfelt best wishes for the future Maryz puts it so much better.

Italiangreyhound · 05/04/2014 22:34

Thanks Myfeet I saw the trailer but had not seen the actual documentary.

NonnoMum · 05/04/2014 22:46

Emily, thanks for your honesty. I really admire you and the tough decisions you have had to make. Hopefully one day, your daughter will realise how loved she was and is by you.

I'm really pleased you have got a job now. I hope it is working out alright.

Hopefully, people watching the programme will be moved by it. Not only do we want what is best for your baby, but we want you too to go on and have a better life.

Mumsnet recently had Philomena as a guest poster. Have you read her book or seen the film about her? Although her circumstances were different and the times were too, she forged a life for herself but never forgot her son. She is remarkable and hopefully there may be some support out there for women like you who may be able to put you in touch with women like her...

All the best. xxx

Emily123456 · 05/04/2014 23:14

Thank you very much for all the support this is way better than some counselling that they can't give me lol

crazeekitty · 05/04/2014 23:54

Emily, I wish my dd's bm had had the strength to allow her to be placed for adoption as a baby. It would have meant she could have had a stable home and life from birth instead of being passed around the system for nine years. She's lost count of how many homes and schools she has had. You did the right thing for little Sophie.

tiktok · 06/04/2014 09:21

Emily, I can recommend this organisation:

www.afteradoption.org.uk/

They support everyone involved with adoption, including birth parents.

All the very best to you.

Emily123456 · 06/04/2014 09:39

Thank you crazeekitty I have tried after adoption tik tok they won't give me counselling either thanks

flowerpowerlondon · 06/04/2014 11:55

Good luck Emily. Well done for being so brave and I hope you can maintain the positive changes so that when Sophie is older and may want to meet you that you are in a good place to hopefully have a positive meeting and relationship.

For those mentioning the BBC series protecting our children programs 1 to 3 are can be watched on the link below.

www.dailymotion.com/video/x15pc3t_protecting-our-children-ep1_lifestyle