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am a little annoyed!

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Disenchanted3 · 20/04/2010 10:39

When my parents got a new car they asked us if we warted their old one, we didn't drive an the car hdbeen in a fire(!!) on a petrol forecourt!

They wanted a bigger car and so gave us this one.

We didn't pay for it but we did pay over £200 to have it fixed and MOT'd.

Shortly after DH started his lessons he lost his job and so he stopped his lessons.

The cars been on the drive for a while.

We kept asking my parents if they wanted it back but they said 'no, do what you want with it'

So considering the state its in we decided to scrap it for £120.

(the car is in my husbands name BTW)

My mums and dad didn't want us to do this, despite saying 'do what you want with it' for month (the same cars worjing and MOT'd on ebay only go for a few hundred)

So dad says clean it up and put it on ebay.

We got and buy a load of car cleaning products and plan to do that.

They say thats great, we plan on using the money for spending money on our caravan holiday.

Now my sisters boyfriend has passed his tests and she txts me to find out the cars reg, my parents have said 'she can have it'

I'm upset as they have said all along that we can sell it, and we did pay £200 to fix it.

I know we have let it just sit there, but in all honesty I don't think its drivable!

We were selling it on ebay for spares!

I feel a bit annoyed that I'm expected to just hand it to them with no questions when its been clear for the last few months its ours to sell and we have put £200 into it!

I think my parents still see it as theirs, but they gave it to us, we got it repaired, MOT'd and all documents are in DHSs name!

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GypsyMoth · 20/04/2010 10:42

so its legally his.....and he should say he only wants the £200 for it thats been paid on repairs.....where is the issue??

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Disenchanted3 · 20/04/2010 10:44

The issue is that we are expected to just give it to them. If I question it or ask for money theres gonna be trouble from my mum becuase we haven't used it, iykwim.

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dizzydixies · 20/04/2010 10:44

tell dsis that once she forks over £200 they're welcome to it, maybe £180 as mates rates

ShinyAndNew · 20/04/2010 10:44

Yes tell them they can have it for £200.

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Disenchanted3 · 20/04/2010 10:44

In all converstaions theres been no mention of us getting anything from it and my sister said my parents said they can just have it, no money involved.

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Disenchanted3 · 20/04/2010 10:45

My mums has a very selective memory also, and she seems to think SHE paid for all the bits to be done and we paid 'for just a little bits extra' (?!) in her words.

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GypsyMoth · 20/04/2010 10:47

well you need to remind them....any reasonable adult would agree to pay!! or are they not reasonable people?

stick to that as if its what hyou'd expect,act all surprised if they refuse to pay....embarass them!!

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Disenchanted3 · 20/04/2010 10:48

Thats it though, its all just a bit embarressing, it always is with family and money

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compo · 20/04/2010 10:50

were you the same poster who didn't want your sister to have your mum's wedding ring?

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Disenchanted3 · 20/04/2010 10:51

No, no ring issues here! My mums wedding ring is still firmly on her finger

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dizzydixies · 20/04/2010 10:51

my lot are like this, Dad gave us his car except by the time he was handing it over he wanted £1500 for it we told him if we had to spend £1500 on a car it wouldn't be that one and to keep it - mum stepped in and kept him true to his word but its made us VERY wary indeed

phone your parents, tell them that you've spent £200 on it and need that back either from dsis or ebay - their choice and no longer THEIR car to hand out

compo · 20/04/2010 10:52

lol

sorry was getting you confused

ooh tricky one

maybe your sister can buy all the cleaning stuff for teh car off you?!!

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Disenchanted3 · 20/04/2010 10:54

lol, thats not going to add up to £200 though is it?!

Thing is, I know if it was the other way round, and sis had the car, theres no way she would just hand it over and I would feel really uncomftable asking but she doesn't seem to feel that way and just keeps on about it. And I don't know what to say

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Disenchanted3 · 20/04/2010 10:57

Am thinking that, as we were going to scrap it for £120, we will ask them (Dsis & BIL) if they want it for £100.

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dizzydixies · 20/04/2010 11:02

I'd be going for the £120 - you're still at at least £80 loss here

whowhatwhenwhere · 20/04/2010 11:05

Is this you as well? If so, then you've already stated she (your mother) said sell it, so either tell your sister you want the £200 for it, or scrap it.

coppertop · 20/04/2010 11:09

I would say that the car belongs to your dh now, that you've made plans to sell it, but that your sister can have the chance to buy it from you first.

Show her the figures for how much it has cost you so far and explain that as she's your sister you'll be prepared to let it go for £150 (or whatever you would've got on e-bay).

Deal directly with your sister and not your mum.

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Disenchanted3 · 20/04/2010 11:15

yes thats me after an Eddie Izzard thread

Thanks Coppertop that does sound the most sensible way to go about it but my sister is very immature and will go directly to my mum and ask her to 'have a word with me'

In a way I can see where my mum is coming from, she gave us the car, we haven't used it her other daughter needs a car... but theres no reason why we can be reimbursed for what we have spent.

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Disenchanted3 · 20/04/2010 11:17

In all honesty Id still rather scrap it as I can see them (if they do) paying me £100 or whatever then the piece of crap won't start and then they spend £££ on repairing it... its not worth the agro. I can't see it being a smooth runner for years and it will always come back to ma having sold it to them.,

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coppertop · 20/04/2010 11:28

Does BIL know anything about cars or have a friend who does? Maybe if he/friend comes and actually looks at the car they will be able to see for themselves that it's not worth buying.

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Disenchanted3 · 20/04/2010 12:00

Hmm, I dunno, my mum said she was getting the mechanic to come see it, but thats more £££ spending on it!

I might suggest that to her though.

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AmazingBouncingFerret · 20/04/2010 12:07

Scrap it and tell them it got stolen!

Seriously though your sister needs to give you some money for it considering you spent money int he first place getting it in working order.

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Disenchanted3 · 20/04/2010 18:29

Have just spoken to sister, shes said she phoned mum ands shes going to 'sort it' tonight, so god knows what that means

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Disenchanted3 · 20/04/2010 18:31

Tried to explain to sis that we paid for repairs and MOT, but she just kept saying 'well mum rang and said we could have it'

I don't wanna see my mum tonight.

I think I'll just hand it over

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IngridFletcher · 20/04/2010 18:37

It doesn't belong to your mum though! It is now your Dh's.