Have to get this off my chest as its been niggling me since yesterday.
Ds has been home 10 weeks and we have joined a toddler group which we have very much enjoyed. It is common knowledge he is adopted as I knew a fair few of the women prior to him joining us.
Cut a long story short one woman started saying "oh why would you adopt, would you not just have another one of your own...". I smiled sweetly and thought goodness how ignorant.
Fast forward to her toddler having a tantrum a few minutes later and she starts shouting out "that's it your off to the naughty children home to get adopted" my jaw just hit the floor as she openly said it 3 times in varying ways but all saying naughty children get adopted. My poor ds just looked at her as we have been doing lots of work with him on what adoption means and how much of a positive word it is.
I was so angry but understand people don't always take their audience and their personal circumstances into account whilst dealing with a toddler meltdown but when it's a small group and one child has been recently adopted is their any need to be so insensitive.
I probably need to toughen up but just felt it was a horrible situation and really did not know what to say.