Report friend's husband and jeopardise his job?

[snakeinthegrass]

He's the caretaker at the local secondary school. He's into photography and has pages on a popular photo-hosting website. These include glamour shots, presumably taken in a hired studio with models. Plenty of full frontal, all pretty naff really.

Anyway, interspersed with these pics are shots of his daughter and her friends on their prom night (they left the school at which he holds a job this summer). They aren't glamour shots as such, definitely no nakedness, just posing in their gowns, you know the kind of thing.

So, he hasn't done anything wrong with regards to the law, but it does seem a bit, well, ill-judged, iykwim. I think it unlikely that the girls' parents know the pics are out there.Another friend is trying to pursuade me to report it to the school Head Teacher.

So, WWYD?

Oh, regular, namechanged btw.

Penguins in prom dresses, now there's a thought!!

Op.....fgs!! Where is the bloody problem?? I have teenage de and still can't see where the problem is? Are you implying something untoward?

Got it!

It does cheer me up now and then to think of that soggy Good Friday and Mr WindCheater getting damp...

"Now really, I never said he was a danger to children, did I?" - why are you considering reporting him then?

NPAM - because she is a silly interfering busybody, no? (to coin a phrase).

It's not going to be Facebook though is it? Facebook doesn't allow breasts let alone nude/porny stuff. I would suspect that being a caretaker and producing glamour pictures are really not good bed fellows as it were, and combining iffy pictures with prom pics has to be a fairly bad idea. If I were a parent of one of the girls in the pictures I would be distinctly unimpressed. Still if you know his wife surely the thing to do would be to raise your concerns with her? I do suspect that it is the sort of thing a Headteacher would want to know about any of her staff though, from the point of view of bringing the school into disrepute and worrying parents.

Agree the caretaker would be wise to separate his Page 3 shots from normal family life dd and friends stuff. I'd be a bit shocked if I stumbled across a friend's photo album and there were soft porn shots in there next to their children.

I would hate to think of photos of my daughter being on the same website as glamour shots and see your point although I wouldnt report him to the school. Just have a quiet word with him and suggest they get removed.

Are they actually pornography? ie. designed to titillate?

Cos if they were just nude photographs then I wouldn't have a problem of them next to a photo of people in prom dresses.

If they are open legged shots, penises perchance then I would have problem.

But nudity is nor pornography.

'glamour' shots = soft porn IMO.

lol @ "penises perchance"

sorry these girls are over 16? they are his daughters friends? they have left school? none of them are in a state of undress? None of these girls is your daughter? They aren't advertising anything? They aren't being exploited.

I dont understand how your neighbours hobby is your business. Or your friends.

Op have you thought about getting a life and perhaps acquiring a certain amount of common sense instead of casting aspersions about your neighbours perfectly legal hobby over the net and thinking about ruining his life and that of his families.

I must be Mrs Very Prudey Prudey No Fun, then, cos I think it all sounds distinctly .

Here's a pic of some girls at Prom night, oh and here's a pic of a lady with her tits out. Nice. Wouldn't want to show my mum pix of her granddaughter on a site like that tbh.

Don't understand FB and all that modern nonsense though, so don't know if they are all actually lined up alongside each other.

Wouldn't like it if I knew the person posting topless pix was the caretaker at my daughter's school either.

There you go, I am indeed Mrs Prudey Prudey No Fun. What a shock.

Puppymonkey - I too am a prude as I also think it sounds a little dodgy. Snakeinthegrass - I think you have had an unfair pounding on here. I would be concerned and would wonder what to do. I would probably talk to a friend who was a teacher and take it from there. I wouldnt want my daughters picture, albeit fully clothed, beside a full frontal naked woman posing for the sexual enjoyment of others.

at nudes being soft porn.

All Nudes? Even this one?

And I am not sure what the point of reporting him is. Better to, ya know, talk to him about why you find it objectionable. But only if one of the prom girls is your daughter. Otherwise? MYOFB

And why name change?!?!

As far as I am aware, nobody said nudes were porn! The op described them as glamour shots which are classified as soft porn which is why they have to be on top shelf or covered in coloured out plastic in newsagents!!!!!! I personally dont have a problem with glamour shots and happily sit and read a lot of mens mags with glamour shots in, but if that magazine had pictures of schoolgirls in their dresses alongside a model posing for glamour shot I would be unhappy and think it most odd. This is no different.

Tee, would be very surprised if the caretaker's shots were like that!!

Presumably this guy isn't Freud, Bacon or Rembrandt... 'glamour' shots is a euphemism for soft porn for the reasons frogwatcher gives. Personally I'd tell him to separate the social pictures from the naked ladies. Put 'em on different sites or at least different sections.

I had a flash of inspiration - it depends what else is on the photo site. If there are pictures of his holiday, wife, inlaws etc on there too, then i think it can safely be assumed it is all very innocent. If there are only glamour shots and pictures of young girls in their prom dresses, then imho it can be assumed that there might be dodgy intentions , in which case I would have a word with the school!

It is a little bit... unusual IMO.

I mean, photobucket or whatever host for free, why not just set up two accounts and keep the soft-focus tits out of the family album?

Oh, but I wouldn't report him, there's nothing wrong with it really, I would just make the face and not really think much more of it.

I have a married friend who is really into his photography and has has some webspace to post all his albums - they are very varied, from friends weddings to sexy candid shots of girls in clubs. He just loves photography, it's his hobby.

It sounds like this guy is just proud of his 'portfolio' and I'd suggest doing the bloke a massive favour and pointing out to him that this wasn't very well thought out and people were talking about it.

I'm sure the glamour pics would be off the www in no time and he'd be very grateful.

give snakeinthegrass a break.

He/she was only asking for some opinions on what we would do............. no need to fly off the handle.

Personally, I'd keep my beak out of it. Its not that bad. The answer is inside yourself. If you feel you can mention it to his face, then do. If you can't, you can't.

Has it occured to you that the 'glamour' pics might even be lingerie adverts or something? There is very little market for very soft, soft porn (ie semi-naked ladies posing alone) these days.
I really do think that this chap probably just puts all his pics on the web ie everything from nude stuff to sunsets and pack shots of home made soap that he did for the wife of a bloke down the pub who'se setting up this business etc...

Upload some of these pics so we can see what all the fuss is about!