Report friend's husband and jeopardise his job?

[snakeinthegrass]

He's the caretaker at the local secondary school. He's into photography and has pages on a popular photo-hosting website. These include glamour shots, presumably taken in a hired studio with models. Plenty of full frontal, all pretty naff really.

Anyway, interspersed with these pics are shots of his daughter and her friends on their prom night (they left the school at which he holds a job this summer). They aren't glamour shots as such, definitely no nakedness, just posing in their gowns, you know the kind of thing.

So, he hasn't done anything wrong with regards to the law, but it does seem a bit, well, ill-judged, iykwim. I think it unlikely that the girls' parents know the pics are out there.Another friend is trying to pursuade me to report it to the school Head Teacher.

So, WWYD?

Oh, regular, namechanged btw.

offs really

really you would risk a man losing his job in this climate, devestating his family, maybe losing his house, his car his future, his references.

You would do that over this?

fucking nasty - think it through lady

just speak to him or send him a letter

DOn't be a twat.

never said i was a lady

agree with custy

he has a hobby photographing grown women without their clothes on.

so what? how does it affect his ability to do his job?

he has obviously done some pics of his daughter and her friend fully clothed as practice

how spiteful for you and your friend to consider reporting him

also, how would you ever look your friend in the eye again if he did lose his job?

I really, really hope you're a troll. Because the idea that there are people as paranoid and ignorant as this, prepared to accuse an individual of being a danger to children on the grounds that the individual owns a camera is really fucking depressing.

blimey, wwyd is good innit?

Never caught on like aibu.

I dunno, I'm far from reporting him to the head. I think he's jeopardised his job already tbh. As I said, ill-judged really.

Now really, I never said he was a danger to children, did I?

If I was a parent though, I'd be pretty pissed off that the caretaker was publishing pics of my daughter. Just that really.

hy not a quiet discreet word to him re publshing pics of daughter and friends? that would be enough

Would it be better if he was a hedge fund accoutant?

What do you mean by 'publishing'
Some of these sites are just to host/store your photos.

If he is an established photographer then he will be fully aware that he shouldn't publish pictures of anyone without their permission. YOU don't know that he hasn't got the permission of these teenagers (or of their parents).
Keep your beak out.

By "publishing" I mean they're on the www and anyone can look at them.

I think it unlikely that he has permission, I'm reluctant to explain why on here. Sorry to be obtuse, but you see I'm a reasonable sort really and I don't want to out him. (Or me, obviously).

bonkers mcConkers. you, not him.

Okay, I didn't know how public the pages he's got the photos on are.
Would the daughter perhaps have told her friends they're on the www

my daughter went to her prom,

the very same evening there were loads of pictures of her - that has been taken by lots of her peers and put on facebook.

my point is that this kind of thing happens all the time.

If you are concerned have a word with him and suggest that he takes the pics of the girls off. Problem solved.

There are a couple of photos I'm in on Friends reunited. Class photos. I never gave permission. How does the law stands with photos on the www and permission?

I don't get it. Is the issue that he takes glamour shots or that he has displayed the shots on the same site as photos of his daughter?

I am sure his daughter has already directed her friends to the photos online. What teenager could resist having a look at herself in all her prom finery?

WWID? I would not do a thing. There is nothing to be done.

Am I being thick but how is taking photos of teenagers wearing prom dresses jeopardising his job?

What dilemma?

I suppose putting photos of his dd and her friends near pics of naked women is a bit distasteful. But really, throwing him out of his job seems rather extreme. Sounds more like a case for a sensible word 'I think some people have noticed and might object...'.

Btw, someone taking a photo doesn't need to ask for permission, although it's polite. Professional photographers who will have their pix published in the media do generally get people to sign model release forms, depending on the situation - news photographers may not. Big difference between a member of the public pursuing their hobby and someone doing their job and publishing photos for money (nowt wrong with it, of course, just different in terms of permissions).

hello Shiney old mate

did you mention me? Don't get on here much now. I bet Penguins were involved.

Sorry for hijack, chaps

If he is the husband of your friend then have you spoken to her about it? It might be that they haven't considered that other people might find the mixture of photos to be odd.

Why does the other friend not report it themselves if they feel it is serious? It seems a bit cowardly to be trying to get you to do it on their behalf.