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Struggling a bit this weekend

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RudolphLovesoftplay · 06/10/2013 12:15

Hi all, I am normally uber positive about my DC, but this weekend has being trying, to say the least.

I can't put my finger on why exactly it was so bad, but it started at 6:45 on Saturday morning when my DS was so hyper he was running about screaming. They won't stop fighting, and I've had to physically deprecate them at least 3 times.

I know a lot of it is just sibling behaviour, and I know how to solve it for next weekend, so I don't really know why I'm posting. I guess I've never felt like actually running away from them before this weekend, and it's shocked me to feel like this Hmm

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Italiangreyhound · 06/10/2013 13:07

Sorry to hear it is difficult at moment Softplay. Wishing it will be better soon.

Has anything happened to cause this? I wonder, or maybe just something in the air, the last of the summer!

Thinking of you.

Kewcumber · 06/10/2013 13:29

I've had a difficult summer with days like this. Just sometimes challenging behaviour hits when we're not emotionally able to deal with it... and yet we do - we just feel like shit afterwards!

Try and do something nice for yourself and start agin.

Kewcumber · 06/10/2013 13:35

starting a gin would of course be nice! or you could start again!

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RudolphLovesoftplay · 06/10/2013 14:01

Thanks guys for your kind words. I have enrolled my oldest at Saturday football which is an early class. I think the issue maybe the lack of weekend structure after a week at school.

My youngest is soooo heavily influenced by the behaviour of his brother that I am hoping separating them a little may help him especially.

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KristinaM · 06/10/2013 14:02

Don't be shocked that you feel like running away. It's totally normal.

Just because we went through hell to adopt them doesn't mean we don't all fantasise about a nice peaceful weekend without them

I think I fancy the Maldives -what about you?

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RudolphLovesoftplay · 06/10/2013 14:10

I think I thought I would over this by now as they've been home for 2.5yrs. In hindsight, when they first came home I suffered a bit of post adoption depression, and even then I never felt like running away!!

I agree though, I'm not feeling anything different to what all of you have been through at some point, so I'm not for sectioning just yet :)

I think it would be Seychelles for me, just for a weekend mind Wink

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Kewcumber · 06/10/2013 14:21

Ha ha haaa 2.5 yrs?! Amateur! We've been home/matched 7 years next month and this summer has (intermittently) been the worst we've had.

I'd murder for a weekend in the Seychelles.

Mind you we have had the best week this week in probably 3 months so am feeling smug right now.

Kewcumber · 06/10/2013 14:22

I'm sure having moments or wanting to run away from your children must surely be a sign of a sane person. Why wouldn't you want to run away from a whirling dervish?! Confused

KristinaM · 06/10/2013 14:32

It's taken you 2.5 years to want to run away????? You must have the patience of a saint

Most of us have had lots of " oh my goodness what have I done " and " this isn't how I imagined it " moments in the first few MONTHS!

KatieScarlett2833 · 06/10/2013 14:34

DH and I are running away on Monday Grin
We lasted 18 years GrinGrinGrin

Kewcumber · 06/10/2013 14:39

I have a night off next Saturday. DS is having a sleep over at his Nan's haven't had one in a couple of months and it feels odd. I'm already feeling a bit limbless!

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RudolphLovesoftplay · 06/10/2013 14:54

Within about 30mins I had a "what have I done moment" and the feeling lasted about 6months sadly, with little respite in between. But I never felt like actually up and leaving them, no.

I'm sure I will be ok tomorrow when I've had a good rant at DH sleep Grin

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Kewcumber · 06/10/2013 15:18

Ah but the up and leaving them bit is a little like the reverse of the childrne play up most when they feel secure that you're not going to leave them. I wouldn;t have allowed myself to think about walking away in the early days because it was probably a bit too close to the bone to allow the idea to creep in.

Now its more of an exasperated, I need a break, kind of thing. And perfectly normal (IMVHO)

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RudolphLovesoftplay · 06/10/2013 15:22

Very wise words Kew Smile

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Lilka · 06/10/2013 18:32

I fancy a nice little mountain village in the Alps personally....somewhere with a spa nearby where i can get a massage

2.5 years without wanting to run is a truly amazing achievement

I seem to average weekly, but daily at the moment.

Hmm, how about a Caribbean cruise...

KristinaM · 06/10/2013 22:52

Ooh the alps sounds very nice. In the winter to ski or the summer to walk? Perhaps we could do both :-)

Though I'm tempted by the Seychelles with Rudolph and kew

Maryz · 06/10/2013 22:58

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Kewcumber · 06/10/2013 23:02

Oh a cruise would be nice... a MN adoption cruise.

Maryz · 06/10/2013 23:03

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Lilka · 06/10/2013 23:15

Exactly, Alps is the perfect choice all year round! Seychelles sounds pretty good, but quite hot. But then, I'm not a heat person, I prefer cooller weather

I've always wanted to see Machu Pichu....

Lilka · 06/10/2013 23:17

The idea of a cruise with DD2....don't know whether to laugh or cry Grin

Lilka · 06/10/2013 23:18

The ships crew would definitely choose 'cry'

Devora · 07/10/2013 00:01

I fantasise, frequently, about a weekend away, completely by myself. It doesn't matter where - Croydon Novotel would do - because I'm not leaving the hotel (can't risk having to interact with anyone). I just need to be Completely Alone, somewhere with a comfortable bed (that I don't have to share) and room service.

I am salivating at the thought. It's been 8 years, I reckon I'm owed.

Kewcumber · 07/10/2013 11:38

I remember crisp white sheets and room service. I never appreciated it then.

KristinaM · 07/10/2013 12:02

LOL at Croydon novatel