can you check my letter is appropriate please?

[OurMiracle1106]

It was so good to hear from you. Thank you for the hand prints. I hope you and mummy and daddy are all really well and had a really good christmas, and that you got all you wished for. I bet you enjoyed the sparkly lights on the trees. I had a good christmas too, spending it with my best friend.
I am now healed, and walking normally again, though i have a nice scar from my war wound. Lots has happened since i last saw you in July and since i met mummy and daddy in december. I now have my own place to live, its only a room but i have a lovely balcony and i have been planting pots out there, and will also be waiting for the green sprouts of new life to spring up in the next weeks and months, and buying a nice table and chairs to enjoy the summer out there.
I bet your talking is coming along so much now. I also hear that you are still full of energy, but that hasnt changed then has it? You always did love being on your feet and running around. I would love to see some of your paintings that it sounds like you love doing at nursery and see a picture of you. I bet your growing quick and getting tall, how tall are you now?
I bet you love your tractor you got for christmas and your train set. You used to always love watching tractor tom with me and bob the builder, though i guess you have changed which tv programmes you watch. So what do you like to watch of a morning now?
Your mummy and daddy say they are going to take you for a riding lesson very soon! I used to ride when i was a kid, and you have been on a horse once before for a walk abouts and loved it so i dont doubt you will have soo much fun learning to ride! My mum and dad both used to ride as well!
I am doing well, getting myself better, keeping busy. The weather is lovely today as i write this, the sun is shining through my window. I done you some pictures of me at christmas and will have another couple taken and send them with this letter to you so you can see me.
I hope mummy has a lovely mothers day and that she is spoilt rotten, you have an amazing birthday and get all you want and deserve and daddy has a great fathers day.
Look after yourself baby. I love you so much, to the stars and back.
Thank you so much for my letter.
Love always.

Thank you for all the supportive messages. They have asked me to add a context of my leg, ie in regards to the accident cos ds doesnt kbow about it (though they asked how my leg was in their letter.

They asked me to not ask for a photo but otherwise they are happy with the letter.

So I'm quite happy too

Thats all sounds quite positive Miracles

Great news, thinking of you.

That's really good news Miracle, I'm glad to hear it

It's just occurred to me that this is potentially very 'outing'. If your ds's parents use/read/lurk on this board they'll know you straight away. If you intend to use the board for support in future that's not brilliant tbh...

I thought of that, too, Namechanges but also thought if adoptive parents did read this, I didn't think there was any harm - and might even help. But maybe any identification is bad? I do think, Miracle, that Namechanges makes a good point and if you do want this thread removed - just email MN headquarters. And perhaps change your user name if you want any advice/want to share anything that you would not want either your social worker to see or your DS's adoptive parents.

There is nothing on here they cant see. Yes I miss him and will always miss him, however what I wrote to them was in our sons best interests. They surely don't think that I am not human and shouldn't care and Tbf most of it has been what to expect when I met them. As for the social worker how I feel, and how much I hurt has no impact on her. She is there to protect our ds, as I am not writing it in the letters it doesnt stop me feeling it. Just I don't feel our son should feel bad for how I feel so I try to make it all positives.

Yes. But all that is about this thread. And once you are identified you are you, really you, not cyber-you, on every post you ever make on here. I think that bears some thought...

Miracle have pmed you.

Sorry I've come to this late, I'm also a birth parent and I think it's such a powerful letter.

It's a year since I saw my daughter, who is now 7. Like you my life is being rebuilt, slowly but surely.

My first 3 letters did not go through. The thing on yours that my LA would refuse is any reference to the past, such as "you always did love being on your feet..." and "you used to love watching..." and even that you saw him in July - I'm not allowed to mention final contact (odd, given that the point of it, prior to it's happening, was to create positive lasting memories - or so I was told). But I imagine different LAs are different and I'll be so pleased for you if it goes through as it is, it is heartfelt and positive and loving.

Wishing you all the very best x