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getting up from seat rant!!! sorry long!)

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alittlebitselfish · 19/06/2010 16:36

sorry but i need to get this off my chest!!

the other day i was on a bus home from a very long and tiering day from work.
i made sure i got on at the first stop as i know it will get packed easy.

so the bus goes to the next stop and as predicted a whole load of people get on.
I notice a pregnant women (who looked about 7 months pregz) walked on the bus, an older women about 60 offered her seat and she declined.

about 4 stops later i get a tap on my shoulder and someone saying "can i sit down, i am 8 months pregnant with a bad back"
the cheek of it! i thought after i just saw her turn down a perfectly good seat.
so i said "sorry but i have had a long day" and just looked away.
i then noticed most of the people on the bus staring at me and then one man offered his seat wich she took.

I am not being rude or anything but its not my problem that you are 8 months pregant with a 'bad back'.

i just wanted to know your opinions on what you would do in that situation and if you think i was being a bit selfish?
(as my friend thought i was being after i told her the story)

feed back welcome from pregnant mums too
cheers

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JodieO · 19/06/2010 17:21

So because you've been pregnant and thought "it wasn't the end of the world" you think that every single other pregnancy is the same???? Are you really serious? If you can't accept that some pregnancies do in fact make some women disabled then you should do a bit more reading before casting your judgements.

Were you hoping for a medal because you played a martyr and didn't ask anyone for a seat when you were pregnant?

veritythebrave · 19/06/2010 17:22

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JodieO · 19/06/2010 17:24

I love your terminology btw, "got herself pregnant" lol, I didn't realise it was a solo pursuit or that women have crystal balls and can predict what their pregnancies will be like. I assume you've never heard of SPD/pelvic girdle pain or the myriad other things that can cause pregnancy problems?

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Pogleswood · 19/06/2010 17:25

Possibly a little weird that she walked all the way to the back of the bus to ask,but you should have let her sit.Pregnancy isn't a disability,neither is being elderly,but it is courteous and makes life better for everyone to give a bit of consideration to those people who might need it.
If I had actually asked someone for a seat when I was pregnant it would have been because I was desparate - only that would have got me asking a total stranger for a favour...
Really,it wouldn't have hurt you to be nice,would it?

GeekOfTheWeek · 19/06/2010 17:26

You are a selfish twat.

I sincerely hope that karma bites you on the arse in a big way.

Bacofoil · 19/06/2010 17:29

A young man moves in next door, alittlebitselfish. He is good looking, chatty, and drives a nice car in which he can give you lift to work, saving your bus fare and abuse from fellow passengers daring to flaunt their fertility in your face. But then you find out he is a member of the BNP, drowns kittens for fun, and deals crack to schoolchildren. Do you

a) report him to the police?
b) challenge his views and egg his car?
c) realise if you sold crack to schoolchildren too, you could have a nice car and not have to take the fucking bus, so you have him shot and take over his business whilst realising the BNP make some good points?
d) other?

booyhoo · 19/06/2010 17:31

baco these are too funny

Bacofoil · 19/06/2010 17:33

She isn't cocking answering them though, is she.

ALITTLEBITSELFISH

WWYD?

jumpingjackhash · 19/06/2010 17:42

LOL @ Bacofoil

OP , surely it's just good manners and common decency to offer your seat to someone who needs it (diddums you'd had a tiring day, don't we all? )

I would never not give up my seat if asked and have also been offered someone else's seat when I wasn't feeling too well on a packed tube once (not pg at the time)... it made a difference to my journey and possibly made the person who gave me their seat feel as though they had something nice for a stranger.

fyimate · 19/06/2010 17:50

This is a silly thread really.
Everyone knows that the ederly, disabled and pregnant/mums with children ie prams have piority on buses, yes even more piority then those of us who have had "a bad day"
The fact that she had to ask someone else for a seat is amazing really. Why had no one offered her a seat before? Are we all really that uncaring and selfish now that we leave the seat giving to the frail?
"Do unto those as you would have done to you." Not getting religious but that statement is a good one to follow. Wish everyone would.

funkychunkymunky · 19/06/2010 17:53

I would have offered her the seat before she asked. I would have assumed she didn't want the seat of the older lady because she felt that she was older and less able to stand than her.

You know you were being selfish.

booyhoo · 19/06/2010 17:53

fyimate, an older lady had offered her a seat when she got on the bus but she refused. perhaps she felt ok then or perhaps she thought the older lady needed it more.

Marjee · 19/06/2010 17:53

Yabu! She must have been desperate to ask for a seat. I remember being 7 months pregnant on a packed bus, getting knocked into and nearly falling down. No one offered me a seat. I got off and walked home as I daren't ask for a seat. Reading your post reminds me why. Some people are so rude!

LadyBiscuit · 19/06/2010 17:55

fyimate · 19/06/2010 18:22

booyhoo I wasnt suggesting the pregnant lady was in the wrong for refusing. I would have done the same as her.

LimaCharlie · 19/06/2010 18:35

bacofoil I'm rofl

whomovedmychocolate · 19/06/2010 19:24

Perhaps she picked you because you were tutting and muttering 'oh look at the size of that ungrateful fat bitch' when she got on?

Trip trap.

geraldinetheluckygoat · 19/06/2010 19:35

Bacofoil - HAHAHAHAAAAAA you're very very funny!!
OP -

booyhoo · 19/06/2010 20:37

oh i know that fyi, i thought you had just missed that part in the OP where she had already ben offered a seat, so was just clarifying.

StayFrosty · 19/06/2010 20:42

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fyimate · 19/06/2010 20:50

Ooo no, I meant why hadnt anyone offered her a seat after she turned down the old lady's offer.
I've had trouble on the bus before when I was pregnant. Already told my tale on another thread but basically a grumpy woman told me to get off the seat I was in so she could sit there! I was so stunned I didnt know what to say, luckily a fellow passenger told her to leave me alone because I was obviously pregnant and there were actually plenty free seats next to her!

booyhoo · 19/06/2010 20:56

ah, crossed wires!!

that is terrible, that she would ask you to get up!!! i wonder if she had issues with pregnant people, especially as there were other seats.

fyimate · 19/06/2010 21:10

No I think she was a regular and assumed that that was "her" seat! It was the only 'single' seat on the bus, ie, not two next to eachother.
She really wanted me to move, if it wasnt for the other passenger getting involved I dont think my little squeaky "there's a seat over there" would have sufficed! I was in total shock.
DP tells me I should put on a chavvie voice and raise my voice in situations like that, he reckons people will run off But I'm too timid for that!

booyhoo · 19/06/2010 21:16

i have a slightly more 'local' accent for such occasions, had to use it today infact when some little brats stole ds1's lightsaber and were hitting him with it. he is 4, they are 10.

fyimate · 19/06/2010 21:22

Wow! I'd hate to be in a situation like that, I have no idea how I'd react, I have a bad temper and only once has it got the better of me in public! The less said about that the better!
Actually I think I was totally reasonible to be so mad, I was walking my DD home (she was 3 at the time), she was crying, I was VERY stressed because she wouldnt stop crying when a fully grown man shouted over from the pub, "Shut up" ....now what would you do?!

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