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is it a good idea so young?

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Ryoko · 02/05/2010 20:58

I have not had the baby yet it was due the 28th of April but hasn't come out yet.

anyway my other half is off work in the last week of June and wants to take the baby with him to see his parents.

now they live 4-5 hours away in Cornwall.

would it be a good idea to take a baby that young to cornwall for a couple of days or not?.

I'm not keen on the idea although it will be sleeping in the same cot as he will be taking that with him (as it's a travel cot anyway).

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Spatchadoodledo · 02/05/2010 21:48

Well if they are driving down anyway to pick you up they may as well jsut stay for a few nights. Problem solved!!

Babies arent a 'pain in the arse' btw...(except perhaps during labour!! ..

I do think, unless you are unlucky enough to get PND (which I did twice)that you will be shocked by the strength of your feelings (and I was even WITH PND!!)

Also, totally your decision and feel free to ignore this bit..you do realise pumping takes twice as long? Cos you have to feed AND pump not just feed? But well done for cnosidering pumping over FF!! ( I couldnt actually produce milk so had to FF and am slightly jelous that you have a choice!! )

If you do decide to still go, also consider milk storage options.

DuelingFanjo · 02/05/2010 21:50

Tell your Dh that it's not going to happen and they will have to come to you.

BertieBotts · 02/05/2010 21:50

And I think that if you want to breastfeed, you can't really plan to be away from your baby for 3 days when he or she is only a few weeks old. That is very likely to be the end of breastfeeding. If breastfeeding is important to you I would seriously consider going too. I second that you won't be bored!

(Also if you are worried about cot death you might be interested to know that breastfeeding helps protect against cot death, not sure how this risk compares to the smoking risk)

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Spatchadoodledo · 02/05/2010 21:51

Bertie - yy!!
I forgot (better remember damn fast if this child ever comes out!! ) that newborns can and do feed every two or three hours anyway, so at least one or two stops would need to be made anyway!!

Effjay · 02/05/2010 21:52

I take it this is your first? I think the shock of what it means to look after a newborn, ie. pretty relentless and exhausting, will mean your dh will change his mind. I have to say, there is no way that I could have let my baby out of my sight at that age.

Trafficcone · 02/05/2010 21:59

You're worried about cot death from pets (WTF????) but allow a baby that young to sleep in a travel cot which presumably doesn't have a decent ventilated safety mattress.
I can't believe any Mother would consider their newborn going so far away when there is no reason at all why they don't go as well.

whifflegarden · 02/05/2010 21:59

I take it this is your first - I'd say wait until baby is born, as the trip could depend on so many things that you won't know about until then.

The other thing I'd say is...if you do get bored when baby comes...can we swap

whifflegarden · 02/05/2010 22:02

Also, I don't think you'll be able to let the baby go without you once s/he is here. Not because of the practical reasons, but because of the overwhelming desire to protect baby and the emotional connection you'll have. A 4 week baby is so vulnerable and tiny.

pinkgrapefruitjuice · 02/05/2010 22:02

If you are not keen on the idea then say no for now. Wait until June and then decide what you all want to do. Make a decision at that time based on what is best for your baby.

TheCrackFox · 02/05/2010 22:04

I just love the innocence of expectant first time mums.

MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 02/05/2010 22:05

Oh my good God! No way on this planet!!! A small baby needs to be with it's mum nearly 100% of the time!!!

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SpringHeeledJack · 02/05/2010 22:10

Ryoko most of the mums of new babies I know (me included) were so delighted with their offspring that they all did whistlestop tours of every last damn relative in the country to show 'em off

don't worry about long distances with a four week old. it's completely doable

everythingiseverything · 02/05/2010 22:12

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harimo · 02/05/2010 22:13

By MrsWobbleTheWaitress Sun 02-May-10 22:05:19
Oh my good God! No way on this planet!!! A small baby needs to be with it's mum nearly 100% of the time!!!

See... I'd say... A mum needs to be with her small baby nearly 100% of the time!!

MollieO · 02/05/2010 22:15

This sentence in your latest post answers your question

"it would be a pain in the arse to get off the motorway every hour and a half to give it a rest."

You will need to stop to FEED your baby! Sorry if you think that is "pain in the arse". I found at that age ds would be okay for about 1.5 to 2 hours and then need feeding/changing etc, which would take about an hour.

Like others have said you will be in for a huge reality check when your baby is born. Good luck!

cornsilk · 02/05/2010 22:16

You won't be able to be parted from your baby for 3 days at 8 weeks.

Trafficcone · 02/05/2010 22:17

How will you get the baby home from hospital if you don't have a car seat? shudders at thought of unrestrained in taxi
And if your inlaws live in Cornwall, how can they come 'down' to get you. Where do you live? In a pineapple under the sea? Surely they'd have to drive north to fetch you if you're 4-5 hrs drive away.

piscesmoon · 02/05/2010 22:19

You will find that you don't want to be separated. I think that you will be surprised at how demanding babies are-they won't just fit into plans!
Once you have a DC is the time to get to know them-they are part of the family.
Have them to stay with you and make them go into the garden to smoke.

ICouldHaveWrittenThis · 02/05/2010 22:20

DON'T. GO.

Simples.

The long journey, the smokey house, the age of the child.

Tiny babies that age need feeding all the time anyway, so you'll be off the motorway every hour anyway, and it might take that long to feed!

If you do go, get the train.

everythingiseverything "Formula feeding is a significant risk-factor in cot death" really??

SpringHeeledJack · 02/05/2010 22:20

I don't much like the tone of some of these responses

looks like you're all standing round in a circle with pinnies on, wagging your fingers at the OP

so she doesn't know stuff. Well, that's because she hasn't had her baby yet. ffs stop being so bossy

Trafficcone · 02/05/2010 22:20

I agree with everythingiseverything. If you're worried about cot death then breastfeeding is a huge factor in that, as is a safe place to sleep like a Moses basket, crib, pram carrycot or cot with a proper mattress.

NonnoMum · 02/05/2010 22:22

Please don't don't let the baby go away from you when he or she is only a few weeks old.

You will go loony.

How lovely that your PiL want to get to know their new grandchild. They should come and stay near you.

And, as for having a pump - I don't get it. Did you think you could pump enough for that baby to keep going for several days without you?

If you DO decide to go travelling with your baby (whatever its age), then the train is lovely.

pinkfizzle · 02/05/2010 22:22

You do not seem comfortable with the idea.

FWIW I was not able to part from my baby for more than a couple of hours.

I would wait to see what happens - you might change you mind.

For ex - my baby used to feed every 2 hours there was no way I would be able to pump enough milk for a night away.

EvilTwins · 02/05/2010 22:25

I agree with SpringHeeledJack Stop being so bossy. And enough with the bf mafia. OP has already said she intends to breastfeed. It was another poster who said about ff, and she was talking about her own experiences.

I expect the OP is worried enough about cot death - I know I was when I was pg, without having to hear about how every decision she was making was likely to increase the risk.

OP - I do agree with some posters though - wait til your baby arrives before you make any decisions about this. If your in-laws can come and see you at your house, then you may well find it easier.

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